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Nov 18, 2009, 11:03 PM
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Hi, Billi here.
 I was talking to my husband the other night and we both came to know for ourselves that we believe that the label "borderline personality disorder" just depresses me.  It doesn't help me. Yes, I think it's good for such a group of symptoms to be realized and labeled. Yes. But I looked up "borderline" in my Websters and it suggested that "borderline" might mean "not quite average" or "close to indecent". So, for me, it felt like bpd was a label implying that I have an "indecent" "not quite average" personality. I even wonder if the first doctor who made this label was feeling condescending toward the first patient with this disorder. For me, a label like "condition" or "syndrome" or "mind-set", suggesting an illness, rather than a "personality" problem might work better for me. and maybe another word instead of "borderline". Just my thoughts. I don't like feeling "indecent" or "below average". What do you think? Billi
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Nov 18, 2009, 11:16 PM
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I am with you...find someone creative to come up with the labels and leave the healing to the pdocs. Bipolar...sounds like i can't to live at the north pole or the south pole!
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Nov 18, 2009, 11:19 PM
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LOL
Yeah, like I said, who did this to us? "Borderline"? Ugh. B.
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Nov 19, 2009, 05:06 AM
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I agree Billi
I saw that you read my thread on labelling, I totally agree with you .... my T says every single person has traits of differing things such as histrionic, narcissistic etc etc etc, it's just when on particular issue for want of a better word invades more commonly, but I totally agree with the article you read being harsh .... is it any wonder MH has stigma? Hugs, Ophelia xxx 
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Nov 19, 2009, 10:54 AM
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Hi Billie,
I have read that the Psychological Assoc. (  ) is suppose to change the label. I was so frightened was I heard I was Dx as BPD. I thought I was on the edge btw kind of average, & psycho!What did I know??? Thank Goodness I studied up on it & now know differently!!  Please come to our BPD chat groups Billi. Would love to hear you ideas & opinions! Mon. morn. 11AM (est) & Tues. night 7PM (est) Love to meet You! Holmes |
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Nov 20, 2009, 04:19 PM
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Words and their meanings (and extended meanings) are very important to me. I can relate when you say that the terminology depresses you. It depresses me as well.
Will it really make you feel any better about being diagnosed with BPD?
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Nov 20, 2009, 09:59 PM
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It was originally named "borderline" to indicate a the borderline between psychosis and neuroses-- because of the fragmented personality.
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Nov 23, 2009, 11:48 AM
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Yeah, someone said it meant that, pink.
But I still don't like it and i wish they would change it. Thank you everyone. B.
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Nov 24, 2009, 12:03 AM
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I read ad heard from my doc that they name " Borderline" is going to be chsngened in the coming years to something along the lines of " Emotion regulation/dyregulation disorder" or Emotion intensity disorder" . Alot of sites already use those names instead of borderline. Emotional Regulation disorder fits alot better in my opinion.
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Nov 24, 2009, 04:31 PM
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id thought id be emotional dysregulation disorder not emotional regulation as thatd mean you have your emotions regulated?
ive been told i have emotional dysregulation fun. |
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Nov 25, 2009, 12:09 PM
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I hate labels too. I worked in a psychiatric hospital for about a year and I was totally appalled at how the mental health professionals and staff talked about the patients with borderline personality disorder. It's like they weren't looked at as individuals, but as manipulative people who couldn't be helped. It was so sad and SOOO frustrating.
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Nov 25, 2009, 12:34 PM
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in the UK it's emotionally unstable personality disorder
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Nov 26, 2009, 03:45 PM
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Actually in the UK it's still BPD.
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Nov 26, 2009, 05:10 PM
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Quote:
 Somehow, this name "feels" much scarier. If they only would have left out the word unstable.*sigh*
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Nov 27, 2009, 12:46 PM
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Ugh. "Emotionally unstable" sounds awful.
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Nov 27, 2009, 09:21 PM
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BPD or whatever that is... Yes, that's me. I know about symptoms really well...
and that makes me feel just hopeless. I scare all the ppl away which includes professionals... so, what should I do??? Just really... hopeless... |
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Dec 01, 2009, 08:59 PM
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Ugh.
I still like Complex PTSD better. "emotionally unstable" and "emotional regulation". Still sounds, to me, very condescending. Thank you everyone. B.
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