[LostMommy227]

I'm so stressed. My daughter (13 months) is small. The doctors have been giving us a hard time ever since we moved here a month ago. Today I got a call from a social worker about it.

I played out the worst case scenarios and got myself so worked up that I've had a headache all day. My shoulders hurt from the tension. I finally got her on the phone and it was nothing. But why must they harass me about her being small. They've treated her like a pin cushion. She had to have blood drawn three different times because they ordered so many tests.

The funny thing is, I realized today it was probably because I took lamictal while I was pregnant. They kept monitoring her growth then, and all seemed well. But the stress of moving took a toll on her and she didn't gain any weight for 6 weeks, then we spent another two traveling and came down with the stomach flu (both she and I).

Now, I'm over it. I just want the doctors off our backs and now they keep making us come in. I'm over it.

What's going to happen is they will stress me out so badly I'll have to go back on meds which will be bad for her since I can't nurse her on them. And she won't touch milk or formula. We really will have a problem then.

They are sending me into an awful spirial that I'm trying so hard to avoid.

Please, just get off my back.

[jelly-bean]

I'm sorry you are having such a hard time with the doctors and social workers. I know they want to make sure she is okay but it sounds like they might be a bit invasive. Have you explained to them that you were taking lamictal during pregnancy?

[LostMommy227]

I just realized today that that might be part of the problem. I've tried to explain the stress of moving and traveling to visit folks. Plus the stomach bug and she gained almost a pound in just over two weeks and they still ordered all those dang tests.

[Justugh]

ok nice lady

the doctor and the SS ppl will be all over u until they know what is going on with the kiddies and even then they are going to look at u sideways

i am sorry but u can not scream at them this is done the second u do they will start filing paperwork to have her removed for her own best safety and run the test with out u in the picture

1 u need to get her a doctor this is her permit doctor for as long as u live in this area and she is under 18 .......make friends with the doctor talk to the doctor about all this stuff ...get the doctor on your side ....that doctor is now your baby main doctor they want test done clear it with that doctor .......1 set of records one set of eyes calling it

2 .....retain a lawyer and have him contact SS about the harassing nature of this .......he will send them a letter telling them to stop if they keep up the action they will be a suit filed on them

that is how u stop it using the crazy system they set up

[AstridLovelight]

I'm so sorry you and your daughter are going through all this. I know you must be so concerned about her.

I know its probably tough to find time for yourself when you have a 13-month old, but is there anything you can think of that would help manage and reduce your stress? Even if it's just for a few moments here and there throughout the day?

I'll keep you and your daughter in my thoughts

[LostMommy227]

We are military so we are stuck with the current doctor, who thinks I'm starving my daughter and made all kinds of off the wall suggestions I've never heard of being suggested for kids this young.

I know better than to scream at them. I think I've shook social services for now. At least I hope. I just wish they didn't make us come in all the time.

And I don't know how I'm going to manage her shots on Christmas eve. Poor girl will get 7 vaccinations at the same time. 7 different Times of being poked. They didn't do that at the last duty station.

[Justugh]

ma'am

it does not matter if army/navy/air force base or not
u are allowed to change the doctors if u feel this doctor is byist or not the best match for u

your daughter was not drafted or anything like they can not tell u were to take her ........and prez barry santos set it up so u can go to another doctor

[LostMommy227]

We would have to change insurance. Which isn't totally out of the question. I'm hoping after this first round of tests they get over themselves. We will see. Its just driving me crazy in the mean time.

[Turtlesoup]

Sorry you're having such a difficult time-my daughter was a preemie & she stayed near the bottom of the growth chart for most of her childhood-I know how crazy all the extra visits & obsessing can make you feel. I worked really hard at keeping a good relationship with my healthcare team (but that was hard let me tell you I just wanted to lose it with some of those people). I had to come up with all kinds of off the wall stuff to get her to eat-as a baby she would only take 1/2- 1 oz of formula at a time. My daughter is now in college & still very petite but perfectly healthy. Hang in there-since you have the military connection do you have a tdoc-that could help relieve some of the pressure & stress. Take care & keep posting to let us know how things are going.

[LostMommy227]

I don't want to see a psychiatrist because I really don't want the drugs. And I don't know how to go about finding a good psychologist but with a baby in tow it's hard to really talk anyhow. The only psychologist I've ever seen wasn't much help anyhow.

To add to the stress, today we got some test results back and it said her alanine was high. While I know it was probably due to the growth spurt or recent virus, it's hard not to obsess about it and let it control my every thought.

[Justugh]

i can help that

does your baby giggle smile and spit up when u play with her ...........then just think about that

your being a good mom and worrying over the kid as babies humans are pretty tough we can take some hits and still come back stronger ........and this stuff happening now is better then it happening later ..........because her cells are dividing at a faster rate then yours are so she can recover quicker and build up a immune system ........as a kid i tried to get sick so as a adult i do not get sick ........i can not rem the last time i had the flu or a cold