[catlover21]

I have BP1 disorder and just got out of my 8th inpatient hospitalization to find out my husband of 4 years is tired of it. I guess I can't blame him but it is still really upsetting. Anyone else had a spouse leave for this reason and how did you handle it. He's been my main supporter.

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[DechanDawa]

I am so sorry for this. Just remember it could also be has his own problems too. My ex-spouse left and said one reason was I had too many problems, but I am sorry, it was weak of him because he had a lot of problems too, and I would never ever have left him for that reason. Notice how many people on this site are fully supported by their partners. Not all partners leave. I think I am finally getting over it. I had a long marriage and my ex was often supportive. Take special care of yourself. Now is the time to really firm up your own personal support network. It's hard, but you can do it. Hope you use PC. I love it here. Good luck.

[Pikku Myy]

Big hugs to you

I'm leaving my partner of 8 years because of no support in any of my conditions. It's gone from I'm faking it to mess with her, or she has it worse (even though she's like not got a DX or even a disorder).

All this didn't come to light till about 4 years ago, 4 years into our marriage.

With that kind of support from your husband, I'd make it mutual.

Good luck!

[GoldenSnitch]

Hugs. I'm sorry that you're going through this.

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[Unrigged64072835]

I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this.

[WibblyWobbly]

I'm so, so sorry. I wasn't married but my boyfriend of 12 years left me after my 5th hospitalization on Christmas Eve of last year. I got out of one hospital and went right back in the same day. Part of it was that he couldn't tolerate my symptoms and the other part was that he was afraid because he was triggering me. He chose to leave rather than examine his behavior and try to adapt to the situation.

I was so messed up after that that I wasn't able to process him leaving. I've only recently started feeling the loneliness and agitation with urges to SH. I'm in therapy twice a week because I really need the support. My t is amazing and gives me really helpful coping skills.

I'm still madly in love with my ex and I'm trying to woo him back. He's still in love with me but I'm not sure that he will be able to get over everything that happened and feel like he can go back into that situation, even if I show that in stable. (I'm not, but I hide it from him because I think he was traumatized by some of the things I did to myself. I know that might not be "right" but I don't care. I'm selfish.)

So basically, I cope with therapy, meds and the hope that we will work things out. Even if we don't, I need the hope right now.

I hope that you get the support that you need while you're going through this difficult time.

[Fuzzybear]

[ColeM1100]

I've been married 15 years and am finally coming to the realization that, he shouldn't be my whole life. What if something were to happen to him? Or if I decide to end my marriage
Where would that leave me emotionally.
I only mention this because if my husband were to leave I would be devastated but I would
have to carry on. I'm just doing tiny steps right now to be self sufficient but with that being said you could try counselling.
If he won't do it you could go to counselling yourself
BIG HUG

[ColeM1100]

If you feel up to it, let us know how your doing,

[Perry Gunite]

Originally Posted by catlover21

I have BP1 disorder and just got out of my 8th inpatient hospitalization to find out my husband of 4 years is tired of it. I guess I can't blame him but it is still really upsetting. Anyone else had a spouse leave for this reason and how did you handle it. He's been my main supporter.

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I am sorry to hear that this path has started for you. Ensure you have a good support system and above all, do your best to not lay blame or take blame. We all are who we are.
Ensure you talk to plenty of supporting people to help.

[catlover21]

Thanks for all the support. He left but came right back saying he wanted to go back to therapy with me and she suggested he gets his own T to learn coping skills and get support. He was actually open to it. For the time being he is really quiet and just watches TV when he's not working. I think he's frustrated but so am I! It's not like I enjoy mood shifts. Ugh... Thanks again! I will keep you posted.

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I hate to hear that. Sometimes it feels like no one will stay by your side.

Been there

You´re not alone.

Saw the last post. Best wishes!

[AutumnEmbers]

Positive thoughts and vibes to you as you work through this situation.

[hopeless2015]

Hugs and best wishes

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[RitzBitz89]

I'll be sending positive vibes your way. I'm so afraid that one day my husband will tell me that he can't do it. I'm afraid he will take the kids, and I won't be able to fight it with my mental health record. I'll just be alone. He really tries his best to be supportive, but one person can only take so much you know? I just hope I get myself together before I chase him away. I'll be keeping you in my thoughts.