Do you have trouble making friends?

most of my friendships don't last at all.

so i quit trying

and when people tell me oh i do care i really do, and i'll be their till the end.. i know it's nothing but a lie- and when things start going wrong they turn away.

even my best friend laura.. i'm thinking of cutting her out of my life for good, because even though she's a great person, i certainly can't handle her attitude anymore. (all about herself)

I have a hard time making friends it seems outside of work. The people that I do things with I have known since grade school or was introduced to them via one of those few people. I would say I have about 3 good friends that I do stuff with on a regular basis now, everyone else is pretty well a person I am friendly with but not doing stuff with friends.

I used to have more friends from my childhood but they have all moved away and I stayed. Then when I am depressed it is even worse as I don't want to do anything with any of these people.

However on the flipside when I manic I am everyone's friend and want to go out and do stuff with everyone. That is where I am at these days.

Since I quit partying, I sort of lost all my friends. IMO, if you don't "conform" to anything in society, you become a weirdo, an outcast, or someone who thinks they're "better" than everyone else. I've been called all three.

Now, when I try to connect to people, I get the sense they don't want anything to do with me. But like Violet said, I don't trust people either so some of it is on me as well.

I'm good in a safe environment like a support group, but outside of that it's hard for me to open up and trust people. I'm hoping with more practice at groups I'll become confident to be myself with others. Also, there's not a lot of social situations I feel comfortable with ie. Going to bars or parties to meet people. I'm thinking of taking an art class or doing a soccer pick up league to find people with my same interests.

I have 4 close friends. 3 of them live out of state.

They are all married and I am single.

I have a few good friends, but most of them dont live near me, so we dont get together much. But just knowing that they are my friends makes me feel better. I have one great friend who lives in the same city as me, and I honestly dont know what I would have done without him. When I was a teenager I had a lot of friends, but as we got older we drifted apart, and lost touch. I feel ok about my limited social life, I mostly spend time with my family when I am not alone. I do feel lonely at times, but at the same time I am comfortable in my own little world. People exhaust me, not because I dislike people, but I am exhausted just by the energy it takes to really spend time with others. I have a few hobbies, and my son, and occationally I volunteer here and there. I dont work bec of BP, and I miss having colleagues, like I used to.