[BarelyMakingIt]

So I had a good friend, I thought. I managed to keep him around for just over 6 months. I have tripped on him in the past and he actually handled it a lot better than anyone has, EVER!. I trusted him a lot and was really glad just to have someone that I could loo forward to hearing from and that could help take my mind off of how messed up everything is right now.

Well, last week I started to hear from him less and less, then on Thursday I sent him a few texts and got no answer. I tried to stay cool but it just felt like he was gone. So at first I just kept it light and jokingly asked if he wasn't talking to me anymore and I got no answer. So, I was really hurt and I did send a few more texts. I guess I did trip I don't know, I just wanted to know if he wanted to stop talking to me. I never got an answer, I don't know if I ever will. This is pretty much the norm for me lol and I'm not a very optimistic person so of course to me this is the end. It would be nice to know what is going on with him and get some closure, I think I deserve that. This also hurts s lot because I really trusted him and I actually fell in love with him. That is the first time for me. Well oh well, what can you do?

sorry for your loss...............

everything about today seems to SUCK

[BarelyMakingIt]

Originally Posted by Useless Me

sorry for your loss...............

everything about today seems to SUCK

Thanks, I think I've just been waiting for the other shoe to drop pretty much the whole time.

sorry to hear that your day sucks too. Hope you feel better.

**hands your shoes back to you**

Hope your day picks up.

[BarelyMakingIt]

Originally Posted by Useless Me

**hands your shoes back to you**

Hope your day picks up.

Same to you and mine actually has. I actually feel a sense of relief about the situation right now. I also have to say that you're pretty swell for a self-proclaimed a*shole lol.

[live2ski66]

Originally Posted by BarelyMakingIt

So I had a good friend, I thought. I managed to keep him around for just over 6 months. I have tripped on him in the past and he actually handled it a lot better than anyone has, EVER!. I trusted him a lot and was really glad just to have someone that I could loo forward to hearing from and that could help take my mind off of how messed up everything is right now.

Well, last week I started to hear from him less and less, then on Thursday I sent him a few texts and got no answer. I tried to stay cool but it just felt like he was gone. So at first I just kept it light and jokingly asked if he wasn't talking to me anymore and I got no answer. So, I was really hurt and I did send a few more texts. I guess I did trip I don't know, I just wanted to know if he wanted to stop talking to me. I never got an answer, I don't know if I ever will. This is pretty much the norm for me lol and I'm not a very optimistic person so of course to me this is the end. It would be nice to know what is going on with him and get some closure, I think I deserve that. This also hurts s lot because I really trusted him and I actually fell in love with him. That is the first time for me. Well oh well, what can you do?

I'm so sorry for you. It is so frustrating when these so called friends don't have the gull to talk to us in a serious manner, to tell us how they feel if we have offended them or overstepped a boundary. Instead they disappear "because it will be easier on us". I'd rather have someone tell me the truth even if it hurts terribly. Knowing the truth allows me to make changes if necessary and grow as an individual and potential friend.

[BarelyMakingIt]

Originally Posted by live2ski66

I'm so sorry for you. It is so frustrating when these so called friends don't have the gull to talk to us in a serious manner, to tell us how they feel if we have offended them or overstepped a boundary. Instead they disappear "because it will be easier on us". I'd rather have someone tell me the truth even if it hurts terribly. Knowing the truth allows me to make changes if necessary and grow as an individual and potential friend.

Exactly, i just wanted to know if it was something I had done or was he just busy but let me know something. In the past he had been very receptive and when I "tripped" on him and he really made me feel comfortable. For a little bit of background, we attended high school together, we didn't really now each other then. We started talking to each other off and on online for about 3 years until we finally started seeing each other 6 months ago. I already had strong feelings for him prior to that and the grew even more when we were finally together.

It kind of caught me off guard but I really considered him a good friend and he really helped to keep me calm and I trusted him so much. There were no problems with him letting me know when there was an issue in the past, so for him to just stop talking to me was very disappointing.

I'm considering sending him a message just letting him know how I felt because I never really let him know. I don't know whether I should or not but he really did mean a lot to me, and I do want him to know even if he doesn't continue to talk to me. I don't really know what to do in these type of situations though because they're so foreign to me lol. I did have a friend that helped me for a little when i was trying to get advice on what to do with him and she ended up ignoring me too. So I don't think she would offer me much help lol. Sometimes I want to let him know, sometimes I don't. I guess I will if I feel it's right. Also i don't want to make him feel guilty, I just really like closure lol. I'll figure it out I guess.

Oh, and also he is the reason why I'm even here right now. My interactions with him let me now that there was something serious going on with me, I also never told him that. He really lead me to to do a lot of self evaluation and soul searching.

Originally Posted by BarelyMakingIt

.... you're pretty swell for a self-proclaimed a*shole lol.

Trust me - a lot, lot, LOT more than just me have declared me that body orifice

[Gingersnapsmom]

Wow. So sorry! To be honest, I am usually the friend that "goes away." The reason is because I split and start devaluing the person I thought was completely perfect and all I can think about is getting them out of my life. It's that black and white thing. I am very hard to deal with even though I am very, very generous with everything...time, money, listening....I eventually can't take it anymore and feel the other person is giving me nothing in return and I am outta there.

[BarelyMakingIt]

Originally Posted by Useless Me

Trust me - a lot, lot, LOT more than just me have declared me that body orifice

Lol I do understand!

[BarelyMakingIt]

Originally Posted by Gingersnapsmom

Wow. So sorry! To be honest, I am usually the friend that "goes away." The reason is because I split and start devaluing the person I thought was completely perfect and all I can think about is getting them out of my life. It's that black and white thing. I am very hard to deal with even though I am very, very generous with everything...time, money, listening....I eventually can't take it anymore and feel the other person is giving me nothing in return and I am outta there.

Yes! I usually am too but for some reason i couldn't be with him. If that's the case I would have stopped talking to him three years ago just with the off and on online stuff lol. I almost deleted him a few months ago, i don't remember why that was now and I thought of deleting him from all social networks now. I can't and i don't know why, I did delete him from my phone. For some reason i can never bring myself to be mad at or completely dismiss him and that is really rare for me. Even though right now I feel like I have been thoroughly gaslighted lol.

[lazydog]

I delete guys from my phone all the time, the slightest problem and I delete them. Then they text or call me and back in my contacts they go. I'm actually embarrassed at how often I do it.

[BarelyMakingIt]

Originally Posted by lazydog

I delete guys from my phone all the time, the slightest problem and I delete them. Then they text or call me and back in my contacts they go. I'm actually embarrassed at how often I do it.

Lol, I wish I just deleted his number without accusing him of not talking to me anymore. I did end up deleting him from social networks and still texting him s*it just wanting to know why he isn't talking to me. It's been over a week and I still haven't heard anything from him. I don't get it he was supposed to be my friend, why can't he talk to me all of a sudden?