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Old Nov 03, 2013, 04:45 PM
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Some people just are unfortunately. I'm so sorry.

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Old Nov 04, 2013, 01:54 AM
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Thank you. I was honestly shocked when I found out. I was dealing with a stressful pregnancy and my due date was inconvient. but somehow I had A's in all of the classes I was taking by my csection date. Finished the classes a few weeks before everyone else and didn't have to take the final in general Psychology cuz I had an A with or without it.
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Old Nov 05, 2013, 12:14 PM
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Do any of you have that one person who triggers you and almost immediately can take you from happy to either blood boiling rage to deep sorrow and guilt and self hatred? That person for me is my mother.

To understand this morning you'll need some background... so I dated a guy for like 7 months who was very emotionally abusive and horrible to me. I was in the idealization period and he became my world so I moved up to where he lived, left a really good job, and left my family. Long story short we didn't work out and I ended up on my mother's doorstep in the middle of the night and begged her to let me stay as I left my apartment to move in with him.

We've been living there since March and with me being BPD and her being bipolar, things have been rocky but usually okay.

This morning was rocky. She was complaining about me leaving lights on and I got pissy, she's been in a low lately so I know I need to be patient but it is hard sometimes. She told me I should be grateful to live with her to which I responded that she should be grateful that I live there (as I pay her rent and supply all the groceries and buy most the household items). She laughed at me and said that she's never been grateful to have us (being my son and me) live there. That hurt tremendously and now I'm wallowing in self-hatred. She is such a trigger, I hate feeling this way.

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I'm sorry that you had to endure that. It's so wrong for people to say such things especially when they almost always know it's a "button" that gets pushed.

My ex was (and still is since I have the kids and she lives out of state, still have to deal with her). She knew the buttons to push and she knew exactly what to say if we were in the midst of an argument and she wanted to really hit where it counts. Thing is it was almost a game to her. She can be very volatile when angry (not that I'm not but anyway) and it's almost as though her and people like her, enjoy saying things to stab at other people. I hate that. If I had been trying to remain rational during a disagreement she would invariably push the right buttons just to get me to blow my top so she could say "see I told you so, you're terrible!"

Thank God she's not someone I have to deal with ALL the time
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Old Nov 05, 2013, 01:33 PM
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Old Nov 09, 2013, 06:26 PM
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Usually I trigger myself with my own thoughts, or my dad does. Even the smallest most insignificant thing he says triggers me.
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Old Nov 10, 2013, 02:16 AM
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Usually I trigger myself with my own thoughts, or my dad does. Even the smallest most insignificant thing he says triggers me.
That's how it is with my mom a lot... especially before I was medicated.

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Old Nov 10, 2013, 08:48 PM
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My fiance is my main trigger. I think he might actually have BPD too, but he's told me he doesn't want anything to do with mental health for himself.

His stress and anger overwhelm me. It sucks because he takes things out externally and I take things out internally, so I get double the punishment. There are many things wonderful about him, which is why I stay, but I can't take even 1 min of him complaining about anything.
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Old Nov 14, 2013, 01:01 AM
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I have a couple of people...but for sure it is my brother's wife. She is a person who has to be in charge and control everything. I am wanting to just punch her in the face right now. My dad is elderly and she is calling the shots (or trying to) about him going in a nursing home and blah blah blah. She tried to put my mother in a nursing home years before she had to go. She has now got her name on my father's bank accounts and can control his money. Long story short--I want to kill her
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Old Nov 14, 2013, 08:30 AM
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Mean people, some words.. invalidation...
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