(I'm not talking about people who are in unhappy relationships.)

I mean people who don't have anyone to call up on a Friday evening, people who don't go on dates, who never get laid, who don't have anyone they'd feel comfortable calling in case of an emergency (I don't mean 911, I mean people you know) or if they got injured and needed help at home.

Anybody other than me out there who matches this description ?

Bonus points if you know you'll always match this description

Me.

Wasn't always this way but have been hurt too much now and it's just easier. They can't hurt me and I can't hurt them.

[ifst5]

This is near enough completely me. Though really, i'm alright with it. Irl people tend to either bore or displease me so it's easier keeping away. I don't desire marriage or children so effectively i'm awaiting my passage of time to end. Just wish i was better at entertaining myself but otherwise, it is was it is. I'm not ashamed nor require any sympathy.

[shakespeare47]

It's really amazing that I ever got married. I was such a loner for so long.
But, now, other than a social group I just started doing some things with, I don't have any friends.
I've been friendless for a very long time. and no, I don't have anyone to call up. I've pushed people away, and then later regretted it. It's tough..

I do have some hopes for this new group I'm a part of. And I plan on continuing to reach out, in little ways... I can try too hard, and that just makes things worse.

I already have an escape plan in place, in case things don't work out with this new group...

I've even considered starting up my own small group through meetup.com. Maybe a book club, or maybe I can find some people to play board games, something along those lines...

[haleylaurel]

so much yes.
i'm so lonely.
i have no one.

[strangeskies]

Me. The last friends in real life I had (2), moved away in ~2003. Other than them, my only other friends were cats.

Originally Posted by BeteNoire

Me.

Wasn't always this way but have been hurt too much now and it's just easier. They can't hurt me and I can't hurt them.

I know exactly what you mean. So unfortunate that this is the case with a lot of us. Hurt too much to risk it again.

It really sucks

Originally Posted by shakespeare47

It's really amazing that I ever got married. I was such a loner for so long.
But, now, other than a social group I just started doing some things with, I don't have any friends.
I've been friendless for a very long time. and no, I don't have anyone to call up. I've pushed people away, and then later regretted it. It's tough..

I do have some hopes for this new group I'm a part of. And I plan on continuing to reach out, in little ways... I can try too hard, and that just makes things worse.

I already have an escape plan in place, in case things don't work out with this new group...

I've even considered starting up my own small group through meetup.com. Maybe a book club, or maybe I can find some people to play board games, something along those lines...

You've got a wife you love, yeah ? Sorry dude, but I don't think you qualify, and that's a good thing Meetup is a great idea.

[shakespeare47]

^LOL. I'm still the friendless American male... I wish there was a buddy I could talk to about man stuff.. old cars mostly.. no hunting or fishing, thank you.

[Astriferous]

That's totally me. Even though I'm an INFP, I still get lonely when I'm not around my close friends.

At the same time, I take comfort in knowing that I can't hurt my friends. I'm very prone to emotional outbursts when I'm with some of my friends, and even though they say otherwise, I'm almost certain that I've hurt them in some way. I've been abused before, and it kills me when I realize that I have the ability to hurt people. It really sucks...

[shakespeare47]

Originally Posted by Astriferous

That's totally me. Even though I'm an INFP, I still get lonely when I'm not around my close friends.

At the same time, I take comfort in knowing that I can't hurt my friends. I'm very prone to emotional outbursts when I'm with some of my friends, and even though they say otherwise, I'm almost certain that I've hurt them in some way. I've been abused before, and it kills me when I realize that I have the ability to hurt people. It really sucks...

That's where I am right now... I sometimes worry that I'm hurting people and causing problems, but other times I think... "I'm just being my genuine self". I just don't know how much of a problem my behaviors really are. I guess as long as people keep inviting me, I'll keep going back.

[Silent Void]

Here. I can't deal. Period. Stay away, World.

