I don't know if anyone has ever suggested this
But i thought it might be a nice idea to have inferactions for warnings so that people can tell when they have broken certain rules, (especially in chat)

Possible trigger:

Tip-sharing (chemicals, methods of self-injury): 3
Tip-sharing (tools, places to self-injure etc.): 2
Discrimination (racism, sexism etc.) 4
Cybering / pornographic conversations: 5
Links to sexual content: 3
Sexual conversation with underage members: 9
Sexual exposure to / contact with underage members: 25
Discussion regarding major illegal activity (i.e. drug taking, underage drinking etc.): 2
Posting images of self-injury: 1
Posting images of a pornographic nature: 7
Links to pro-eating disorder / self-injury websites: 3
Intentional flaming, i.e. where the member has gone out of their way to upset another person: 7
Political discussion: 1
Religious discussion: 1
Offensive religious comments (anti- / pro-): 4
Links to other self-harm support sites: 1
Links / spam to advertise / beneficial / personal gain reasons: 3
Deliberately offensive / unpleasant / bullying remarks - very serious offence: 6
Talking in other languages / excessive use of "text speak": 1
Being deliberately rude, sarcastic and / or argumentative: 5

This is an example of a system i think would work in chat, especially

and when people get to a certain number of points, they get certain punishments, bans, warnings, etc.

I've noticed in chat there's a lot of people encouraging others to try illegal drugs, etc, so i thought this might be a good way to better monitor what goes on in chat instead of the current method

I don't use chat enough to really respond to this, as I don't know how it works (I mean i've been in chat, but I don't know how it's monitored)

I think with the forums, it's not really needed.

partly because of the report post feature (and if someone did spot something against the rules, they could report it)

and partly because of the trigger code, admins/ moderators sometimes edit posts to add trigger code/ remove stuff not needed in posts.

but someone else would have to comment on it being used in chat.

I can see where you're coming from with this suggestion, and I appreciate the effort you put into this post, but I don't think it's realistically something that can be kept track of effectively. Just my perspective.

[KarenSue]

Bad behavior in chat is only reported by others in the chat room to moderators in my understanding. There is no system by which PC monitors chat, it is up to members to report... which is not a job I want. I just take a step back and let the mean folks have their way. If it persists, I leave. (FYI: Some ppl lie about bad behavior just to attack another they don't like and moderators pay little attention to the provocation the "reporter" set up. It's a mine field to say anything in chat, imo, (except "Hi") and I've been criticized for saying Hi to the wrong person!

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by shattered sanity

I don't use chat enough to really respond to this, as I don't know how it works (I mean i've been in chat, but I don't know how it's monitored)

I think with the forums, it's not really needed.

partly because of the report post feature (and if someone did spot something against the rules, they could report it)

and partly because of the trigger code, admins/ moderators sometimes edit posts to add trigger code/ remove stuff not needed in posts.

but someone else would have to comment on it being used in chat.

its my understanding that people already know when they, their self have broken any of the rules here, the moderators do send out warnings and information of what rule was broken. they just do it by way of PM due to the rule that discussing administrative issues is not for public discussions on the boards.

I think of it this way... no one is perfect, everyone breaks rules at some point , if it was public domain then there would be discussions everywhere on the boards slamming, flaming and otherwise not being support to the one that has broken a rule. this site is a support group for mental disorders.

what if on the giving side of the general membership of knowing every single wrong someone does here and you have someone in a suicidal depressed state of mind...

for example I am in a highly suicidal state of mind and the general membership was told by a public tally all the wrongs I have done. how would that help my depression and suicidal state of mind. it wouldnt. would you really want to be part of pushing that member over the edge by requiring all their wrongs to be tallied and posted somewhere in their profiles or on the boards for all to see

now on the receiving end would you like all your own wrongs to be tallied and posted in your profile or anywhere else for all to see, how would that help your own mental problems?

suggestion... any one cam pm a moderator at any time and ask them how they feel their posting/ supportive history is doing here. Anyone can not delete any of the moderators pm that they send to members privately when members break any of the rules. maybe the members that want to tally their own wrongs/ wrong doings here can do so on their own computers.

my own take why cause other problems by pointing out their wrongs, when this is supposed to be a supportive group...

my point I can see many many ways in which this idea can go oh so so very wrong in so many ways.

[sabby]

Kori, I understand where you are coming from. Unfortunately, we don't keep lists of members who make mistakes or post/chat against guidelines as it would seem to be a punitive measure. That would make this site less than supportive which goes against our mission.

While chat can be a different beast than the forums, we do depend on members to report issues that come up in chat as we cannot be there 24/7 to monitor the chat rooms. Just like with the forums, we cannot possibly see every post that is made 24/7 and we depend on members to report things they see as being problematic and against guidelines.

When the Community Support Team has to deal with issues, there are many things we take into consideration to come to our decision about what action to take or take no action. We discuss things closely and that may be why you think we aren't doing anything about issues that come up.

The Community Support Team also has to follow the guidelines of this site. We take care of issues quietly via pm and we do not discuss those actions publicly or with other members as that would be unsupportive and breaking the guidelines.

Kori, remember that it's everyone's responsibility to do their best self care. If you find yourself in a situation that is upsetting or triggering to you, use the self care tools we have, report the problem to a Support Team member and if needed, remove yourself from the situation.

[DocJohn]

Thank you for the suggestion.

We made a conscious decision long ago not to use the built-in infraction system in our forum software, because it doesn't seem in keeping with a self-help support community meant to help people. We'd rather work with members who are having difficulty following the guidelines one-on-one, privately, than handing out negative points. There is no built-in infraction system within chat, so it would be impossible to implement this (without doing it manually, which would be a nightmare).

No system is perfect, and chat is particularly prone to people violating certain guidelines without always realizing or appreciating the fact. We appreciate folks would like to improve the experience, and I appreciate the suggestion.