50 and given up socially

It's amazing how effortlessly i've given up socially. I used to try so hard. I used to race around the city to singles events trying to find a partner. I used to attend support groups and community center events to try and make friends.

I'll be 50 this year and somewhere along the line i just gave up. I have no interest in finding a partner and very little interest in friends. I attended a speaker meeting this week and i just walked out after without a word to anyone. I know people were organizing to go out because one guy said, "Let's go for brewskies." Socializing seems to revolve around alcohol and i value sobriety.

I felt fine walking home by myself to my sweet little dog.

Has anyone else found the pressure to be social evaporates with age?

I'm thirty and most social events involve alcohol. I hate it as well. I thought it would lessen as I got older. I go out to eat with friends instead of bars.

I just turned 41 and I have zero interest in making or having friends or partners. I divorced 4 years ago and haven't dated. I am content being alone. Relationships r too hard to maintain and friendships r too. Im definitely an introvert by nature but i couldn't tell you if this a healthy lifestyle or not and everyone's different.

This is my fear if I get divorced...sorry I don't have anything helpful to say

My husband and I have thought of joining Alcoholics Anonymous, just for their sober social events. I'd get kicked out pretty fast as I'm not exactly likeable, but it might be an option for others. Something to think about at least.

I have more friends now than I've ever had before. I met them through NA, AA, IOP, aftercare, hospital psyche ward, art class, writer's group, Celebrate Recovery. I make it a point to keep showing up and instead of thinking I don't want to go bc I'll get nothing out of it, I say, I will go and see what I can add to it. My life has never been better now that I'm sober. Every day something wonderful happens. I include seemingly small things in the wonderfullness.

I'm at a time where I crave solitude.
But if I get a mixed state, I want to have friends.
I know part of this feeling to isolate is bipolar in nature. But I can be alone for days,and it's ok.

Im the exact same way, I can be alone for a long time and it doesnt bother me. I can go months without any social interaction outside of work. But then theres other times where i crave attention.

Yes, except my pdoc seems to think I should be trying harder to socialize. It's just me and my husband, and I find I like that. We go out together and that works for us. Alcohol isn't even figured into our lives anymore.

I'm in my 50s and I can't be bothered to fight through the superficiality of relationships anymore.

Wow I'm so glad I'm not the only one that feels this way! I've never known anyone else that was like me in that respect. Probably bc they r like me! Ha! I'm not sure if I'm jaded by bad experiences or if I'm just that introverted. Either way most people don't understand so it's nice to know I'm not alone��

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I'm 24 and I've given up.

I guess I've become complacent with having no friends (well, I technically have 1, but we rarely see each other). I used to want lots of friends, but after I was abused by 3 different sets of "friends", I've lost all desire to build new friendships. I just don't want to put up with it again.

I'm fine living by myself, and I foresee myself living solo in the future. It's one of those things I've gotten used to.

I don't even have friends at work. I work with a team of people in Europe and I only get to see them once a year. Plus, all the other people who I've gotten along with at work I've met at work-related events... and all those people work at an office location in North Carolina... while I work in Boston.

Like a lot of you guys, I don't drink... which is a "problem" because everyone else my age drinks. It's a social thing.

I have three or four good friends. That's all I need, really, although I do still feel lonely at times. I've never been one to have dozens of friends and be very social. When my kids were young, my wife and I hung out with the parents of our children's friends. That was fun. But that network disappeared when the kids grew up, and we've had a very quiet social life ever since.

Well, I am 51 and was never really big social butterfly. I was always a workaholic until everything hit the fan few years back. I totally withdrew from from everyone and everything. I do find piece in my solitude and knowing myself. However, I did find myself wanting to have a close friend, a lover to snuggle up with and share life with. It took a while to get to this place with myself.

Obviously it still bothers you a bit I say, it's ok and take your time to snuggle with your doggie.

I am female 53 and have a few good friends. They understand my social anxiety issues, all of them have some mental health issues, so we can relate to each other.
I take that back.
I have 2 new friends that I am getting closer to, eat lunch with them and a few guys at whole foods. This "lunch bunch" ate at a health food store for years until we got sick of the food and started about a year ago going to whole foods and eat off their hot food bar.
I still go to the health food store 1-2 times per week.
the 6-7 of us has dwindled down to 2-3 some times.
The 2 women I have been trying to get to know better and are cajun women, hard to be let in. We are getting closer and I like that.
I need my female friends, can't rely upon my husband to meet all of my needs.
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