[romanjames2004]

Sooo....Another post.

I am at home now and recentley was invited to a one year reunion like event for my school. However when I go there everyone was looking at me and acting as if I was a convicted fellon or someone who was just at a funeral.

One of my friends came up to me and asked me, "So how are you coping with everything?" I was like, "What do you mean?" and she was like, "Well, you know the whole thing with you da leaving, and your dark past and all that stuff?". I was like "what stuff?!?" and she plainly told me my whole lifestory along wiht all the dark secrets that I told my thereapist. She then reminded me that it was all the information I posted on Facebook.com. I told her I never posted anything on that site that would involve so much personal information and she then told me that someone did.

I found out that this guy, Joe, who hated me in highschool school had just so happened to work at my therapists office. I guess he went through my T's files and saw my name and decided to post all this information about me on the site. I got soooo mad. Every one knew about everything about me. Wheather it be alcohol to sexlife. He basicley outed me which really sucked. What happend in highschool was this:

I had alot of friends and everyone liked me. I however, was not one to mess with, I was always able to scheem and manipulate if ineeded to. I was on this site showing people before and after pictures of when i was alot hevier and now that I was a little more fit and he found the picture and posted it all around the school. Then I decided to do other stuff to get back at him. Lets just say I was able to defend my self properly. well he must be trying to get back at me. he was alwasy a bully to people.

I told my thereapist what had happend and I didnt want him to press charges but to atleast fire him. So my therapist decided to fire him.

I just wanted to tell you guys to be carfull about who can access your information becasue my troubled and really dark past is out there.

Now every one at my highschool and thier families know about my homelife, mom and sisters, and y horrid past. (drinking, drugs, levaing for a few days and missing school, hustleing, they found out that I have a brother from my dad's previous affair, etc...) I really want to seek vengesnce for what happend, but that would turn me into my old scheeming self and I really don't want to go that way.

I feel that I just had to share it becasue i havn't really told anyone about what happend except for my T. Just remember to be careful. Im just currentley soo stressed out.

thanks'

Roman James

[cantstopcrying]

That is so unfair and unethical!! What made you decide not to press charges? To me that would be--not really getting even, but justice. I am so sorry you had to go through that. I suppose the good thing is now you can be absolutely you...no need to hide anything or feel ashamed. Also know this...we all do stuff we aren't exactly proud of....the key to maturity is to learn from the mistakes, learn from the wrong and bad that we do so we don't do them again. Regarding the stuff about your dad---that's his embarassment, try not to take it on yourself. You did nothing wrong, nothing to be ashamed of. Remember, also, that you are one year out of graduation. Check back at your 10 year reunion, or 20 year reunion and see just how many people bring it up. Hopefully by then they will all have realized that we all have pasts. It is called a past for a reason--it's done, it's over and it is where it belongs. You sound like a young man who has strength and determination to overcome quite a lot...I believe you will be able to overcome this hurtful, vengful, nasty act of this individual. You are important! Don't let them make you feel less than that!

[phlashback]

I am sorry that your information was leaked. I know that this is a serious offence, with absolutly no reasonable excuse possible. Why did you not want to file / press charges?

I agree that you would not be getting even, as this is not a simple tit for tat issue. It is about blatent disregard for law, and an abuse of power! Like what was said earlier is a matter of justice.

I work in healthcare (information technology), and am responsible for HIPPA compliance. Under no circumstances is releasing privilaged information acceptable. In fact I am surprised that your T. just fired him, and did not report it to the authorities. His office could still be held acountable for the unauthorized release.

There was an issue that occured in my area, in which nursing staff accessed a record that they were not in the direct patient care need to know group. The record was of a respected community leader. The long story short the entier office staff was fired, as well a one physician. There were also fines for each unauthorized access. This was just for improper viewing of information, and not a release of information. What happend to you was unauthorized release of the worst kind, as even unintentional release is serious.

Knowing some of the things that I have told my T. I don't know how I would react. I mean that office is supposed to be a safe place for you to discuss things that you might not otherwise speak about. It saddens me, and upsets me to no end.

You ultimatly have to do what is right for you, and it is your choice to let it slide.

I do know that with time people forget many things. My 10 year reunion was last fall, and the people I met there were not the people I knew in highschool.

[Michah]

Hey there, very, very nasty indeed. I will reiterate........this person should have a criminal conviction. He is in gross violation of the law. This information regarding you was not his to divulge. As an employee of a health care giver, he should Know that release of this information is inflammatory, negligent, defamatory and plain malicious. I also worked in a hospital and was privvy to very sensitive, confidential information even with people who were patients that I knew! I am absolutely appalled at his criminality.

I worry that he is let go that he will be employed again in the same field at commit the same offence. He needs to be stopped.

I wonder, if this person released details of you having a stigmatised terminal disease that you were only prepared to have a select few people privvy to, would you not persue this to the nth degree? Mental illness and difficult times are hard enough without little toads like this.

Protect yourself and be proud!! I would like to see him walk a day in your shoes and live with what you feel. We have to protect ourselves.

Sorry, just hate b@#$tards.

[romanjames2004]

Thank's its nice to be reminded stuff like that. I didn't want to press charges becasue I want to kill with kindness becasue thats hat this guy is looking for. I think he really wants me to feel upset and gothrough the trouble of pressing charges. Also his father is a successful lawer. However, I am putting an add in the local news paper. this shoudl sort of ruin the reputaion that he holds. I know its a little harsh but it is the only way I can stop him once and for all. Its just when stuf flike this happens to me I don;t really think the right way. I get extrmemley sad and lonely and then I go out on a vengful hunt. But I am thinking of seeing a different T anyway for insurance and finacial reasons.

Thanks for all your support,

Roman

[Berries]

I do not think you really want to seek vengeance. That is your illness talking! I don't think you really want to defend yourself this way.
I totally agree with everyone else. I think you should defend yourself by seeking "justice"--bring criminal charges against him. He broke the law. He violated you. He hurt you. He needs to be accountable! But you also need to keep your integrity. Don't let him or your illness dictate your behavior. I believe you will be sorry in the end if you take out an add in the newspaper instead of filing charges. You will be able to hold your head even higher at your next reunion for seeking justice and not vengeance.

[romanjames2004]

Thanks. I just alwasy get soo filled with rage whenI think about everything that happend. i just wanated to get rid the whole problem. But Thanks for your support. im just one of those people who have to just calm down and relax.

Originally Posted by Lbien6

I do not think you really want to seek vengeance. That is your illness talking! I don't think you really want to defend yourself this way.
I totally agree with everyone else. I think you should defend yourself by seeking "justice"--bring criminal charges against him. He broke the law. He violated you. He hurt you. He needs to be accountable! But you also need to keep your integrity. Don't let him or your illness dictate your behavior. I believe you will be sorry in the end if you take out an add in the newspaper instead of filing charges. You will be able to hold your head even higher at your next reunion for seeking justice and not vengeance.

[phlashback]

Please use the legal system, and not revenge. I agree that that is the illness talking (been there, done that). This is even more important given that this scum (pardon me but that is the way is see him) has strong legal counsel. You could be opening up a whole can of worms, that might come back at you.. remember that in the eyes of the law 2 wrongs do not make a right.

Calming down and relaxing is a good thing to do, as my doc says cooler heads prevail. Remember that a lot of us here know how you feel, and we do care, and are here for you.

[madisgram]

why not press charges?!!!?????!!!! this guy deserves to learn that doing this sort of thing is illegal and against the law. i know you are stressed out but this is a situation that you can hold someone accountable that harmed you in the worse sort of way.
just my opinion but think about it...k?