How's your social life?

I'm wondering if this goes along with bp2/BPD or I'm just a lazy *****? I literally only leave my house for food or cigarettes. In sweat pants. I can't remember the last time I've been out with friends because I either got drunk and did something stupid, or I don't want to get out of bed. My brother asks me if I wanted to do something today. What came out of my mouth was an inaudible pissy mess. He got scared and said "ok we'll talk later!". And that's usually how conversations end. I'm a mess. Particularly today. I wish I could change. Anyway, anyone else?

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I have appointments every day so I have to go out. As for social stuff, I have no life.

I don't have a social life.

I only get out of the house for appointments and work and picking up prescriptions and none of those things are social, except for the appointments I guess, but only one on one.

I have a couple of friends, one on line and one in my town but I still only talk to her online, I haven't actually gone to see her yet. I talk to my out of state friend almost every day though. She has bipolar too and we have the same favorite tv show and other things in common.

What social life? I leave the house for groceries and appointments. I'm trying to get back into the habit of walking again. All my relationships are online.

My social life sucks but that's OK. I have my family and I like hanging around with them. My old "friends" are party animals and I don't miss that scene a bit. I have a good friend but he lives 500 miles away. Even at my age, people still hustle too much to keep up with society. I want no part of it anymore. My Strat is my best friend.

I reckon I should make new friends. I have few, but I love them.

Anyways, I should move out of my comfort zone... I mean, I MUST.

My therapist is making me start going to a support group so that I do socialize. We'll see what happens. I live in the middle of nowhere so all of them are a long trip and the one I'm going to try first means killing about 5 hours after my therapy appointment but saves me from having to drive a long way for a separate group. I did a group for a while several years ago but the driving made it unreasonable to continue. I can't find anything that really meshes well with my therapy visits plus pdoc visits plus what I want in a group. But I am not allowed to not try so we'll see Monday what happens.

I have about a half dozen friends that I do things with, such as go fishing or sailing. I am content with that. I don't really have any friends at work, and my wife and I only go out every now and then. At 57, one would think that one would have dozens of friends, but it's just not that way. Lately, I've forced myself to try to be more friendly with the friends that I do have, and I've been more social as a result. But, I don't have any friends that I could call close. No one that I can share my innermost thoughts and feeling with, and certainly not anyone that I can discuss being bipolar with. I would not say that I am lonely, but I do feel alone quite a lot.

If it wasn't for having an understanding boyfriend I would hae no social life.

My support group is about the extent of it.

However, I DO get myself out of the house. It forces me to look after my self care (bathing and making an effort to put on decent clothes - otherwise I doubt I'd get out of my pjs). It also gets me some sunlight (I suffer terribly from SAD and my therapy light can only do so much).

It isn't hard to get out tho because I have a lot of supports that ensure I do. I've a few outpatient activities like walking and yoga and I have a therapist who comes to my house and somtimes takes me shopping or for coffee.

I have my husband and my kids. At work I have a few co-worker friends who I see at work. I have one friend with BP and we very occasionally do stuff together with our kids in tow. (Like go the museum.) I have my friends here at PC. Sometimes I see other family members, like my aunt or my step-mom.

For the most part, though, I get very paranoid about friends and people in general. It's easy for me to feel alienated or slighted and I have to work hard in my own mind to have friends. I become aloof or isolate.

Non existent outside of group which is why I go, it's nice to get out of the house and talk to people even though I don't really have any friends

My only contact with the outside world is doctor appointments. I have no friends, the only person I talk to daily is my wife, so PC is my only contact with others.

I have two best friends and a few other friends. They all kind of understand when I'm depressed that I don't want to see them, they don't take it personally. So lately, I've not bothered leaving the house except for food or cigs.

No friends. Just my beautiful wife and kids! I don't think I could make it without them in my life.

I don't have a social life. The only friend I have I only talk to online and haven't seen in 3 years.

no social life .... just me and the tv .... I work so see people there but not friends ...

What social life? I can be "social" in work-related settings, but personally I have a lot of acquaintances and I guess older friends that I sometimes keep in contact with through Facebook. I have no problem going out and doing things (traveling, road trips, day trips) on my own. However, most of the time I am a home-body when off work. There's been many a weekend when I don't leave the house and do as little as possible. Especially if I am depressed, I don't want to be around anyone. I was much more social when I was younger and went out with "friends".

Years ago I was so active and then was unemployed for a few years. I basically became a hermit crab that was depressed and lonely, and didn't even realize it. Then I finally got a job and realized that if I don't force myself to go out I will turn into that person I didn't like. I'm no social butterfly, but I will go out with mutual friends with my husband from time to time. I haven't had any close friends for years, I have trust issues.

I no longer work. That has pretty much killed my social life (I have moved too). Where i used to live pretty much my entire social life revolved around my coworkers

I like to be home and am homebodyish but sometimes my repressed inner party girl comes out and I WISH a had more of a that type of exciting social life.

But I can't stay up late and drink too much anyway. Talk about destabilizing.

My social life pretty much consists of working with people I consider friends, and smoking weed with one of my few "real" friends. I struggle with going out. I made it to a photography gallery opening last night. It was a show my friend did about mental illness. I had to leave quickly to avoid breaking down in public. Now that I'm out of school I rarely do anything with anyone but my wife and kids. Seems like people started drifting away after my diagnosis.

My social life is like a yo-yo, it depends largely on my mood, and can be quite full when I choose it to be.

Nobody holds it against me for going off the grid.





I'm quite introverted so besides going to work and being friendly with clients and co-workers, and doing group things with work people, I spend alot of time at home by my lonesome.


Then there's bf time, we don't see each other very often due to time and distance, but try to make time at least once a week, even if its midnight on a Saturday after his shift ends. And yes, I do this even when I don't feel like it and have the next morning, because a few weeks may pass before I see him again.


Then I have 3 sets of social friends... 2 of whom live in my road, I basically spend time with them when I feel like it, which is usually once a week, unless hypo sets in and I crave more interaction.


The 3rd group of friends is made up of a bunch of family members, brother, nieces, cousins etc. We meet up, BBQ, go to the movies and hike etc, like every 2 months or so, once again due to time and distance constraints.


I'm pretty close to all mentioned parties, I don't need to filter what I say to any single one of them.

But I wouldn't go as far as to call them my support structure.


Like right now, I'm in tears hyperventilating alone in my dark room. Instead of telling one of them what's up.


It is what it is

There seems to be a pattern of no social life on this website. Must be because mental illness isolates people. It's sad.

I went quite a few years without any friends. The 2 best friends I mentioned before, I met both of them in treatment. We have been friends for several years now. I can relate to them better because we all struggle with mental health issues, but our relationship with one another has never become toxic or unhealthy which happens often when you make friends who were in treatment with you (I know from experience).

I had plans to see one of my friends yesterday and I couldn't motivate myself enough to go. So I canceled. Depression sucks.

I was supposed to go out to see local band last night. I was going to go by myself, because in my small arts community, there would have been several people I know including the band.

I bought the tickets days ago thinking it would be good for me. Last night came and I couldn't seem to get in the shower. I stayed home.