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I know we all do but I am finding it so hard right now.
Do any of you struggle with feeling abandoned? Last edited by Anonymous327401; Dec 07, 2012 at 06:07 PM. |
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Abandonment and rejection are the worst and I feel them most of the time. No matter what I do they are there. I've said this before on a number of different threads, but I guess one more time won't hurt. If the feeling of abandonment didn't exist, I really don't believe I'd have BPD. They make everything else manifest. Due to the feeling of abandonment, I've hit all nine traits at one time or another. Hang on Tinkerbell...you're not alone.
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I can be around others for whatever reason and as soon as I am back home or they have left I feel so much fear about when I will be around people again.
I broke my ankle in June 2011 and was literally walked out on. Stuck on the couch not knowing how I was going to get to the doctor or get food. Scariest time I have ever gone through. I was forced to accept that there were people there for me; they just were not the people I wanted or expected. I am still learning that lesson. I want people here physically here, too. Call, emails, FB, or even here do not fulfill my needs.
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I empathize with you now. Carol
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I am like this most days, It is like I hate being with people and I like being with them too if that makes sense? If someone visits me I can't wait for them to go.
My T, I feel rather angry with I have 2 sessions left her and I feel like she is abandoning me especially after I shared so much with her. |
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I don't struggle with it, I expect it. I feel nothing when it happens.
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Probably not what you meant though, but i is where I am right now. Not much I dont hate right now. Maybe I just need to shut up and not spread my cheery disposition.
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This intense fear of abandonment haunts me every day ~ yet, it's peculiar as 99% of the time, I'm the one pulling away and leaving them. I just can't handle the thought of them leaving me! I'm down to just a couple of relationships, the rest is piles of rubble behind me. I'm so frustrating, I know!
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Please hit me if this question is out of line. I'm new to this disorder becoming a reality in my life, but am hating it more everyday. In all of your years of experience, has anyone found anything positive or beneficial among the many frustrating aspects of this "sore that just wont heal"?
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I have not gab. sorry.
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I fear abandonment at the slightest of hints that someone might leave. Indeed even if it's just for the day it conjures them up.
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"Feelings aren't facts" ... knowing this has helped to keep me from acting out.
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I'm recently diagnosed, and holy cr@p, explains sooooo much!! We've been separated 3 times, currently now but I'm asking to come back. I am angry that I have wasted SO MANY years being mental!!! IF I would have known, I would have addressed it somehow, right?!? Speaking of which, how do I fix myself!??!!? lmao Some days I swear I'm going crazy!!! I might have just lost my job for having anxiety, giving some bs excuse and running out. How much do I tell my employers? Should they have to put up with me and my bs??? soooo much bs ![]() and I just don't stop, and I'm miserable.... thanks for reading Joanne |
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I know this I was just trying to express how strong the emotion was. But thank you for your words.
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It's just that there are times when the feelings turn out to be right. And the not-so-good stuff could have been avoided had I heeded them. ![]() |
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