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Jul 19, 2011, 08:20 AM
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because now that i know that i am borderline
it explains why i have been the way i have been and the way i have acted etc for all of these past years when i havent really given much of it a tremendous amount of thought about it before. i just thought i was a weirdo in the moment and just severely depressed. and then psychs started probing around and poking about and asking me questions about my personal life,,, relationships, background etc. i am now coining the term "relationsh!ts" btw lol my main concern is that because now ive been diagnosed i have now lost all hope that i am ever going to have a stable relationship ever because im concious of my ways and think that no-one is ever going to accept me for what i am and be able to tolerate my flaws or quirks or whatever it is they are. im doomed 
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Jul 19, 2011, 09:28 AM
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hi...i too was recently diagnosed with borderline personally , i was relieved a bit when i herd this since so many things made sense after hearing about it. just want you to know though that your diagnosis is not a fatal one..there is help , and now that you are aware of your " flaws or quirks" you can actually do something to probably lessen the severity of them..never give up hope sometimes thats all we have...and i am certain that there is someone out there who is perfect for you...maybe next time you wont have a relationsh!t..lol
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Jul 19, 2011, 10:21 AM
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why worry about the future and relationships, you know yourself better now, concentrate on getting yourself healthy and thinking about your working life and what you want to do. worrying is a wastefull use of your time. get the career back on track and make new freinds in your new job. HTH
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Jul 19, 2011, 02:05 PM
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Hang in there, I've had bpd for almost 20 years and I've been married to someone who accepts me as I am for 12 years. We have our ups and downs but he understands what I'm about and supports me and encourages me. You'll find the right one. Don't give up.
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#5
Jul 19, 2011, 02:58 PM
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i guess its because i have only just got answers to why i have been behaving the way i have been in latter years and now i know 'why' its gonna result in future behaviours with me telling myself "your'e doing this because you're bpd" and then i'll be like [to other person] "i dont know what you wanna be with me for anyway im a bpd headcase" (not saying that all bpd sufferers are headcases btw)
i have to train my brain to put the label to the back of my head and not bring it up just cos its fresh in my mind i think. its like im having a gazillion lightbulb moments and thinking,,, "oh my days - life is never going to be normal" is it curable anyhow???? |
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Jul 19, 2011, 04:16 PM
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I've been with my husband for 13 yrs so the relationshit thing isn't always the case.
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Jul 19, 2011, 10:24 PM
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No it's not curable.. but it can be "managed".. (It's usally compared to a person with Diabetes) I'm still working on that part though
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Jul 20, 2011, 06:47 AM
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Before I was diagnosed I was in denial of my emotions, and never knew what was going on, or that I felt stressed, rejected, or lonely. Now I have to face those emotions when something is going on. That can be kinda hard about it. It also took a while for me to accept the disease b/c my doctors didn't agree. But, now that I've been here and have done the research again...I find that I know the deal. This forum helped me feel better though.
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Jul 20, 2011, 05:42 PM
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I worry to when I read that BPD is so hard to treat but knowing what it is I now can work harder on coping with it
I love that word by the way.."relationsh*t" 
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Jul 20, 2011, 06:01 PM
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that word sucks..........................................
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Jul 20, 2011, 09:08 PM
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Laura..... I feel the EXACT same way. When I read your post I thought... wow.... I could have written that.
My whole life I've been acting a certain way and now all of a sudden at 35 yrs old I get diagnosed borderline. Great!!! It all makes sense. And now I feel hopeless for my future. Like I'll never have a healthy relationship. and I'm just doomed in general. So I'm Not much help... but I wanted you to know your not alone. I feel this way too. It sucks! But I guess the only thing we can do is stay in DBT therapy and work on skills to control our emotions. Seems impossible to me but others say it works. Best of luck to you!
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Jul 20, 2011, 09:17 PM
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It'll get better.
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Jul 20, 2011, 09:26 PM
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too soon, i been on my own for 12 years. u got your wires crossed, meant variant of that word sucks.
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Jul 20, 2011, 09:30 PM
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Sorry. Didn't mean to offend. |
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Jul 20, 2011, 09:35 PM
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not offended, making sure we where on the same page.
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Jul 20, 2011, 09:36 PM
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Jul 24, 2011, 03:33 PM
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Just because you got the diagnosis doesn't mean it was any different before that. I'm borderline too, but knowing that has made it a little easier to maintain relationships because I know what I need to work on. You will definitely find someone that loves and accepts you one day
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Jul 26, 2011, 07:05 PM
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I need to remember that it does not define everything I am. I hope you can tell yourself that, maybe? Billi
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Aug 03, 2011, 10:41 PM
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BUT yes, i hear you on that last bit. I'm going to start trying to get over that bit soon. lol. Shoot. One more thing to have to deal with. Fk. |
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