Coming to the conclusion that the people that I usually talk to on a daily to every other day basis either by text or call must be done with me and hate me when I haven't heard from anyone in days. I have been going over and over in my head everything I last said and did with them and realizing only afterwards how extra I was and no wonder they are backing away now. I knew that at some point this would happen, but I just didn't think it would happen so soon...I thought I was pacing myself pretty good as a friend. I'm just so needy..especially this past week after the traumatic even I have had happen..I just feel totally alone and really I need people now more than ever.

Just needed to get my feelings out

[kaliope]

I hope you feel better now that you have got your feelings out. it is horrible not to have a support system. it seems sometimes that people cant be counted on. that is why it is good to have a therapist. you always have pc to come to talk to people whenever you want. we are here to talk to you. hang in there. take care.

[Frankbtl]

Hi kneehole, just because people haven't been in touch with you doesn't necessarily mean that they don't care. Sometimes people who haven't been "where you're at" might not completely understand or just might not know what to say. So they can keep their distance, and for some people it can as much be that they feel helpless, powerless to help or they're afraid of saying the wrong thing.
So perhaps keep in touch with them, even if you aren't in contact so frequently, and let them know how important they are and how they are helping you/how they can help you.
And you know that you can let your feelings out on here as well, you're not alone, and we are here for you.
Alison

[Perna]

For me, either/or thinking rarely covers what the situation actually is and certainly doesn't give me much room. What exists in the space where you are not pushing people away and people are not done? Go there

[ifst5]

There are many people on this board alone who can empathize with your situation. I'm one of them. Have you received any practical based advice on setting and maintaining boundaries with other people? Is there anything in particular that helps with your self control? If so is it a positive means of progression or could it actually be a key contributor to such behaviour? Just some questions i'd be asking myself. Maybe keeping a record of sorts of any patterns you can see will help determine where better communication or any particular changes in your own behaviour/responses is needed. To improve upon an issue like this usually requires some work not to mention support, please know that people here are available and want to listen.

[henrydavidtherobot]

Been there. Just try to remember that your feelings are most likely ungrounded. In a day or so, you may be able to see the light. You just have to work through this moment <3