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Member Since Jan 2015
Location: Canada
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I have recognized a pattern in myself of feeling incredibly triggered by where other people are in their recovery journeys. If someone is ahead of me, I find it incredibly inspiring. If someone is not as far along in recovery as I am and is struggling, I find it triggering to the point of a total breakdown. Does anyone else get this way or is it just me??
Like if someone came into group crying about having relapsed in self harm or something, and I was having a good day prior to that, I would take on their **** as my own. I would then have a sinking feeling in my gut and feel the need to self harm. Kind of like I reflect what I see, involuntarily. I honestly can't find a way to shake it, but I do recognize it as a problem and I recognize it as what is hindering me from a full recovery. |
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Legendary
Member Since May 2010
Location: Cape Town South Africa
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To a certain extent, yes.
On the other hand? No. I'm highly empathic and absorb other peoples emotions, but I don't end up wanting to be just as messed up as them. So while my mood will be shot to hell if someone came to group tomorrow morning and declare they've SI'd again, I wont feel like I should too. Its exhausting having no emotional boundary between myself and others. It means I carry their shyt on top of mine and makes being social even more exhausting than it usually is for an introvert. So my T has offered to teach me how to build that shield. He says they get taught how and I can learn too. __________________ ![]() DXD BP1, BPD & OCPD ![]() |
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Member Since Feb 2016
Location: US
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I dont have a "group" though; Im terrified of people so just me and my therapist once a week. But i have to have empathy to be good at my job and actually care that other people have no internet... __________________ Fully & completely trapped inside myself. Clawing but there's no way out. |
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Magnate
Member Since Dec 2015
Location: Costa Rica
Posts: 2,171
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I'm better now, but it used to be that I couldn't do group therapy as I would take everything personal and accept their problems as my own.
__________________ ![]() Day Vraylar 3 mg. Wellbutrin 150 Night meds Temazepam 30 mg or lorazepam Hasn't helped yet. From sunny California! |
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Grand Magnate
Member Since Apr 2013
Location: Ontario Land
Posts: 3,589
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__________________ Dx: Didgee Disorder |
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