[MusicLover82]

Let's start this off by saying my husband recently got a new job and he just came out of a period of unemployment for several months, which we were both traumatized by (tons of anxiety and depression and freak-outs over money). My world was turned upside down and I'm working on rebuilding my stability and feelings of security.

Found out today that hubby needed to talk to his boss about someone he's working with and under because he/she is extremely difficult to work with. He told me on the phone that he was going to tell his boss that he CAN'T work with this person. I freaked out (high anxiety) ALL day worrying/obsessing about him losing his job again due to being irrational.

After I get home from work, we talk about what was REALLY going on, and it turned out that this individual is accusing hubby of doing nothing and not working while at work. So, what he was really working on today was building a case to show his boss with all of the things he HAS been working on and also to talk about not working with the person who accused him of not working.

SIGH. (of relief and of frustration)

I don't need this ****. I'm so ready to feel SECURE in our jobs and income. I have my own business, so my income fluctuates and that causes me constant anxiety as well. It feels like my bipolar, OCD, and GAD are a struggle half the time, and then real-life stressors happen the other half of the time. Can everything just calm the **** down for a while so I can stay stable????

Diagnoses: Bipolar 2, OCD, GAD
Rx: Lithium, Trileptal, Latuda, Risperdal, Xanax XR and PRN

I wish I had advise. I don't know what to do because it sounds like a he said she said sort of thing. If it possible for hubby to find a new job or is this a high paying, couldn't be found again type of position? It sounds complicated. I'm terrible with advise, you really shouldn't take any, even if I give it. Perhaps you could talk this over with a lawyer even? Not sure. It does sound like a terrible day and my heart goes out to you. (((hugs))))

[BastetsMuse]

It sure does sound tough to be in your situation. I understand, because my husband was unemployed earlier this year and we used all of our savings to get through. I'm still not secure even though he is working again. I won't feel secure until we have savings built back up.

Your husband should document his work thoroughly and report to his superior what he's doing. Then he can make a case for being harassed by his coworker, which is a hostile work environment and against the law.

Yeah, that person your husband has to work with sounds horrible. I seriously hate those sorts of people. They don't want to work with you, and then they accuse you of not doing anything. It's like, "...seriously?"

I hate those sorts of bullsh*tters.

I hope your husband's boss understands. It sounds like your husband is doing the right thing by gathering evidence of his work, which is exactly what I would do in that situation.

Sorry I can't offer you any real advice, but you do have my sympathy.

[MusicLover82]

***UPDATE***

He talked with his boss today and he said it went really well. WHEW!!! I'm so relieved.

Now the challenge is for me to stay calm even in the midst of stress. I'm working on it. I'm about to start birth control to try to control my hormones because my anxiety and depression seem to be concentrated at certain times of the month. But I am a worrywart in general, so I'm working on that with my T. I'm so ready for life to calm down.

Thank you for your sympathy and concern.

[ComfortablyNumb5]

I hear your frustration with finances. We're living paycheck to paycheck here and it keeps me up every night. Glad the meeting went well for him!

And I noticed you said you want to go on birth control. Just letting you know that they can only offer a few options because you're on trileptal. My dr said I can only do the injections or a certain type of pill. I don't like that certain type of hormone so I declined. Just giving you a heads up.

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[gina_re]

Originally Posted by RxQueen875

I hear your frustration with finances. We're living paycheck to paycheck here and it keeps me up every night. Glad the meeting went well for him!

And I noticed you said you want to go on birth control. Just letting you know that they can only offer a few options because you're on trileptal. My dr said I can only do the injections or a certain type of pill. I don't like that certain type of hormone so I declined. Just giving you a heads up.

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Trileptal caused breakthrough bleeding get for me. The NuvaRing stopped all of that.