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Dec 13, 2014 at 12:26 AM
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I'm at my husband's work party and it is depressing to me. I've never been one who enjoys dancing or large groups. Luckily there was a bar that got me through all of the small talk with people I don't know but now I don't know what to do. I sat at my table by myself for a while, left to go on a walk, and now I'm just sitting in another room hiding. My husband is having a lot of fun with his work friends and they want me to join them but its not something I enjoy. I looked through my friends that I could talk to who would have something supportive to say and didn't find any. Most don't know anything that goes on with me emotionally so its just a huge bag of worms to open with any of them. I guess this was just a bit of a rant so I could get it out instead of keeping it all inside right now.
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Dec 13, 2014 at 12:42 AM
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I know the feeling. I love the concept of parties---I just don't like having to go to one. I'm not a fan of crowds, and there is just too much overstimulation with all the conversations going and the noise and the bright lights.
I don't blame you for hiding out. If someone wants to know what's going on, you can always tell them you're tired. They don't have to know why. Maybe if your hubby notices that you've been gone long enough, he'll come looking for you and take you home. 
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Dec 13, 2014 at 01:08 AM
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Depends what mood I'm in and how much I drink. I can be a social butterfly or a fly on the wall
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Dec 13, 2014 at 03:39 AM
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I would play along. That's the sort of thing we sometimes have to do. I find alcohol helps, but over indulging is not a good idea.
If you can manage, I would call it a sacrifice you make for your husband and join them the best you can. If you can not, hope he understands... Sounds like he doesn't mind. |
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Dec 13, 2014 at 08:33 AM
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I have the same issue. I posted about it and got a lot of good replies. I got alot of good ideas. I don't know how to post a link from the thread, so maybe you can look it up from my page. "Bipolar and social anxiety" and "Holiday parties". I can only have 2 drinks due to med interactions. Made it thru the first one after rereading the replies just before I left for the party. Only 2 more to go...
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Dec 13, 2014 at 12:32 PM
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I too found alcohol helped in social circles especially when its full of, gulp ... New People!
I was definitely a borderline alcoholic wallflower though but since my diagnosis and new medication regime, alcohol doesn't seem like a safe option anymore without triggering a severe mood swing which can last for days as happened over Thanksgiving. I read the post/reply's by 'Wing' and a lot of it made sense. I think avoiding these social occasions can be a bad idea in itself because i for one tend to wallow in my own little pity parties and those are the worst types of party. Continue to reach out to these forums and reread some of the reply's that are out there. A lot of us are in the same boat ... maybe we should arrange a party just for us! Can't wait for January! __________________ Dx: Bipolar I Disorder, Depression, Anxiety Rx: 300mg Seroquel, 200mg Lamictal "I like to be alone, but I hate being lonely" |
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