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Old Sep 20, 2014, 03:44 AM
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I have a freind who thinks he is an expert on most things and he does like to lecture me. A real arrogant person when he behaves this way. The truth is he talks about subject he has very little if any experience in. I tell him I am just too old to be lectures by him, particularly in areas I am much more experienced in. The arrogant *** lectures me on how to raise my 15 year old daughter. This gets my goat. I then became very agitated over the whole thing. He blamed my assertive behavior on my problem. I then became more agitated. My hands began to shake allot. I felt overwhelmed, what to do?

Anyone get agitated like this over something minor? Where your hands shake and you feel overwhelmed? Your brain stops functioning?
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Old Sep 20, 2014, 07:07 AM
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Yep.. fairly often... it's that "fight or flight" type response... but instead of it being on only the real big things it's more so during any conflict and people want to argue their point...
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Old Sep 20, 2014, 09:22 AM
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I'd probably get the same way if someone with little knowledge on a subject I know more about kept lecturing me -- and then told me how to raise my kid. I'd have been arguing the whole time.

I get agitated over big things, small things, and sometimes it just comes out of the blue and I feel itchy inside (itchy's the only way I can describe it, I'm not leaving off the "b" ) and realize I'm getting agitated, but there's no apparent reason for it.

My hands don't shake but I get restless and bounce my legs a lot. I'll try to focus my atention on something else if I can but it's frequently futile. I generally have to drown things out in some way (music helps) to bring myself down. If I can't, I take a Xanax.

My boyfriend and I have had some real special fights over dumb **** because of my agitation (heated, heated arguments over World of Warcraft where I'm so frustrated I'm almost crying, for example). Idk how he puts up with me sometimes, but I'm lucky. Unless he tells me to take another dose of my meds. Then it's rage/crying time.
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Old Sep 20, 2014, 09:33 AM
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Punch him in the face. Or just stop hanging out with him. Crappy friend if you ask me.

I get so agitated sometimes that I want to kill people. Lamictal helps me tremendously in that area.
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Old Sep 20, 2014, 01:50 PM
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I too, get so agitated that I want to kill people. Fortunately, I have a huge fear of going to jail. And a couple of good meds.
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Old Sep 20, 2014, 01:56 PM
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When things get to me, it usually means I am going a bit to the manic side. I'd laugh at any ******* who told me how to raise my kids unless they had been through it and I ASKED their opinion. Do you need this person in your life?
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Old Sep 20, 2014, 06:07 PM
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I attempted to assert myself with him. I told him I was too old to be lectured and in particular about my daughter who I have been raising for 15 years. I then became very agitated with my hands shaking. He saw this and backed off.

My friend was never like this over the past several years that I have known him. He has always been there for me to talk to him. So we shall see what happens next.
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Old Sep 23, 2014, 10:45 PM
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The arrogant *** lectures me on how to raise my 15 year old daughter.

Anyone get agitated like this over something minor? Where your hands shake and you feel overwhelmed? Your brain stops functioning?
What you are describing is NOT minor.

When you are at your calmest, send the friend (IN WRITING!) something along the lines that you appreciate the friendship, but hope for a friendship sans lecturing, condescension, etc. etc. IN WRITING and in a nice form.

Don't call him arrogant - call him condescending instead. It would be easier to stomach that kind of criticism for him.
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Old Sep 23, 2014, 11:54 PM
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I'm agitated right now. Try being married and not having sex for 14 months.. I'm getting screwed. Not in a good way. I'm not a horrible person and my wife is playing the martyr.. also using excuses to get out of doing anything on her part.. even fooling marriage councelors.
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Old Sep 24, 2014, 02:30 AM
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Hi. Yes, i get agitated quite often. It can be really intense, hard to have control over.
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Old Sep 24, 2014, 02:52 AM
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Ever since that night when I asserted myself and became educated, he is backed off. If he had not been there for me in the past, I would have terminated my relationship with him. Recently he has been cordial. Maybe he is having problems? I found out that he has been trying to direct others too. Next time this happens, I will just leave.

I just do not understand why I became so agitated with my hands shaking and my mind going blank. I have never been quite like that. Is it a Bipolar thing?
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Old Sep 24, 2014, 03:38 AM
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I have been getting what i call "The rage" or the "Red Zone" for many years & have only just started to understand it slowly now myself...

I find that if i have too much to deal with, not thinking that i can handle it all & that its too much for me at once, tends to stress me out quite alot! I can get agitated over the littlest or the biggest things at any moment & then the switch starts flipping! If i feel like its a personal attack on my character, or im being judged by someone that has no clue, i will fly right off the handle with no control & feeling like i'll black out! My hands will start shaking & i feel like my body temperature starts to boil over, like my blood is boiling! I try to walk away from it as much as i can so i can avoid leaving any damages to anyone else or myself! I usually take my rage out by punching walls, the shower, punching door frames, throwing things, or self harm...if its at a person i will fire right up & get in their face if they get in mine or just scream right back & them & usually violently threaten them...afterwards i usually am in shock from what ive said or done! I do tend to get a state of mass euphoria from it & the good old adrenaline kicks in, or it goes the other way & i become very down & low & feel like i cant pick myself back up afterwards, it depends on the situation i guess & how you feel at the time! But i would be very agitated in your situation with things like that! This person has no right to have any kind of judgement or think they are superior to tell you how to deal with things, what your problems are or how to raise your own daughter!
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Old Sep 24, 2014, 12:11 PM
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Ever since that night when I asserted myself and became educated, he is backed off. If he had not been there for me in the past, I would have terminated my relationship with him. Recently he has been cordial. Maybe he is having problems? I found out that he has been trying to direct others too. Next time this happens, I will just leave.

I just do not understand why I became so agitated with my hands shaking and my mind going blank. I have never been quite like that. Is it a Bipolar thing?
One datapoint --> you cannot draw conclusions from it. Right now, by deciding that you would leave next time it happens, you are instilling anxiety into the "waiting period". If you tell him what you think there would be less anxiety --> less chance of agitation later. These are basically physiological responses and no, they are not necessarily a bipolar thing.
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Old Sep 25, 2014, 12:14 AM
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Agitation, stress and anger are definitely part of my mania. I have friends who are like your friend. I take little "breaks" from them, to avoid killing them.
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