BPD, sex addiction and bisexuality

Does anyone else here seem to suffer from sex addiction? I find myself indulging in sexual activities or masturbation in an attempt to distract myself from the pain I'm feeling. I've done this so much it's now compulsive. I'm fairly promiscuous and I'm ashamed of it but I can't seem to stop it.

Also, I think I'm bisexual but I'm not sure. I'm worried that my sex drive is just so strong that it doesn't matter to me whether my partner is male or female rather than that I am truly bisexual. It might be a consequence of borderline confusion around my true identity. Does anyone else feel this way?

I'm bisexual but I don't think it has anything to do with the BPD for me. Sometimes I've wondered if I like a person though, or if I'm just using them as a distraction from the pain. So I can understand that.

I am straight and struggle with my high sex drive. When I was single I was extremely promiscuous. I am in a relationship now and my high sex drive is still an issue.
I believe I crave sex so often because it makes me feel a sense of security and worth. If my partner wants to have sex with me or I'm always up for it...he will love me and won't go. ( A totally flawed logic, but I keep believing it ).

This is a common issue, and feel free to be open about it.

I'm always confused about my sexuality.

I can totally relate to the bisexuality, I'm not sure if I truly am or if it's just high sex drive, but along with the high sex drive, sometimes I just get completely turned off from the idea and want nothing to do with it at all, if you can relate to that at all.

I'm bicurious and have a crush on my friend. She knows about it, her boyfriend knows and so does my husband. She even admitted to having feelings for me so i understand

I'm gay, and I am addicted to porn. I'm sad to say.

I agree with the way that Leigh put things for herself. She is straight, and struggles with her high sex drive. I am very similar. Either I put it all away (like I did with my ex-hub), or it comes alive to the nth degree (like with my current bf).

While my bf may not mind it, part of me is tired ~ yet I have a very difficult time becoming sexually & emotionally satisfied. What does that mean?? I have wondered about this for many years, but I still have not come up with a reason and/or a solution.

Ugh!!

My first post on these forums... First time even looking at the various threads in here, and stumbled upon this one.

I just recently completed a 45-day stay in an inpatient treatment facility for sexual addiction. Before walking in the door, I was diagnosed with major depression, generalized anxiety disorder, and bi-polar II.

Turns out, the mild bi-polar diagnosis, which was made rather quickly by a psychiatrist I will never visit again, was incorrect. For the first time, I learned of BPD.

It's a long, long journey from here, and I still act out, but I'm actively seeking help and just started with DBT therapy this past week.

To the original questions, I am bi-curious and I was told by a psychiatric team at the inpatient treatment facility that my BPD was in fact one of the key drivers behind my addiction.

The feelings of abandonment (which trigger wanting companionship), anxiety (often soothed... or so I think going in... by acting out), my feelings of being 1-down, angry, depressed... all huge ingredients in the stew that creates the ideal stage for acting out.

Thanks. Looking forward to contributing to this forum in any way I can.

Welcome. I was told rapid cycling BP first then the pdoc was like doh! BPD. Self-injury, suicidal, abandonment crap, confused about who or what I am, on & on.

Just thought I'd pop in and say that promiscuity is fine, as long as you are careful, and practice safe sex.

Men get pats on the back for being sexually easy, girls get called sluts. Enjoy yourself!

I have always suffered from sex addiction and high sex drive....and now in a relationship with someone who also is highly sexed...seems like a good fix....hardly...its all the time...til we both are raw... and the neighbors complain about our loudness...

I'm not straight but due to my sex drive will have sex with guys to try and fulfill my needs I guess you could saY. I always feel like crap after and hate myself for it in the end.

I'm bisexual and have had more than one counsellor blame this on the BPD. I really don't think it's connected though. I don't fancy a lot of people - liking both genders definitely doesn't mean I am indiscriminate.

Thanks for that Cal, I look forward to seeing how you do. The intimacy seems to bring a fill to the void we feel. I also like to connect with people. I like being complimented on my appearance-because I have lost alot of weight. Things like that, all help my self esteem. So many issues to discuss in one post but please keep posting.

I've noticed how MOST borderlines I talk to are bisexual. So are my partner and I - both women and both borderlines. I've had huge sexual urges since I was like 6 years old but for some reason I'm terrified of people touching me so I have to really trust the one I'm with. My parents think it's because some kind of trauma in early childhood and... yeah. ANYWAY, I used to blow guys cause I felt I owed them at least some kind of sexual act and feel awful afterwards.

Hi Brokengirl,

I think that you are definitely not alone on this one.

Self help strategies that you can work together with with your T may be beneficial to you at this point in time.

Please take care of yourself.