[Fuzzybear]

Aside from medication, what strategies do you have to deal (safely) with anger?

(Bubble baths etc aren’t an option and I don’t like gyms )

[pirilin]

Water plants. Also the lawn is good.

[Unrigged64072835]

I write out all the anger on paper--swear words, exclamation points, all of it--until I'm exhausted. Then I shred the paper. If I had a wood-burning fireplace I'd burn it.

I have to lower my expectations to avoid getting upset in the first place.

It helps a lot to decide not to get upset in advance.

If someone is yelling over the phone, I turn them down so I can barely hear them.

I look at the person that is the upset as a child. What does it matter whatever they are saying or doing? It doesn’t really.

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by key tones

I have to lower my expectations to avoid getting upset in the first place.

It helps a lot to decide not to get upset in advance.

If someone is yelling over the phone, I turn them down so I can barely hear them.

I look at the person that is the upset as a child. What does it matter whatever they are saying or doing? It doesn’t really.

I’ve tried something like this

If the “child” is almost the whole of the medical system.. and they infantilise their “patients”

And don’t give us the “right” to “choose”

(Off topic....no reply needed to my grrrrr)

[Guiness187055]

I fall down an internet hole.

[Row Jimmy]

There's a strategy called "grounding" that has us focus on either our feet or our hands (if we're touching something like a steering wheel). The plan is to draw a breath and begin to focus on those touch points. As we do, we envision our anger channelling out of our body through those areas. Or, in another way, it helps us focus on the present moment and let the anger simply flutter away.

I turn on my angry music and dance it out or if I'm not home I sing it out in the van.

Before I was medicated, I had terrible anger. I would throw things, punch things, kick thinks, tear things (if it was paper or cardboard), and smash things. It helped alleviate some of my anger, although I was smashing laptops and kicking dents in fridge doors. However, if I had a heavy weight bag, I think punching and kicking that would've helped loads. But if I needed to tear something, I should have tore up my junk mail instead of my homework lol

But yeah, let it out! Don't hold it in! Just find healthy ways to let things out if you're going to be violent (cos I was always a violent one lol). Hell, kick a brick wall or concrete bench or whatever. Or slam your fist on a table. Just don't scare the hell out of your SO if you have one. lol.

[~Christina]

I break a few ugly plates I buy at a thrift store to smash I always have a few for that reason hanging around... Its a huge help for me when I am so angry I cant manage at all..

I especially like the ugly Christmas plates that are gawd awful looking.

Hope you feel better soon hun

[wiretwister]

like " keytones " and "sad girl" ... I try my best to avoid triggers ... ( the news ) esp ... I bury myself in my "music " ... that obsession has saved me several dozen times ( have head phones on now at 10 .. ) .. hope you find a way ... anger is my "thing" ... if I was not afraid of killing someone I would chuck all this med crap and just let the me out ... Tigger ..

[Wild Coyote]

When I get overwhelmingly angry... which is rare, but does occur... I sometimes go into a room, shut the door and swear non-stop. Sometimes, I take a walk to cool off.

Once I have blown off steam, I usually try to find out more about the anger, as in: what preceding emotion triggered it? With anger, an emotion usually precedes it. Something like hurt, disappointment, fear, etc.


WC

I really, really like pronouncing someone an A-hole when they can’t hear it. But it has to be said out loud, even if under my breath (the usual method).

I find that satisfying

[Fuzzybear]

Thanks everyone for the replies