[BDPpartner]

I'm having a really bad time controlling my pain at the moment but unfortunately my partner has BPD which means he has very little empathy with anyone which results in me being pushed into over doing things. And the consequences are I am often out in public places and in so much psychical pain that I can be crying and or trying to find a position which allows some relief such a knelt on a chair while cuddling the back of it. This is the point where my partner will apologies for insisting I push myself and for a few minutes he says the right things but its not long before that's forgotten

[Skeezyks]

Hello BDPpartner: I'm sorry you are having to endure so much ongoing pain. The Skeezyks also forces himself to keep going despite chronic pain. In my case, however, it is more a case of me not allowing myself to stop not to rather than my spouse insisting I push myself. So, for the most part, I have only myself to blame. Please try to do what you can to take care of yourself. No one should be forced to endure the amounts of pain it sounds like you're being pushed to...

[BDPpartner]

I've added a muscle relaxant to my meds to help deal with the intense spasms that I am currently suffering so I am managing a little better but it now means I take around 140 pain killers per week �� at the moment my kidneys etc seems to be unaffected but you have to wonder how long that will be the case. I hope you have found some relief from your pain. Chronic pain is something I would not wish on my worst enemy ��

[tallulahxoxo]

I wonder about my kidneys as well.

I am so sorry for your pain. It is tragic that good people have to hurt so much.

I will keep you in my prayers, I wish you peace.

Sent from my SGH-T999L using Tapatalk

Have you tried going to get a message? Those work. You get the right one that is gentle enough yet works the knots out of the muscles and what a difference it makes! Try one at least three times and you will feel the difference. Go for one hour each time... be kind to yourself with some kindness and learn to say NO to your partner or stay home and soak in a hot tub or take a pulsating hot shower... or sit on a messager at home... these things you can do...blessings and tc (((hugs)))

[BDPpartner]

I have tried massage, I had back problems from around 12yrs old and was actually warned that I most probably would be in a wheelchair by 25yrs old. Massage was very beneficial but I suffered an injury which resulted in damaged disks which often press on the nerves. Unfortunately it means that massage no longer helps but some physiotherapy helps but in order to release the server muscle spasms physio involves having someone dig their thumbs and fists into the muscles until they release it is extremely painful and leaves me covered in bruises and can't be done to often so meds are my only really option.