I'm not sure how I feel

Can anyone relate?
I should be angry because bf is picking at me for my weight again
I should be sad because my friend committed sui
I should be happy because I was not laid off last week
I'm numb
Can anyone relate to this?
I don't even know who to talk to about this?

You are likely in shock.

Have you expressed to your boyfriend how much his words hurt you? I don't mean to offend you, but his behavior is not very boyfriend like.

Also, I'm very sorry to hear that your friend committed suicide. You have my condolences. Try to stay positive and reminisce about all the good times you had together.

You are of course welcome to talk to us about your struggles, but you may want to consider talking to your loved ones as well as your friends, especially those who knew your friend.

Stay strong, my friend.

Hi,

Sometimes, we observe shifts in how we respond.
These shifts can take place for a variety of reasons.

We may feel we are suddenly over-reacting or have shifted into under-reacting.

We may suddenly find ourselves more neutral and simply observing.
This mode is taught by, encouraged through, some mindfulness/CBT/DBT strategies to get us out of patterns of over-reacting.

The "numb" feeling may be a healthy shift in perception and reaction.
It might also signify an underlying sense of emotional overwhelm, a defense mechanism, where we feel, even subconsciously, as though we just cannot allow everything to "register" on a level where we will have further emotional reactions just now, even if said reactions are normal and warranted.

Some may feel some level of dissociation, for various reasons.

Recently, some members have been writing about an emotional numbness they feel is brought on by meds.

If we are used to reacting, we can surely feel "odd" if/when we react less. The opposite is also true.

The sense of "numbness" could be occurring for various reasons.

I can relate. I experience times of not reacting, at least not immediately, and find myself just observing my emotions. I have been training myself to do this as a part of my mindfulness practice. I have also had this happen due to meds.

I have found it very helpful for me to not pass any judgment on my feelings or lack thereof. If I feel discomfort with my own level of emotional response, I start asking myself questions, probing around, seeking more self-understanding, and ultimately more self-compassion.

Why do you feel you are experiencing the "numbness" now?
If we ask ourselves clear questions, we often gain some clear insights into ourselves.


WC

I have felt this way, many times. I think it is a coping mechanism for me. In the long run, it is healthier for me to let these feelings come as they will. I used to feel I wasn't allowed to do that in my controlling marriage.

Therapy and being in a healthy relationship has largely resolved that issue for me. DBT further helped me regulate my emotional response so I can feel and express my emotions in a healthy way.

For a long time, things would happen and I didn't even know how I was feeling. Therapy helped me identify emotions. Thinking of you.

Beware The Should.
Yes, I can relate. Often because:
Well described. This happens a lot for me.
Do you have any theories, Standup2me? Could it be something like this? I often find it's most likely when things are hitting from multiple directions.
Sending good thoughts.