[ruesia]

This may be a personal question, but does anyone suffer from increased libido during periods of mania? It has been a problem for me, when I’m single or in a relationship. I take risks when I’m single and when I’m in a relationship, I get transfixed on the subject and take rejection poorly. I don’t want to cheat or anything like that, but I feel unwanted. And of course accused of being too needy. My ex told me it was unattractive when I was so aggressive about wanting to have sex and in all honesty it seems like that is the general consensus for most of the relationships I’ve been in.

Sorry to get so personal, but it’s something that crops up every manic episode and looking back I realize it’s been a pretty significant source of conflict.

I get in this cycle of being hyper sexual then feeling rejected and plunging myself in to feeling worthless. At least now I’m beginning to identify and acknowledge this and that has helped but dang, being turned down still stings.

[Miss Laura]

Yes! Yes! Yes!

Hypersexual is what I get. I'm not in a relationship but I'm horny as and am seeking out sex from unknown and not great sources. I start by just thinking about it, then it leads to me seeking men, then a great deal of guilt.

[cashart10]

Yes. When I was young, I slept around. A lot. And cheated on people. I was pretty terrible in that department. But, that changed when I met my husband 15 years ago. The first month I was dating my husband, I was also dating a woman but I think that was more of a crossroads decision than anything else. Even though it was still early in our relationship, it hurt my husband quite a bit when I told him about it. He forgave me though and now it’s inconsequential because nothing like that has/will ever happen again.

These days, when I am manic and therefore hyper-sexual, I (tmi I know) masturbate. I am embarrassed by it so I don’t approach my husband. I think it has to do with shame from a childhood trauma. He really has no idea and would probably be elated if I did come onto him often instead of the other way around.

[ruesia]

Originally Posted by Miss Laura

Yes! Yes! Yes!

Hypersexual is what I get. I'm not in a relationship but I'm horny as and am seeking out sex from unknown and not great sources. I start by just thinking about it, then it leads to me seeking men, then a great deal of guilt.

Yeah the guilt is sobering..for a short while. I would tell myself “Okay that’s enough...” and before I knew it I would be back out looking. It was awful.

Now I feel caged. My beau is giving me excuses to put off anything remotely intimate. I feel so undesirable. And it makes me think about how easily I could find something before. I guess I should be thankful I am in something committed because it is keeping me away from that scene (which is so dangerous!) but it is also making me feel incredibly frustrated.

Of course this issue is compounded when I am in lows of depression and don’t want to even be touched.

At least I know it isn’t just me. But darned if I can’t snap myself out of it when I’m in this rut. It’s like all I think about when we’re together. And the more he tells me no, not now, I’m tired, give it a few days, etc. the more I obsess over it.

[ruesia]

Originally Posted by cashart10

Yes. When I was young, I slept around. A lot. And cheated on people. I was pretty terrible in that department. But, that changed when I met my husband 15 years ago. The first month I was dating my husband, I was also dating a woman but I think that was more of a crossroads decision than anything else. Even though it was still early in our relationship, it hurt my husband quite a bit when I told him about it. He forgave me though and now it’s inconsequential because nothing like that has/will ever happen again.

These days, when I am manic and therefore hyper-sexual, I (tmi I know) masturbate. I am embarrassed by it so I don’t approach my husband. I think it has to do with shame from a childhood trauma. He really has no idea and would probably be elated if I did come onto him often instead of the other way around.

I’m glad you were able to find some stability with your husband partner wise. I really am thankful it has taken me off the path of random hookups. I used to be shy about it. Not say anything. But I’d be so dang irritable and the poor man wouldn’t know why. At least now I have become comfortable to open up with whom ever I’m with but of course when they give me “pity sex” it’s not as gratifying.

For me it’s the being wanted part. The intimacy. That’s the motivation for me. The satisfaction. And maybe tmi but for me it’s not even about me, it’s about them being satisfied. That is honestly what I’m looking to achieve. And so going solo or getting pitied seems to only amplify issues!

Quite the pickle I find myself in during this manic sets. But at least I know I’m not alone. For the longest time I just got labeled some nasty names for women. But I’ve come to accept this part of myself, or am trying to more and more.

[msnyder11]

That doesn't sound like a bad thing at all.

[Guiness187055]

yup.............

[FriendlyJoe]

Me and my bipolar best friend also have this increased sex drive. We want it 24/7 even after having sex.

[SorryShaped]

I'm hypersexual nearly always, even when in depression part of cycling. I've been crying, then had sex, and returned to the crying I was doing before. When manic, I've had it off dozens of times in a weekend, with or without a woman.

