of all the difficult emotions to deal with in bpd which one do you find the hardest?

acrosstheborderline · Oct 04, 2012, 03:22 AM

I have other mental health diagnoses which I feel gets alot worse with the diagnose of bpd added. Do other s find this happens to them .? MY anxiety is very extreme which leads on to very low depressed moods . This goes on for more then a week . I find all the emotions to deal with the depressed mood is the hardest . I will do everything I can do to lift my mood , exerciseing , hobbies ect , however the depressed mood goes on and on . I have extreme crying constantly throughout the day . Im on zoloft but I still get these extreme low moods that seem never ending and very intense .

overandunder28 · Oct 04, 2012, 06:52 AM

for me its lacking empathy... drives others mad and leaves me feeling even more empty and worthless when I cant relate or sympathise :-(

Oct 04, 2012, 08:37 AM

The feeling of being alone, lonely, or abandoned, and the intense flashbacks of other times.

Oct 04, 2012, 08:59 AM

It really depends, I think two of my emotions are the worst. My depression definitely feels the worst, but my anger is the hardest to control...it's getting a little better at least. I understand what you're saying atb about other diagnoses being added to the mix, my anxiety may be heightened, but then again I only know my own experience, this could be what others with anxiety feel...so it's hard to say.

PeterHeater · Oct 04, 2012, 09:07 AM

I definately think my depression is number 1. Throughout my day, I find that if I could beat my feeling of hopelessness and that nothing I do will matter, I would be a hundred times better. No matter what I do when I'm down it won't stop. I refuse to take meds for it. I did that last year. My T tried a bunch of different ones and they just turned it up to the point where I lost control and left my job. This is right after I got a promotion and the corner office. Nothing mattered. I could have won the lotto and it wouldn't have mattered. My depression is my disability,

Oct 04, 2012, 03:16 PM

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Originally Posted by PeterHeater

I definately think my depression is number 1. Throughout my day, I find that if I could beat my feeling of hopelessness and that nothing I do will matter, I would be a hundred times better. No matter what I do when I'm down it won't stop. I refuse to take meds for it. I did that last year. My T tried a bunch of different ones and they just turned it up to the point where I lost control and left my job. This is right after I got a promotion and the corner office. Nothing mattered. I could have won the lotto and it wouldn't have mattered. My depression is my disability,

The problem with BPD that very often, meds don't work at all..... But also there's always a reason WHY we feel the way we do. Start by figuring that out and stating it to yourself. "I am depressed today because.....". Once you know WHY you're depressed, you can work on conquering it.

Trippin2.0 · Oct 04, 2012, 03:35 PM

Bipolar here, so emotions are not really distressing in a bpd sense. I however HATE the abandonment delusions I suffer from. Sledge hammer to my last relationship... Its the soul reason I will NEVER dare date again. I've had enough of THAT for atleast 2 lifetimes... Yip, it did a hectic number on me, did me in. I can and will do without.

acrosstheborderline · Oct 04, 2012, 06:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Maranara

The feeling of being alone, lonely, or abandoned, and the intense flashbacks of other times.

I too find the tramatic flashbacks the hardest and loseing people who are most closest to your heart.

Oct 04, 2012, 06:48 PM

For me it's hyperreactivity, melting down over minor disappointments or criticisms that wouldn't faze most people. It's the irritability and anger that have caused me the most regret, though.

acrosstheborderline · Oct 04, 2012, 06:53 PM

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Originally Posted by stratocaster

It really depends, I think two of my emotions are the worst. My depression definitely feels the worst, but my anger is the hardest to control...it's getting a little better at least. I understand what you're saying atb about other diagnoses being added to the mix, my anxiety may be heightened, but then again I only know my own experience, this could be what others with anxiety feel...so it's hard to say.

I feel my anger leads on my depressed low moods , I often feel a sense of shame of being so angery and loseing control . I say things I dont mean in anger and then feel a overwhelem since of guilt for saying it.

Oct 04, 2012, 10:02 PM

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Originally Posted by acrosstheborderline

I too find the tramatic flashbacks the hardest and loseing people who are most closest to your heart.

As long as I can keep those under control, I can generally cope with the rest. Memories......moved 2,600 miles to get away from most of mine.

Oct 05, 2012, 05:30 AM

I wish I didn't have to admit this

but it's anger

I am so emotionally explosive

it's scares the crap out of me

....so I hide

Oct 05, 2012, 09:16 AM

hmm.

toss up between abandonment and the feeling of wanting to push people away and want them near at the same time.

XenaWarriorPrincess · Oct 05, 2012, 01:51 PM

defiently the abondment and rage, i feel so much resentment for all my ex "boyfriends" aka obsessions... the ones who left me, or get away.. ran off i dont want them to just me content and happy, i want to make sure they are constanly reminde dof how much they hurt me, everyonce in a while i have to send a text message to one of them jsut so i know im not forgotton about, i want to get a reactin out of them, anything..and then i feel better, almost as liek as long as they text me back i still have some power over them, or mabye they may consider comming back, not really sure i just know the last thing i want is to feel like one of them has moved on and just went foward with life and forgot about me, it just cant happen and i wont let it.

BrokenNBeautiful · Oct 05, 2012, 06:57 PM

anger, feeling hurt, feeling stepped on, feeling POWERLESS.

Kasmira · Jan 17, 2013, 04:52 PM

Ruining all of the relationships I have, then realizing what I did wrong after they've already left me.

Jan 17, 2013, 05:13 PM

Impulse, This is something I find hard to resist most days then I later regret after doing it.

Relationships, Not good at all with them especially keeping friends, I want them and then I don't.

Abandonment, This is something that is happening to me right now and it makes me angry.

Anger, Hmmm, I get angry at those who ignore me.

Depression, When I feel bad I shut down and that is it, I totally feel numb.

Self harm, This is on going for me right now it is more like an addiction and I can't kick the habit.

Atypical_Disaster · Jan 17, 2013, 05:32 PM

Anger was the first thing that came to mind for me, though mind you all of the crap that goes with BPD is just awful.

BeautifullyDeprived · Jan 17, 2013, 06:21 PM

I Think the two worst for me, personally is the Raging anger, Its EXTREMELY hard to control and my never ending roller coaster ride of emotions, I don't know how to control the mood swings, they're rapid and very fast changing..

My Crazy = Your crazy.
Simple as that.

Jan 17, 2013, 06:25 PM

Let's just say everything about BPD is crap

I agree though mood swings GRRRRRRRRR.

Jan 17, 2013, 06:59 PM

ALLOFTHEM <--- is that an emotion?

athena2011 · Jan 19, 2013, 05:35 PM

Feeling alone, isolated, outcast...even when I'm with people.

Losing my connection with those I love.

Hopelessness that the above issues will ever change.

Jan 19, 2013, 05:45 PM

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Originally Posted by athena2011

Feeling alone, isolated, outcast...even when I'm with people.

Losing my connection with those I love.

Hopelessness that the above issues will ever change.

Oh yes, How much I can relate to this.

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