Looked at FIRST apartment since divorce- 5 years ago!

My 3 kids and I have lived with my mom and her husband since May 2003 when I separated (and then divorced) my ex. I looked at a really cool duplex today that seems perfect for us to start out in. The landlord lives in the other half. The inside is so nice and clean and he seemed really nice. My friend came with me to lend support. So he's going to call me in a few days. We'll see what happens. I'm kind of a wreck. It would be a lot to do - move and go back to school with no help from anyone really. But for my sanity, I think its the best. I've spent the last two years dealing with being bipolar and getting my meds (and emotional self) where they need to be, paying off some bills, planning my nursing carreer... have a steady boyfriend. Kids are doing well in school. Is this too much to ask? I'm afraid we'll be turned down. Its a dream my kids have been begging for for years. I need this for personal growth if anything, yK? I have never gotten or had an apartment by myself- EXCEPT when I lived in a commune for less than a year while going to school when I was 21. I managed to go to school, go to a job, and live in my own place - all using the public bus! At least I have a car now. I told my daughter today about it but that it wasn't written in stone- no papers were signed yet. I am just so NERVOUS!! I'm afraid my credit is horrible, or something... or who knows. (I know my credit isn't too great... maybe I should've brought my cute kids and he could've seen how excited they were!?) I have friends who MIGHT cosign for me.... UGH! My head is spinning at the THOUGHT of living in not only my OWN place but in a cool place like this.

WOW! I totally get this and am soooooooo very excited for you! I hope this works out!!!! Best!!!! Kiya

congratulations in taking this next step in your life! I'm proud of you. Whether or not you get this apartment you took the step.

My psychologist has this thing he tells me every week and seeing you with the "what ifs" I hope this will help you: Feelings are Not Facts The landlord did not say no. You can still be getting that apartment.

perky

Well I did try calling today again and again, no answer. *sigh*

<font color="purple"> Hang in there.

Two house hunt stories when I looked for my own place after my husband left me in January 07: The first apt I looked at was a hundred year old house attached to the back of an old country store. v e r y narrow staircase to second floor. Don't know how the bedroom furntiture ever would have gotten up there! Attached to the house was the "laundry room" more like a shed barely holding on. It seems that the hot water heater in the "Laundry room" was the hot water heater for my apartment, two other apartments, and the country store and it was hooked up to MY utilities! ! ! ! I've seen 100year old houses before but this one was sad. Rickety porch. Door knob that didn't lock. And I wasnt' going to pay for everybody's hot water.

So I went on to house search number two. It was a basement apartment. Windows across two walls. It let in so much light! The apartment had a full bath. Nice. The large room was to be living room and bedroom and dining room. What would have been a small bedroom was the kitchen. The sink was a very small bar sink. A full size refrigerator. But I didn't see a stove. No problem I said if I had to buy one, but get this: no stove hookup. Not gas. Not electric. Nada. He said all his previous tentants all cooked in the microwave. Tempting, but if I need chocolate brownies I want an oven I can cook them in! A nice studion type apartment but I gotta have a stove. I thought all apartments had stoves or stove hookups.

I'm hoping for the best for you and the kids.

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Well, he called!

He wanted to know about the place I live- was it an apartment or house. I said a house and that I live with family. He said "Well then I don't suppose they'd give me any dirt". "...unless you want to put him on..." Har har- as if! So that was all. He didn't say he'd call back in a bit or anything. I'm afraid he'll call when I'm out! At least he did call. Asked if I'm still interested, remembered that he'd showed it to me "about a week ago".