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He's back, well sort of. He's made it clear that he wants to be back.
And while it makes NO logical sense, I want him to be back... I love him,honestly I do,he used to be my best friend. But I doubt that he can give me what I need, and on the other hand, sometimes my needs are just plain high maintainence. So i'm very unsure about healthy v.s unhealthy expectations. His 'dissapearing act' of November is honestly the very 1st time he's let me down in the 12yrs we've been friends, so i'm inclined to forgive him... But idk, I really don't. Part of me feels like I'm being reeled in,scared I'm just entertainment. Other part of me knows he loves me,despite his emotional short-comings. I know it's easier,simpler for me to be alone, but he's the guy I've been wanting since I was 15... And somehow, I've never been able to really walk away, then again,neither has he. Btw, our 'relationship' does not revolve around the physical. So no matter what lies my mind wants to cook up to protect me, I know he was never using me. Idk, i just think that maybe we love eachother on different levels. Will that ever be enough for me? Should I hear him out? Test the waters? Or should I run and hide until he loses interest? I posted this here coz I knew you guys would have a better feel for this particular relationship dynamic... |
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Trust your instincts. Which is hard to do sometimes when you have all this emotional involvement.
Talk it over with him. Figure out what went wrong and what can each of you do to fix it. Easier said than done. But if it isn't an abusive or a truly unhealthy relationship, try to work it out. Good Luck! ![]()
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Thanks guys
![]() I really want to be with him, but mahn! Am i scared... A bit of backround: we fell inlove back in HS, but he was dating a friend of mine. After HS, he went abroad for a few yrs and got involved with a very dodgy guy (drugs,gangs,abuse),finally got rid of the guy for 'our' daughter's sake. Then he came back home in '09 (we were in regular contact) and we met up, and confessed that we still loved eachother. We decided mutually that we didn't want an official relationship (which in hindesite makes no sense,as we act like a couple and talk like a couple) but we both had baggage... He had a gf who comitted suicide and I'm not exactly the picture of stability. Me? I didn't want a repeat of my 1st bf (didn't think he'd hit me, just didnt want it to end and be all for nothing) aaand had/have alot of baggage,PLUS my bpd/bp stuff... Ffwd to today, I'm scared I haven't and will not be able to let go of the damage my X left behind. He left me feeling unworthy... What if I mess up again? What if hurt him again? What if i'm not good enough for him? Idk what i'm asking of you guys. Maybe say 'Ophelia,don't be such a sissy'? Idk ![]() |
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I had a PS I don't know where it went. Here's some FREE DBT/CBT. You are safe now. Your EX can no longer hurt you. Soak that in and believe and understand that, and don't hold on to anything else. ![]()
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