[CrayCentral]

I’ve only had few relationships I’d consider serious lasting around 12 months each and without prior awareness of my condition I’d always be the 1st person to break up and repeat that cycle until they’ve been strong enough to move on.

My last ex was a little different because she just wouldn’t let go even after 3 years apart so I had to complicate things for her to realise we’re not meant for each other.

She was most definitely a nymphomaniac whom I understand suffers from similar issues so my next question is have you ever dated someone as craycray as yourself? How did it turn out?

[All Is Revealed]

Originally Posted by CrayCentral

Have you ever dated someone as craycray as yourself? How did it turn out?

I had to laugh when I read the "craycray" part. Yes, I've dated many people as nuts as me, and I've dated even crazier ones.

I dated a guy 7 years ago who was very attractive. He would tell me one day, "I love you, I want to marry you, and I want to have kids with you." The next day he would wake up and say, "I hate you. I wish you death!"

Now if I would've said or done something to cause him to feel like this, I would understand. But I highly doubt 4 episodes of awesome sex and a wonderful dinner would cause someone to feel like this in less than 12 hours.

I told him being single is better than being with him. Days later, he completely vandalized my car. Then he stalked me for over 2 years until he got arrested for violating his restraining order. To this day, he manages to contact me through email. He told me after I dumped him, he will always love me and he will always hate me. I'm psychotic, so I kinda enjoy the attention.

[CrayCentral]

Originally Posted by All Is Revealed

I had to laugh when I read the "craycray" part. Yes, I've dated many people as nuts as me, and I've dated even crazier ones.


I dated a guy 7 years ago who was very attractive. He would tell me one day, "I love you, I want to marry you, and I want to have kids with you." The next day he would wake up and say, "I hate you. I wish you death!"


Now if I would've said or done something to cause him to feel like this, I would understand. But I highly doubt 4 episodes of awesome sex and a wonderful dinner would cause someone to feel like this in less than 12 hours.


I told him being single is better than being with him. Days later, he completely vandalized my car. Then he stalked me for over 2 years until he got arrested for violating his restraining order. To this day, he manages to contact me through email. He told me after I dumped him, he will always love me and he will always hate me. I'm psychotic, so I kinda enjoy the attention.

Oh gawd.. I was about to ask if you were somebody I knew - possibly one of my ex lovers? :P

Looking back at all my past relationships it’s the twisted truth just how much I hate that I love all the drama.

It’s scary trying to predict what the future holds for my future ex lover. People like me need a warning sign

[cryingontheinside]

I have finished some of the relationships I was in. One was with the father of my children. I was with him 7 years. I finished because he was a nightmare , abusive , controlling and a theif. He was a nut case when we broke up and staked me and constantly phoned me in the middle of the night to insult me and say he was going to commit suicide . I've deffinately dated someone more cray cray than myself. He was a drug addict and was violent as well as bizarre. He lived next door to me and he tried to force me to go home naked , physically dragging me out the door , he would over react about small things even using too much toilet paper or not replacing the toilet paper when it run out. He punched me repeatedly in the stomach because I refused sex with him. I ended it with him too by putting a letter through his door explaining I wanted no more contact with him again. I then moved out the following week so I fortunately never had to see him again.

[spidytolerate]

I´ve been in a relationship with someone whom i made as crazy as me, if that makes sense. He was crazy for staying with me, gosh. But he came to his senses eventually.

[JustAnUntakenName]

Yes, only once. He was much older than me and struggled with alcohol abuse (he is still struggling). I was going to varsity the next year and I didn't see us panning out at all. I didn't want to have to rescue the victim for the rest of my life, especially not while at school.

In every other relationship though, there are always moments when I want to end it because something went wrong but then I doubt myself and re-establish the relationship. In some cases, they were big wrongs and I would have been better off and less hurt had I stayed broken up with those people (I doubted and underreacted where I shouldn't have). In two cases, so far, the wrongs were minor things that I should have let slide and would have been much happier for it still being in the relationship with those people (I doubted and overreacted where I shouldn't have).

I have gained much experience but I still find it very difficult to judge when to act in which way. When I defend I shouldn't have and the other person gets hurt, and when I don't defend I should have and I get hurt. (When I talk about hurt I don't mean the little everyday hurts that occur often, I mean serious traumatizing hurt.)

As for whether I have ever been with someone as "crazy" as me? No, I've never been able to find another person that I fully relate to. I think I'd give my right arm for such a person to exist.

[Purple,Violet,Blue]

Yes, I tend to do the ending. My modus operandi for a lot of my romantic life has been to be the heartbreaker, not the heartbroken. I'm not proud of this; it's due to a fragile ego, not an inflated one.

I was never dishonest or unfaithful.

Life catches up with you, anyway, and one day I did get hurt. It was even more painful than I feared!

But I survived, had a few more ups and downs along the way, and came out believing that if you've never had your heart broken, you haven't been living life fully.

On the whole, I've been very lucky and met good men.

[Juni35]

I am great at getting with the wrong type of people. My last relationship was with someone who has NPD and I was with him for 6 years. We went through tons of break ups and getting back together. It was always me who did the ending of the relationship. Deep down I always knew the relationship was terrible for me but I was just so drawn to him. We clicked. Regardless of all the bull he put me through I just kept dealing with it because I wanted to keep him. I thought things would get better and they never did. We would go through periods where things were great.Then others he blamed me for every single thing you could imagine. I was never good enough. I allowed him to manipulate me and to mess with my mind to the point that I am still coping with it. I was diagnosed with the BPD during this relationship and I would question myself constantly if it was me over reacting and taking things the wrong way. He would make me feel like it was me or like I was crazy more or less. It was a roller coaster.
Before him I had a husband who was good to me. I just didn't see it. We had a lot of rough patches and I blamed him for everything that went wrong. I didn't treat him very good. I could of been a better wife. Much better. I left him for less. He treated me golden. We had issues like any couple would the problem was how I handled them. In a messed up way me winding up with the guy with NPD was almost like karma on me for how I had treated my husband. After the break up with the guy with NPD the husband was the one who was there to pick up the pieces and let me move back in with him. We are now working to see if we can be back in a relationship. I sit back thinking to the crap that I put that man through and how terrible I was and I just feel awful. Hoping with the new insight I can be better and make better choices.
And before all that relationships with me I usually did the ending. I usually picked the worst types of people to be in relationships with. Guys who loved to cheat on me, that were emotionally abusive and the list goes on.