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Old Mar 04, 2013, 09:53 AM
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I noticed there is a notice under my profile name of how many "likes" I got or gave.
If it is decided that it is going to be kept apart of the PC features, it would be nice if you can choose not to participate in it and have a scoreboard on your profile page.

In my time here I have lost count of how many people have said "no one IRL likes me". While some posters might say, "oh I like it because ......" I think of the possible members that might see a low number of "likes" and somehow think about it as "no one liking them at PC" either. Or even, "no one seems to like what I say" , it can already be seen in how many members post with "I am sorry if this doesn't make sense or is too long etc at the end of their post".

I try to really consider what this site is for as I mentioned before. And I have noticed that the "depression" forum is the busiest forum here. There is also "many" that do question their self worth and struggle with "low self esteem" as well. When I looked at it on my profile page this morning and "I have actually been very low lately", it didn't set well with me. I honestly don't want to think about anything that might grade me somehow. And I do remember how bad I was when I joined PC and that my family members "didn't "like" how I couldn't "just"" and I didn't understand it either.

I am sure that "some" will be doing "well" enough here and might "like" the "like" and even boo hoo my opinion about "how" someone could think about it in a bad way. Well, I know what it is really like to be at such a low that I questioned my worth in a dangerous way. I joined PC for support, not to be judged somehow.

Doc John, your site really saved my life, I am sooo grateful for it. I have been a member for coming on two years now. PTSD has been so crippling for me, sooo much hard work day after day to understand it and learn how to cope better. I can't blame some of the long time members for being very loyal to your site and the significance of people who genuinely are struggling and so "very alone" to have a "safe" place to go and find "support" and "comfort". Mental illness is "so lonely" and a person already feels as if no one likes them because they "can't seem to function right" somehow. And "yes" there are a lot of sites that offer this "like" feature, but honestly "this site" is unique and you and others have done so well in your effort to make a "safe" site. I know that isn't easy because often "mental illness" can bring on a lot of anger and that can show up and can be "not safe" for others to deal with. You have done really well to "monitor that" too.

I have seen days where while there is a certain number of members on, there can also be 1,000 visitors reading the board. It's anyone's guess why some don't join and become members here. I do know that people do join and leave because they don't feel safe, or they question their "worthiness" somehow. I can speak from my own experience, I had many of those days myself. I have had days where I pushed myself to be brave and post my opinions and thoughts on things, and was anxious all day because I felt like "someone" was not going to "like" what I said somehow. Because my IRL situation was so bad, there was a big part of me "expecting to be pounded in some way" by someone at PC. I was so crippled by PTSD that every single day was so much work, God, it was soooo much work. I wanted the PTSD to go away sooo badly, I STILL WANT IT TO GO AWAY. I honestly don't know what I would have done without PC, because I didn't have anyone IRL to help me with it. And it took me a while to find a T that specialized in PTSD and could really "help me".

Well, it is "your site" and the decision is really "yours to make" and it might seem very trivial to you and my opinion may not be all that important to you. Well, none of the members know what you think about them really and if they are even "meeting your approval" somehow. Seems odd, I know, but they do tend to wonder being that you "are" the authority figure of the site.

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Old Mar 04, 2013, 11:33 AM
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I'm mostly indifferent to the like button itself, but I find the listing of those that "liked" a post in the body of the post itself really distracting. I also find the listing of how many likes were received very annoying.

I think the like button itself could remove some of the safety and support of the site. Suddenly, it becomes about how many likes your post can receive, rather than genuine support from others.
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Old Mar 04, 2013, 11:37 AM
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I don't think this community will change just because of a like button.

I participated in chats a bit for some time ago... and there were cliques here long before the like button. It's human interaction and the type of people who participates in it, not the buttons and features.
I mean, how is the "hugs" button different? Is hug-fest different from serial liking? Not really.
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Old Mar 04, 2013, 11:29 PM
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I am neutral on the like button. Can be good, can be bad, but the change is good. This site is growing and things need to change. Let's give it a chance and see what happens.
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Old Mar 08, 2013, 07:28 AM
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The "Likes" system has been disabled, largely due to the fact that it doesn't allow for repositioning of the display of the likes, or the likes button itself, making it interfere with our theme layouts.

Thanks for your feedback on this issue.

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Old Mar 08, 2013, 09:30 AM
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Old Mar 08, 2013, 11:04 AM
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Old Mar 08, 2013, 02:00 PM
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It was an interesting trial though.
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Old Mar 08, 2013, 03:58 PM
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I'm really glad it's gone, for many reasons.

But I'm also glad Doc John & co. are trying out new things, and that they are open to suggestions from the community.

Thank you, Doc John!!
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Old Mar 08, 2013, 04:04 PM
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I think it's a shame, I liked the like button.
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Old Mar 08, 2013, 04:11 PM
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The "like" button could have worked in a few places here, but I am glad this experiment didn't work out for reasons I mentioned before.

Pegs--here's a "like" for you. You have a good heart.

I agree that I am glad that DocJohn and crew are open to new ideas. Speaking of which: 1)...........; 2)...........,----------50).............
Hey, why is my PC account being closed?!
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Old Mar 09, 2013, 09:32 AM
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Like I said... it should have been a hart... LOL

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The "Likes" system has been disabled, largely due to the fact that it doesn't allow for repositioning of the display of the likes, or the likes button itself, making it interfere with our theme layouts.

Thanks for your feedback on this issue.

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Old Mar 09, 2013, 02:56 PM
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The "Likes" system has been disabled, largely due to the fact that it doesn't allow for repositioning of the display of the likes, or the likes button itself, making it interfere with our theme layouts.
Yeah, I noticed that. I never was quite sure where it was.
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Old Mar 09, 2013, 06:25 PM
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Thanks Doc John and crew for taking into account what members had to say.
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Old Mar 22, 2013, 01:25 PM
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Why do people dislike the "like" button? I'm pretty sure like Facebook has they'll be a choice as to whether you want to "like" something or not.
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Old Dec 05, 2014, 11:27 AM
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I don't know if I like it. People who don't get any "likes" are going to feel out of place and feel as though no one likes them even though that's not true. I'm not the "hugger" and "liker" type of person, and I feel it's turning our thread and posts in to a popularity contest. It's one of the reasons I avoid Facebook.
You nailed it perfect !
I am not a hugger in real life but for some reason it's easer to click on the hug bottom because it's on line .

But your statement was perfect
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