[rabbit1234]

Do any of you consider yourself successful in either romantic relationships or friendships? I find that I can't even keep a friend, and when I go on a dating site now, and I want to talk to them I don't because I know if I do I will just end up chancing them away like everybody else I find I just can't do that anymore no matter how much I want a relationship. I end up not writing because I would feel sorry for putting them through it all with the same results.

Griffin

I can't keep family or friends.

[technigal]

I have been married for almost 12 years so I would call that somewhat successful. It helps I think that my husband is an aspie so when I go all emotional he doesn't do the same. But looking back I had a lot of bad relationships.

[Trippin2.0]

My friendships I'm good at, I'm a pretty good friend ( I try to treat them how I want to be treated ) and when I do slip up somehow, its a well known fact I'm a bit of a biyotch at times, just part of the parcel Also, I'm not too good at maintaining contact, but I do try and my friends understand that I mostly suck at it...

Relationships..... Uhm, I suck at it, been with my bf for 4yrs, only because for some strange reason he hasn't given up on me, even though I push him away HARD every few months.

He's got this whole poker face thing going on, so he's good at stepping back from the emotional turmoil I create and being the calm rational one amidst my storms. So we compliment eachother in that aspect as it helps things from not getting too ugly when I'm spitting venom or "tantrumming"...

I have had a lot of trouble maintaining relationships both romantic and friendships, IRL and online, for as far back as I can remember.
I have a few loyal friends who see past my issues and care about me for me, I'm lucky for that.
I used to get drunk or high and go on a dating site looking for someone, got taken advantage of a lot before I sobered up.
I've made some progress, and maintain a few fofilling friendships. but my current relationship partner (the father of one of my children) makes me sick to look at or hear at the moment, it looks like that relationship is going to wind up down the toilet just like my marriage did. Romantic relationships seem to last about two years tops for me.
I just hope someday I'll make as much progress as I need to, and that I'll resemble the person I'd like to be. That my kids need me to be.

Friendships yes, romantic relationships no.

[winter4me]

I have a couple of friends. Was married for 20yrs, divorced long time, good relationship with grown kids. Hard work. No longer interested in having a sexual partner, wouldn't mind a friend who wants to share the load and has similar goals, and who is my age at least, and still physically healthy. Have a "date" with my fav. aspie friend for a scrabble "tournament" next weekend, we will like end up taking a long walk also (he is a runner), a couple of beers and a meal. (might even cook). Lost too many people over the years...
I am okay in casual social situations but never had more than a few good friends. (1-3).
I am considering getting involved in a local activities-oriented place/group or just making sure to find a "tour" "group walk" (local historical society/library/theatre/senior center/Y/conservation groups/etc) "lecture" to attend weekly. (something different each time for a while, find some thing that fits)---reminds me, I'd better check the local calendar, see if there is something today or in the morning. (no parties, no online meetings (could be my age but likely my anxiety)

[Maranara]

I have problems all the way around. I'm working really hard on making it better. I guess that's all I can do.

[atomicc]

I have trouble maintaining friendships, people just don't like me. I do think my romantic relationship is successful though it took a lot of hardwork and heartbreak to get there.

[Angel of Bedlam]

I don't think I'm particularly good at either. I'm lucky this time around to have found a man who loves me and is patient and kind, and am working slowly on repairing friendships but it's hard at times.

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I have been through many broken love relationships with the ladies, but the fact is I'm not even about to take 100% of the blame here. Can I be difficult? yes. Do I do a lot of things wrong? Sure. But fact is, it takes two to make or break a relationship and I'll adhere to the idea that if they make the choice to leave, they can blame me all they want but it was THEIR choice to leave. One person being to blame for a relationship breaking is always incorrect.

So, yeah I've had successes and failures in relationships. But I don't base all of them on whether they remained intact forever.

[lynn808]

I have had problems keeping friends over the years. I have no close friends anymore. I romantic relationship is strained but because of the new diagnosis of BPD not bi-polar...we are hopeful that we can work through this. My b/f is a saint some days and not others, but this is part of the disorder I have to come to terms with. It is a long road to recognize and change bad behavior taught by bad people in my childhood. I hope to learn to be a whole person and not a fractured one. One day, hour or minute at a time. We are working on "code words" to help me recognize when I am not doing well that will not make me angry at b/f for trying to help me...hope this makes sense

[sheiba]

well I am a very tolerant person and am desperite to have people like me .. except towards my partner, after his affairs it made it even worse, frankly i dont know why either of us are still together....that ones still up in the air....its a battle..... I guess i dont want to be hurt by someone so I leave first, dont want them to know the real me i guess... most of the time I would rather just be with my dogs and not have to deal with people....my dogs accept who i am with no judgement or agendas... i think we are each unique in our relationships with others...dont be hard on yourself we are all just trying the best we are able good luck

[hawaii04]

I consider myself pretty good with friendships once I actually obtain one as I tend to be the introvert. With relationships, I have lost many due to my unrealistic expectations . . .

[cboxpalace]

The short answer would be no to both. The long answer would require too much thought.