[Astriferous]

Originally Posted by shakespeare47

That's where I am right now... I sometimes worry that I'm hurting people and causing problems, but other times I think... "I'm just being my genuine self". I just don't know how much of a problem my behaviors really are. I guess as long as people keep inviting me, I'll keep going back.

It's such an exhausting battle, deciding whether or not you're hurting anyone. Siiiiiiiigh...

[Espresso]

That's me! Sure, I'm married, but my husband gets frustrated with my because I'm not more social. I don't have friends really. And all the therapists and psychiatrists that I've spoken to recently seem surprised when I tell them that, no, there is no one I can confide in or go to for help.

Originally Posted by Espresso

That's me! Sure, I'm married, but my husband gets frustrated with my because I'm not more social. I don't have friends really. And all the therapists and psychiatrists that I've spoken to recently seem surprised when I tell them that, no, there is no one I can confide in or go to for help.

Sorry to hear that At the very least, you have us here, although I know that's never enough.

I can relate to your therapists not believing you. Same with me - they just don't get the magnitude of my problem. They tell me, "You're an okay guy", or whatever. They don't see the complete picture.

Originally Posted by Astriferous

It's such an exhausting battle, deciding whether or not you're hurting anyone. Siiiiiiiigh...

Yeah, and sometimes, you wonder whether or not it's worth trying to figure that out, right ?

[jean17]

Originally Posted by lilodian4ever

(I'm not talking about people who are in unhappy relationships.)

I mean people who don't have anyone to call up on a Friday evening, people who don't go on dates, who never get laid, who don't have anyone they'd feel comfortable calling in case of an emergency (I don't mean 911, I mean people you know) or if they got injured and needed help at home.

Anybody other than me out there who matches this description ?

Bonus points if you know you'll always match this description

Hey lilodian. This couldn't describe me any more accurately. Sometimes I get lonely, but it only lasts for a day or so. Mostly I just prefer to be alone. I often wonder if someone else who likes being alone would be a good partner?

[jean17]

Originally Posted by BeteNoire

Me.

Wasn't always this way but have been hurt too much now and it's just easier. They can't hurt me and I can't hurt them.

Oh, yes. This is so true.

[jean17]

Originally Posted by ifst5

This is near enough completely me. Though really, i'm alright with it. Irl people tend to either bore or displease me so it's easier keeping away. I don't desire marriage or children so effectively i'm awaiting my passage of time to end. Just wish i was better at entertaining myself but otherwise, it is was it is. I'm not ashamed nor require any sympathy.

I understand and relate completely.

[Astriferous]

Originally Posted by lilodian4ever

Yeah, and sometimes, you wonder whether or not it's worth trying to figure that out, right ?

Exactly! It's just too risky.

[ani_alive]

I can relate..too apathetic and unmotivated...but not always so. My best memories are those within close, loving relationships. I do think that with someones who can 'see' us loners and lend themselves to giving enough space, we can form happy connections..Amen!

[sideblinded]

I seem to be a loner inside my mind. Even though there are aquaintances around me, I lack any close friend. I want a close friend or friends but I seem to sabotage the opportunity. I isolate a lot. So I think I am a loner, too.

[tipper1492]

Yep - I have always kept myself, and lived on 65 acres so it was easy. Had few friends who came to fish the pond with me, but who knows why for sure. Did not get on medication until age 63 after seeing doctor, but had a "few" who outs at pond, and drank a good bit later. Had two close friends I told them about my BP and now I think they have disappeared
My town is small, about 25K, so everyone knows your business once it comes out.

[NoChildSupport]

I don't have any friends. It's embarrassing but all I've done this summer is sit around the house playing video games. I'm not even good at video games. I've been pretty lonely. I'm afraid of leaving the house. There's too many different people & too many different things to expect from them. I've been avoiding people so I don't get attached to them. It's too overwhelming & so bad to the point where I can't function in school & I need to be homeschooled... I hope I get a therapist soon...

[dolphin20017]

me- i tend to get along better with animals. I'm currently trying to get an emotional support dog. If i do go out with anyone- within 1/2hr I've ha enough and want to leave...