[99fairies]

How is your marriage? Fighting all the time? Holding resentment.? Or happy with each other and your relationship?

[raspberrytorte]

Very happy with each other and our relationship.

[Moreta]

Happy with each other and our relationship.

We've been married 30 years. We've gone through phases where our communication wasn't strong, but we worked through that. I'd say our marriage is stronger and calmer than it's ever been.

[99fairies]

You can give more detail. Something that works in your marriage or dose not work.

[LacunaCoiler]

Happy with her and the relationship. I think the key is communication and doing things with each other. We cook together, take car rides together, go shopping together, and do a lot of different stuff with each other.

Hmm. For many years, I think our biggest problem was we spent a lot of time protecting each other from ourselves, so we weren't always completely open with each other about how we were doing. We spent a lot of time taking responsibility for the other person's well-being and happiness. What we had to learn is that as well meaning as that was, it created a lack of open communication between us and we put a lot of guilt on ourselves because we felt responsible for making each other happy. That's a fruitless endeavor. Every individual has to be responsible for themselves, and we have to respect each other enough to be open and honest about our own struggles and problems.

Once we started really talking honestly to each other about what was going on within ourselves, we really found out we are both much stronger than we gave each other credit for. We stopped trying to "fix" each other, and started "fixing" ourselves individually. As stronger individuals, we became a stronger couple.

Our relationship is now very honest. It is a relationship without fear -- without fear of being too much for the other person. On the contrary, we now have complete faith that as a couple we can handle whatever crap the world throws at us, and the world frequently throws crap our way. We are truly supportive of each other in our individual struggles now rather than just trying to "fix" the other or trying to hide reality from the other.

I am definitely happy in my relationship, with The Dragon who I met here.

[UpDownAround]

Things are not great. We still love each other and co-parent well, but the romance is gone and she isn't interested in trying to bring it back. She blames me for denial of dx that lead to me having a lot of swings that weren't treated properly, hiding drinking and lying about it. I did those things. I wish she would either forgive me and try to reignite the spark or kick me to the curb. This half measure really gets to me at times. Through most of the daily routine it's okay, but when we head to our separate rooms at night I don't think happy thoughts.

[Guiness187055]

After 20 years of marriage we just exist together. The magic is gone. My bipolar has caused to much damage to our relationship throughout the years.

[richeyd80]

We have had our ups and downs, but I could not imagine not having my wife by my side. I have but our marriage through alot , but she has never left my side through all of it. Plus, she loves sports almost as much as I do.

[99fairies]

My husband is my rock. We are very close and I love it that way. He is an amazing person.

[bioChE]

15 years this Thanksgiving. Marriage is great, we have good communication and a disagreement is incredibly rare. Four great kids sitting in the living room with me as I️ type this.

[~Christina]

I have a great marriage, I’m lucky.

[BipolaRNurse]

I was blessed to have a wonderful husband who loved me unconditionally for 36 years. I look back and wonder how on earth he put up with me, but for him it was never about that, he was just so full of love for me. I miss him terribly and after 16 months with him gone I still can't imagine ever wanting a new relationship. Actually, I do want one with a hot 35-year-old "friend with benefits", but that's all. I don't think I will ever marry again...why buy hamburger when you've had filet mignon?

[BastetsMuse]

Originally Posted by 99fairies

How is your marriage? Fighting all the time? Holding resentment.? Or happy with each other and your relationship?

We're really lucky - I'm really lucky. My husband loves me just the way I am and doesn't guilt trip me about the bipolar.

We live a pretty quiet life.

[Aliceiw]

My relationship is stable, we fight less than most married couples and when we do it is usually very civilized. When I wasn't medicated this was not the case and we would fight sometimes a lot and sometimes extreme (yelling, slamming doors, crying kind of fights). We are quite settled now and I'm thankful for the help of medication. Even when I do have symptoms that interfere with our relationship, he tells me to talk to my doc and make an appointment with my therapist, I do it, and all is usually well within a month or less. He is more understanding and supportive if he knows I'm trying to be better and do better. I take responsibility for my mental health and my actions, I apologize and try to understand his feelings, and he doesn't judge me. We really do compliment each other. We are best friends and I can tell him anything. He is my rock, and I adore him.