[BipolaRNurse]

Ohhh, yeah. I'm widowed and have not yet found a desire to date, so I have to take care of these things myself. Not anywhere near as good as with a partner, but it's a lot better than nothing. Sometimes that old Catholic guilt raises its ugly head, but I figure that God made us to experience sexual pleasure and I'm not out cruising the bars and banging every guy I meet, so what's wrong with it?

[AspiringAuthor]

Originally Posted by ruesia

And the more he tells me no, not now, I’m tired, give it a few days, etc. the more I obsess over it.

Just leave him and find a new man. Find somebody with an energetic sex drive for whom your phasic hypersexuality will be a gift to savor. With this man, if you were to stay with him long term, it will only get worse when he ages. He is not a good match for you - drop him without hard feelings now.

[not4me256]

I feel hypersexual more than not I'm afraid. I want it so bad. I could even masterbate then want it again. I like most the woman with woman thing is that (tmi)? I'm not trying to be offensive to anyone. I just find it hard when in these episodes. What do others think? My other half doesn't know that but doesn't really care about me anyways and gets irritated when I ask to have sex to begin with. It really gets irritating to me.

[MickeyCheeky]

I'm so sorry your partner is treating you this way, @not4me256! He's certainly not supportive AT ALL which must make your sex drive even MORE difficult! I know that may be a little bit too much to ask, but are you sure he's the right partner for you? How are things going with him in other parts of your relationship? Is he kind? Is he treating you well! Try to ask yourself that! You deserve better! Either way, I hope things will get better soon for you! Thank you ALL so much for sharing your experiences! It must be VERY difficult to deal with ALL of this! I hope your partners are at least trying to be supportive! I wish you ALL peace and serenity! I hope things will get better for ALL of you! Sending many safe, warm hugs to ALL OF YOU, ANYONE OF YOU, ALL OF YOU WISE AND WONDERFUL PEOPLE, RUESIA, NOT4ME256, EVERYBODY AND EVERYONE OF YOU!

[not4me256]

Should I just masterbate more or find more woman on woman action? I don't know what to do.

[not4me256]

Anyone there?

[luvyrself]

It’s a constant choice—be drugged possibly into insensibility or find a way to deal with this. I have accomplished so so much this month being hypo, but I mite have to do a med change and give up the hypo state for a possibly even less livable condition. I need to fine tune with prns. Exercising a lot helps but not enough and I have rage and that itch that is impossible to scratch. Know how my cat feels when she has fleas—maybe she’s hypo too!!! No wonder we get along LOL

[AspiringAuthor]

Originally Posted by not4me256

Should I just masterbate more or find more woman on woman action? I don't know what to do.

Either way or both would be fine, @Not4Me

[not4me256]

I like the idea of both of them. 😁

[Moose72]

This last mania a few months ago, I had this energy! A sexual energy and did things with my partner that I normally wouldnt dare to try. Heck- ! I still would like to do those things again!

[AspiringAuthor]

Originally Posted by Moose72

This last mania a few months ago, I had this energy! A sexual energy and did things with my partner that I normally wouldnt dare to try. Heck- ! I still would like to do those things again!

Good for you!

[not4me256]

Is there any suggestions out there. I am really really hypersexual and the thing is I like it but I really really want sex right now. What should I do?

[Ezrigirl]

Originally Posted by not4me256

Should I just masterbate more or find more woman on woman action? I don't know what to do.

As a lesbian, I can really something about this, and thoughts are flying in my brain right now. I was just looking at the ceiling to come up with something to say. And I am just going to leave it at that.

[~Christina]

Self pleasure seems like the best choice at the moment

[Ezrigirl]

Originally Posted by Miss Laura

Yes! Yes! Yes!

Hypersexual is what I get. I'm not in a relationship but I'm horny as and am seeking out sex from unknown and not great sources. I start by just thinking about it, then it leads to me seeking men, then a great deal of guilt.

@Miss Laura

If you were hypersexual, would you not be seeking men and woman at the same time?

[Cornucopia]

My passion is reading, mostly science. It gives md great pleasure reading theories. So when hypomanic I tend to go really deep into whatever subject I’m reading. Until it gets unhealthy and I’m stuck in a rabbit hole.

My H and I jokes about that, saying that it is a good thing because we are not sure I would be able to be faithful all these year if not

I do have lower libido when depressed, and a bit more when hypo. But not as much.
Same with shopping, I don’t like that. I do change hobbies though.

I have the same traits, they are just a bit different. I’m a bit weird even in my stable state of mind
Normal, but then again not. Like most people