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Trace14 · May 15, 2017, 02:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Gus1234U

i've worked thru most of my childhood traumas, in various ways, long before they were considered a 'syndrome'. i'm still working on de-tox'ing the various ways in which my brain damage has impacted my life,, not always so successfully. but i find that listing recent traumas just upsets me, and makes things worse, so i don't do that.

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I agree, it's not for everyone to list the traumas. But it gave me a sense on what I needed to work on first. Which ones were more of a burden to my life now. I'm hoping what JD said was true that not all traumas have to be worked through. That once the brain is programed to deal with trauma that the others will follow suit.

SaharaSon · May 15, 2017, 08:45 PM

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Originally Posted by (JD)

What is good news is that with modern brain research and the mind (neuroscience, neurobiology, epigenetics) they have found that once you deal with even one mild trauma (and any trauma for that matter) that in doing so (with a professional or using such methods) you have told the brain HOW to file that trauma.

Not only does it file that trauma but will continue "on it's own" to seek out all such trauma in your memories and file those as well.

Pure and simple: you do not have to work through each and every trauma occurrence to heal.

JD, that file is the forgiveness file. We must forgive our oppressors, we must forgive ourselves. By our forgiveness we shall be delivered. We shall be healed.
Mercy has been shown to me for I should not be here. As a Messianic Jew my spirit soars when I forgive on the one hand and give thanks on the other. Shalom.

katydid777 · May 17, 2017, 05:43 AM

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Originally Posted by SaharaSon

Katydid my experience now is that it is good to talk to someone about your experiences. He doesn't have to get into gory details, just speak in more general terms. Keeping it inside all the time is not good. On the other hand obsessing about traumas doesn't help him to stabilize or normalize back into society. He needs to find a balance. Lots of association and time with kids and animals helps me alot. A lot of hugs from mom helps alot, too.

Shalom.

I try to give him all the support I can. The hard part is he lives in Maryland, and I live in Georgia. I do plan on visiting him ether in June, or July, witch ever works out better, and it will be a wonderful break for me.

SaharaSon · May 17, 2017, 01:12 PM

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Originally Posted by katydid777

I try to give him all the support I can. The hard part is he lives in Maryland, and I live in Georgia. I do plan on visiting him ether in June, or July, witch ever works out better, and it will be a wonderful break for me.

Katydid, that is great! That's so good that you are keeping close tabs on each other. There's nothing like communication to help solve problems and let each other know that you love and support each other. I'm certain seeing each other in person will be very good for both of you.

My wife uses I think skyp or other software to stay in touch with her mom and sister on Ipad (Apple hardware). It is so great to be able to see each other in real time like that. You may want to see if you can get you computer set up like that. It can really make a big difference. Try it.

Shalom.

katydid777 · May 18, 2017, 04:53 AM

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Originally Posted by SaharaSon

Katydid, that is great! That's so good that you are keeping close tabs on each other. There's nothing like communication to help solve problems and let each other know that you love and support each other. I'm certain seeing each other in person will be very good for both of you.

My wife uses I think skyp or other software to stay in touch with her mom and sister on Ipad (Apple hardware). It is so great to be able to see each other in real time like that. You may want to see if you can get you computer set up like that. It can really make a big difference. Try it.

Shalom.

I tried to do skyp, but I have satalight internet, and it isn't fast enough to do that, or even movies, so we talk about 1 or 2 times a week.

RockabillyMama80 · May 21, 2017, 06:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Trace14

If you had to make a list of your traumas, could you make a list of the tops ones that are impacting you the most? Have you worked on all of them in therapy or just one? What therapy has worked best for you. Is there anything you would have done different?

My list is long. And one I should start making!

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