[learningtolive2013]

I got to see my T today and I have to say "I feel so much better"..

He is so non judgmental and just understands me and my thoughts/feelings/behaviors..

I'm trying to not idolize him.. I was sitting there today thinking, I'm being more open and honest with this person more than anyone else in my life and imagined what he thought of me "his personal thoughts"

Have you ever wondered if your T only pretended to be understanding but underneath it all they were really thinking like "OMG" this person is so screwed up? lol..

[Maranara]

Originally Posted by learningtolive2013

Have you ever wondered if your T only pretended to be understanding but underneath it all they were really thinking like "OMG" this person is so screwed up? lol..

All the time.

[hawaii04]

Of course. That is part of the reason I'm there; I think that about everbody I come into contact with on one level or another. I often wonder if when my T is done with just me alone if she wonders why the heck she ever went into Psychiatry to begin with lol. I sure wouldn't want to listen to me!

[learningtolive2013]

Originally Posted by hawaii04

Of course. That is part of the reason I'm there; I think that about everbody I come into contact with on one level or another. I often wonder if when my T is done with just me alone if she wonders why the heck she ever went into Psychiatry to begin with lol. I sure wouldn't want to listen to me!

LMAO.. I always wonder if my T wonders why he ever got into PSYCH after talking to me too.. too funny.. thanks for that :-)

[Angel of Bedlam]

I've thought that on and off with both my psyc and my T. I adore my T, I think she cares about me deeply. A few sessions ago, she just told me how far I've come and how proud she was of me. My psyc is also moving out of the health center where I see her and made sure I would get all of her new office information because she wants to continue seeing me. She also just talks to me and laughs with me and that's also weird for a psyc to do.

[learningtolive2013]

Originally Posted by Angel of Bedlam

I've thought that on and off with both my psyc and my T. I adore my T, I think she cares about me deeply. A few sessions ago, she just told me how far I've come and how proud she was of me. My psyc is also moving out of the health center where I see her and made sure I would get all of her new office information because she wants to continue seeing me. She also just talks to me and laughs with me and that's also weird for a psyc to do.

My T also laughs and jokes around with me.. I think it keeps things simple and makes it more easy to open up.. I don't know if that is his "method" or if he just genuinely likes "chatting" with me?? I dunno.. I am on the verge of idolization and maybe a bad idea to have a male as a T??? I know you guys know what I'm talking about... I mean he's NEVER gave me an indication of being inappropriate or anything like that but you know BPD thinking... I read so much into things and try and analyze so much... I always think to myself if he shares/jokes with other patients as he does me? I dunno.. I'm being weird.. sorry.. lol

[hawaii04]

Originally Posted by learningtolive2013

My T also laughs and jokes around with me.. I think it keeps things simple and makes it more easy to open up.. I don't know if that is his "method" or if he just genuinely likes "chatting" with me?? I dunno.. I am on the verge of idolization and maybe a bad idea to have a male as a T??? I know you guys know what I'm talking about... I mean he's NEVER gave me an indication of being inappropriate or anything like that but you know BPD thinking... I read so much into things and try and analyze so much... I always think to myself if he shares/jokes with other patients as he does me? I dunno.. I'm being weird.. sorry.. lol

All I can say is . . . . ROFL . . .my precise way of thinking. OMG! One time my used to be meds Dr., nice cheerful guy says to me, 'I like your PINK shirt you're wearing today' ~ dear God, that was the wrong thing to say haha, but he didn't know I was BPD then . . .maybe it wouldn't have mattered. It was just a compliment for crying out loud you'd think he asked to have my baby. At the same time, I don't feel like I know what's appropriate as to giving a compliment ~ sheesh.
Your T treats you well with therapy, is appropriate, and as long as you can stay focused on treatment ... that's what matters.

[technigal]

It is good you have found a therapist you can trust.

i laugh and joke around in T as I use laughter as a defense mechanism. I guess my mind thinks if I am laughing then everything is ok with me.

[lynn808]

I like my new T. Today he told me how proud he is of what I have accomplished this week. It has been a tough week and I really was surprised and glad that I had positive reinforcement from him....Wow what a nice feeling to have someone rooting for me!!!
I did ask him about being glad about his career choice after dealing with me...He said ppl like me are why he started in the first place...He likes to see his ppl do well... such a supportive person...definitely a good person to have in my corner during my fight...I like it!!!

[hawaii04]

Originally Posted by lynn808

I like my new T. Today he told me how proud he is of what I have accomplished this week. It has been a tough week and I really was surprised and glad that I had positive reinforcement from him....Wow what a nice feeling to have someone rooting for me!!!
I did ask him about being glad about his career choice after dealing with me...He said ppl like me are why he started in the first place...He likes to see his ppl do well... such a supportive person...definitely a good person to have in my corner during my fight...I like it!!!

That is wonderful to hear and I am so glad for you!! Sounds like a great T.

My old T was the same way. He always seemed to get me. yet he had no problem telling me when he felt I was out of line.
I didn't idolize him, though I also wondered what he thought of me. I even expressed those thoughts to him. I wondered if he thought I was a horrible, unstable mess of a person.
It was pointed out to me that he was attractive and only a few years older than me, but I never saw him that way. I needed a therapist not a date.
My new T that I'll be meeting in person for the first time on the 11th sounds legit, like he knows what he's doing. I hope he can help me the way my old T was, until I screwed up and started using. but not this time, this time I'm going to tackle my issues and ove forward.
I'm sure your T doesn't judge you harshly or anything. My old T said that he enjoyed his work, and so do the majority of people who choose to work with people like us.

[learningtolive2013]

Originally Posted by hawaii04

All I can say is . . . . ROFL . . .my precise way of thinking. OMG! One time my used to be meds Dr., nice cheerful guy says to me, 'I like your PINK shirt you're wearing today' ~ dear God, that was the wrong thing to say haha, but he didn't know I was BPD then . . .maybe it wouldn't have mattered. It was just a compliment for crying out loud you'd think he asked to have my baby. At the same time, I don't feel like I know what's appropriate as to giving a compliment ~ sheesh.
Your T treats you well with therapy, is appropriate, and as long as you can stay focused on treatment ... that's what matters.

You're cracking me up lol.. I'm the same way with compliments.. Oh gosh.. funny..

[hawaii04]

Really it's about our minds working way too easily yet hard at play on being concerned with things that really don't matter. And our minds setting out to find things that probably aren't even there because either we want them and are seeking them in some desperate way or we don't and we carry this dreaded paranoa loaded with negative messages about ourselves.

To be fair though...it's kind of what they signed up for. I try not to worry too much about their personal thoughts of me because at the end of the day they're a fellow adult who chose to specialize in a certain area of healthcare. And to be honest, it's not like they're poorly paid either.

A good working relationship is important and I think it's easier said than done. As the saying goes; change what you can and learn to live with what you can't...

[steelfang]

To be honest yes I do wonder if my psych becomes annoyed a bit. I like him a lot since heirs the first one who really got the meds right for me.

However I think many people who go into therapy and whatnot are really interested in fixing "broken" people. It probably makes them feel really good when they are able to help. Most people in the industry are really caring and understanding individuals. And don't forget that a fair amount of people who study psychology have issues of their own.