[Trace14]

My GP said that my T's notes suggested I was maybe not ready for therapy. What does that mean ? Should I quit and stop wasting my money if there's no point to it?

[CANDC]

Does your T specialize in Complex PTSD? If not that may be a person that could help you better.

Rule of thumb: Is a person ready - yes if you answer yes or maybe:

1) Am I willing to face myself courageously?

2) Am I willing to change my life and routines if that is what it takes to get better?

3) Am I willing to accept the help of another person professionally trained in helping people out of complex ptsd?

Talk to your therapist about the goals of therapy and what you have or have not accomplished and any roadblocks you face.

Many people who are actively involved in Psych Central find it helps take them out of their own problems to develop empathy for others. And their problems though still there are more manageable. There are lots of compassionate people here that can make the load lighter by sharing and caring. Feel free to participate actively at Psych Central.

Some people find the forums give them the compassion and empathy they seek. http://forums.psychcentral.com

Please feel free to private message me or any of the Community Liaisons by left clicking on the name in blue to the left of their post) for questions or just to share.

[Trace14]

Thanks, I replied yes to all of them. There's not that many T's around here that specialize in C-PTSD, some may specialize in PTSD and/or Trauma, but I haven't seen any that specialize in C-PTSD. Would it make that much difference? I am suppose to see the T tomorrow so I will ask her what she means by me not being ready. I have been over the top ready to resolve this but she will not give me the guidance on what to do. If she thinks I'm not ready why continue with the therapy or tell me what to do to be ready? Thanks for your response back to me. I'm very frustrated right now.

[Trace14]

Well the statement was pretty much a kick in the gut. She asked if I wanted to see someone else and I told her I didn't have it in me to start over with someone new. I guess she could forward all my information to a new person, right? I don't want her to be my T if she doesn't want to be, or if she thinks it's going to be too much trouble or work. There is a lot to my case. I have more or less laid it out for her, so if she has questions or wants clarification all she has to do is ask. I go to my appointments even ask what she wants me to do, but she hardly ever answers that. She thinks that me taking a break from counseling might work out good for me. I told her chances would be I would be back after so long of a time, this just puts so many doubts in my mind if I am fixable , or if she wants to be my T or not. And if she wants to drop me as a client , why? What have I done or not done to make her feel that way?

[thepeaceisinthegrey]

It makes me sad to read this. Your T does not sound understanding at all. And why is she giving notes on you to your GP?? That's just your general practitioner right? I noticed this post was a week or so old and I'm wondering if you have been back to see her? Did you ask her those questions you posted? Because they are all very valid questions. I know starting over with someone new is difficult but it sounds like the therapeutic relationship you are in now isn't very healthy. Finding the right person is extremely important.

I just want to add that you are most certainly "fixable". You just need the right person.

PS- Not a lot of people specialize in C-PTSD. Most of them ARE PTSD/Trauma therapists but they are more then equipped to deal with C-PTSD.

[Trace14]

I didn't go back to the T, sent her a letter stating that. In some way I was expecting a response back from her in some way...a letter, email or phone call asking why. Nothing. I have contacted a couple of other T's that work on a sliding scale and who work with PTSD and Trauma. So I may go see one of those, or maybe not. If therapy is going in with a what I know is a problem and letting them confirm that is what I am paying them for then no thanks. I'll get a Magic Eight Ball for that. I guess I was expecting too much from a T. I was okay with the T contacting my GP, I fell like we need to work as a team to deal with this. maybe that wasn't such a good idea though.

[thepeaceisinthegrey]

I had that happen to me in the past couple of weeks. I left my psychiatrist a message telling her that I would no longer be seeing her and got no response from her either. It was no loss to me though because I never really liked or trusted her. I have an appointment with a new psych in a couple of weeks and I am hoping it goes much better for me at this new office.

I'm sorry that your experience with this T was so awful. But please don't let this one unethical person deter you from seeking help from someone who truly will care about you and want to help you. There are some of those out there! I don't know if you've tried this but psychologytoday.com is a good resource for finding a T in your area. It lists what they specialize in, if they have sliding scale, take insurance, etc. And a lot of them will provide a free phone consultation. It might be worth a shot. And for what it's worth, I don't think you were expecting too much from your T at all. You expected her to do her JOB and that is what she should have done. She really dropped the ball.

I have given my T permission to contact my PCP before but she asks me every time before she wants to contact her and it's always only about health concerns. She would never share notes or anything.

[Open Eyes]

I agree with thepeaceisinthegrey here, this therapist is not going to help you, you are better off looking for a different one the "can" work with you. Good ones "are" out there, sometimes one has to meet with more than one in order to find the right match.

[Trace14]

At this point I don't know that I can go through another T. If I knew for sure that it would help, I would go, but I'm having a hard time believing that there is hope and this may be the defining point in my life and it's not okay.

[thepeaceisinthegrey]

Originally Posted by Trace14

At this point I don't know that I can go through another T. If I knew for sure that it would help, I would go, but I'm having a hard time believing that there is hope and this may be the defining point in my life and it's not okay.

I'm in a state of hopelessness right now. I often ask myself will there ever be hope? But then my T says how important I am and how important my life is and I feel a little bit of hope growing.

I said before...you just need the right person to help you. Please believe me...there is someone out there for you!!!