[jazzy123456]

angry, angry, angry...though...i am. and i usually want to punch someone in the face when i feel this way...what do you do when you feel overwhelmed and KNOW you should distract yourself...but, instead, you dwell and dwell on the problem...even though you know you shouldn't! Isn't that horrible! lol. i know what i could do...but, i just won't do it...i could watch t.v. or play on the computer or eat something, instead i choose to think and think ...dwell and dwell...maybe when a situation feels unbearable underneath and it feels like it just needs to be resolved, nothing inside of you is satisfied by the mundane, repititious experiences of life...its like nothing can rest in me until I solve the issue but, I can't solve it until next monday because that is when I see my "T." ...so then its pointless to just sit and dwell and dwell...yet, I do it anyway...why do we do sooo many things that are so bad for us, and we know they are but, we continue doing them???

[Warrioress]

why do we do sooo many things that are so bad for us, and we know they are but, we continue doing them???

Why indeed? I don't think there's any logical and sensible answer for this question. You are perfectly free to do whatever you'd like to do and when you know something is bad for you, you shouldn't do it! Simple as that! There are nasty thoughts? Fight them! Distract yourself using any means possible. If you don't want to watch TV, then get yourself a punchbag (or even a pillow!) and punch, do some physical exercise (trust me, it helps) throw darts, etc. etc. etc. There are a million methods of distraction most of which you haven't tried. Nothing is ever going to get better if you rely one hundred percent on your 'T'

[LittleForgetMeNot]

I think we dwell on things that are completely nonsense, or dwell on issues that we feel NEED to resolve because it's the human nature to find answers to everything. If it wasn't then we wouldn't know so many things about life we do today.. but even so there are things we just CAN'T figure out the reason to, so we cannot resolve them, but we insist and insist upon it instead of just letting it go.

I get that anger, when people do things that are so utterly stupid, or if someone is just a completely jerk for no reason what so ever. I get mad not only because it makes no sense to me, but because it affects me and I'm dwelling on it. The more I dwell the angrier I get and the angrier I get the more I dwell. The cycle continues, and I pull my hair out from stress and frustration.

I think it all comes down to being able to work with your emotions instead of trying to fight them. I know that if I rant to myself on a journal (which is letting myself feel angry), by the time I'm half way through or finished, I won't care anymore about my issue. I can move onto other things right away, without irritating other people with my anger or stressing myself out keeping it all inside. But in reality, typing out that long 600 paragraph essay on how my ex bf is a total jerk, doesn't do anything! It doesn't solve my problem; it doesn't tell me why he's an insensitive, selfish, crybaby; it doesn't make him feel bad or care about what he did; but it helps me get over it.

You just gotta find something that works for you! For some it's exersie, other's screaming, beating things up, writing, painting, dancing, songwriting, composing, etc. There's usually something out there for everyone!

[MDDBPDPTSD]

I wish I had some wonderful words of wisdom for you. The only thing I can I offer is to let you know that you are not alone. I am right there in that rut with you. I am going over the same bad stuff over & over, strugglingling to find a reason to wait until my next appoitment tomake some sense of all this mess that makes up my life. My instatinct is to just withdraw from all of it. Never leave the house except for doctors appts again. People hurt people. i just can't get over it. Can't get past it. It saddens me. It angers me. It frustrates me. It depresses me. It sickens me. I hate humans. I hate being a human. I hate being me. There is no way out.

Originally Posted by jazzy123456

angry, angry, angry...though...i am. and i usually want to punch someone in the face when i feel this way...what do you do when you feel overwhelmed and KNOW you should distract yourself...but, instead, you dwell and dwell on the problem...even though you know you shouldn't! Isn't that horrible! lol. i know what i could do...but, i just won't do it...i could watch t.v. or play on the computer or eat something, instead i choose to think and think ...dwell and dwell...maybe when a situation feels unbearable underneath and it feels like it just needs to be resolved, nothing inside of you is satisfied by the mundane, repititious experiences of life...its like nothing can rest in me until I solve the issue but, I can't solve it until next monday because that is when I see my "T." ...so then its pointless to just sit and dwell and dwell...yet, I do it anyway...why do we do sooo many things that are so bad for us, and we know they are but, we continue doing them???

why do we do sooo many things that are so bad for us, and we know they are but, we continue doing them???

Hello, jazzy123456. Why do you think you do things that are bad for you? Is there one thing you could do today to make your life more meaningful?