[subtle lights]

Sure, you can say accept it. That my worldview, beliefs, likes, dislikes, my personality changes all the time. I tried to accept it but I feel so alone and lost and see people going on a solid track in their lives and carrers and I can't.
And if I try, I'll end up resenting that. The job, the relationship, the hobby. Ultimately myself. And I need to change all the time. But right now I've had enough and I don't want to do anything because I know it will always end the same way. Me getting disappointed and realising "that's not me"
But how can I live like this? I feel so alone in this

[Ms.Lizette]

Originally Posted by subtle lights

Sure, you can say accept it. That my worldview, beliefs, likes, dislikes, my personality changes all the time. I tried to accept it but I feel so alone and lost and see people going on a solid track in their lives and carrers and I can't.
And if I try, I'll end up resenting that. The job, the relationship, the hobby. Ultimately myself. And I need to change all the time. But right now I've had enough and I don't want to do anything because I know it will always end the same way. Me getting disappointed and realising "that's not me"
But how can I live like this? I feel so alone in this

I have found that focusing on the things I always like helps me to feel I am more defined. For example, I like cats and dogs, I love the sea and the feeling of my feet on the grass, I like chocolate etc etc.

Hang on to what you can hang on to. You are not alone in this in any case!

[Lonlin3zz]

Too many of us wants to imitate other people's life.

Start simple, like making a habit to clock 8-hrs of sleep, eat properly, these goes a long way of self-care (mention I never bombed the sentence with exercise)

Self-care will lead to better management and care for mental health, followed by better motivation to physically take care of yourself.

I am not going to motivate people just by throwing in positive speeches now and then. But I think one thing that made me saw this world in a different light was to observe the phenomenon of impermanence everywhere.

- My body is something that is created for me and it will cease to exist one day. I have to treat it with proper care in order to live on and bring hope to other people around me.

- No one is going to be by my side to take care of me forever, I have to fix my own issues swiftly and move on to take on responsibilities, so I am able to bring hope to other people around me and raise their standard of mental care.

- I was someone who often drinks his way out to avoid personal issues. I told myself, this habit is detrimental to me in the long run, it will grow steadily and collapse on me in the future. I do not want to see this happen, I have to overcome these bad habits.

- I used to be a late sleeper, and this habit affected my concentration at office work and my ability to think rationally. I must quit torturing myself with late-night sleeps and get 8-hrs of sleep. (Results: Less Acne and Pimples, one less worry in life to carry)

[magicalprince]

I'm feeling like the only way to create a stable sense of self is to do similar things, a lot of times over a long period of time.

If you can't find the thing you want to do over and over again, no problem. Just do what you feel like doing right now.

BUT--pay attention to whether you really like it, and/or what specifically you like about it. You have to let go of defining what it means about you. Focus on FUN and enjoyment, what, if done differently, would create more of it?

A sense of self is like, a hindsight thing. You look back on your past and you basically say... "yeah, a lot of memories are tied to __________"

You don't build it while looking toward the future, or analyzing yourself and your interests.

So a sense of self is just habits formed.

[shezbut]

You aren't alone, subtle lights. I can relate to your feelings and experiences quite a bit. But, I know that it's hard .... sometimes it just feels like "words" here. Remember, it isn't just words. People, just like you, typed them in.

Gentle hugs to you.

[TishaBuv]

Just make who you are work for you.

I just recently learned about BPD.

Throughout my life, I always got into doing something, then stopped, and went on to something else. I never stuck with one thing. I didn't see anything wrong with it, still don't. If you can get financial support, it doesn't matter.

I changed styles, adapted myself to blend with bf's. I thought I was just like Madonna.

There are plenty of things that I truly like and have my own opinions. When I'm smiling and laughing, I know I am enjoying myself and having a good time. When I can't stand something, I know it.

When there is a barrier in your path, you must figure out how to get around it. I always did this, never knowing that I had a disorder.

Now that I look back, it seems so much more clear.

It's a great talent to be a chameleon. Use it to your advantage.

[Lonlin3zz]

Originally Posted by TishaBuv

Just make who you are work for you.

I just recently learned about BPD.

Throughout my life, I always got into doing something, then stopped, and went on to something else. I never stuck with one thing. I didn't see anything wrong with it, still don't. If you can get financial support, it doesn't matter.

I changed styles, adapted myself to blend with bf's. I thought I was just like Madonna.

There are plenty of things that I truly like and have my own opinions. When I'm smiling and laughing, I know I am enjoying myself and having a good time. When I can't stand something, I know it.

When there is a barrier in your path, you must figure out how to get around it. I always did this, never knowing that I had a disorder.

Now that I look back, it seems so much more clear.

It's a great talent to be a chameleon. Use it to your advantage.

“Consider becoming the type of energy that no matter where you go, or who you’re with, you always add value to the spaces and lives of those around you.” -sophfie

@Gently trying to be fluid that can flow

[Tyrant616]

I think for me, it's constantly reminding myself what I believe in as a person. So one constant is treating others well. Another constant is self-love. Another constant is I don't believe in stealing or cheating or being mean. Those are things you can always believe in and tell yourself even when you have a shift of interest.