[lxegirl]

i think its safe to say i probably have anger management issues. depression already makes me soo irritated during the day, i dont want to deal with anyone. occasionally i'll just be so on edge and one thing will happen that will just ruin everything and i'll just flip out and just lose it. idk what to do. my mom just ignores my issues and say they arent there, but yet complains about everything i need to change about myself, but she wont help me. i dont have meds. i dont have a therapist. i'm pretty much hopeless, i'm probably gonna end up as a serial killer or something....at least i'd get some form of treatment then....

[BatsAndButterflies]

Try letting your anger out in some sort of positive manner... like exercise or something. Or punching a pillow... I scream into a pillow and drum to get out my anger...

And when you sit down and talk to your mom about it, make sure she KNOWS you are being completely serious about this and that she should take it seriously too.

[Leed]

I'm with "Bats" ~ when i get overly irritated, I go in my room and scream into my pillow and kick my feet on my bed. That way at least the cops don't get called.

It's hard when you can't get any therapy or talk to anyone. Can you talk to a counselor at school?? They're trained in issues such as this, and they might be able to help. Then if the counselor thinks you need professional help, he/she can talk with your Mom about getting you a therapist.

Best of luck & keep us posted. Hugs, Lee

[disguise123]

i went through alot of my life with out of control anger. I know how hard it can be, its hard when you are acting in ways that you just dont want to.
Can you see a doctor by yourself? It may really help

[lxegirl]

I have talked to her. i went on meds for 2 months. I went to a therapist for like 8 Months. She made me stop everything and the school counselor reported her because she's withholding treatment..nothing happened with that. Theres nothing i can do.

[disguise123]

who is withholding treatment? You need to see another doctor.

[Open Eyes]

Originally Posted by lxegirl

i think its safe to say i probably have anger management issues. depression already makes me soo irritated during the day, i dont want to deal with anyone. occasionally i'll just be so on edge and one thing will happen that will just ruin everything and i'll just flip out and just lose it. idk what to do. my mom just ignores my issues and say they arent there, but yet complains about everything i need to change about myself, but she wont help me. i dont have meds. i dont have a therapist. i'm pretty much hopeless, i'm probably gonna end up as a serial killer or something....at least i'd get some form of treatment then....

Maybe you should talk to a school coucelor and see if there can be a way you can get help on your own.

I also wonder, do you check and see if there is a pattern to this, could it be attached to PMS? I know that many young girls and women go through the cycle where they are really on edge and can explode at any moment, even feel rage. If so then I do think that there are medications that can help with this.

I know myself that I could feel it and even if I tried to remain calm and consciously try to avoid external confrontations, well, if anyone pushed, I would react. You may even bring that up with a councelor, if it is a woman, if not perhaps the school nurse can help and guide you.

Try to keep a journal and see what you find. For young girls this can be magnified and difficult to contain.

Open Eyes

[lxegirl]

i'm only 16, i legally cant take any drugs without my mothers consent. the counselor has talked to her. and the people at the hospital... and she isnt doing anything. i guess i'm a bit more irritated when i'm on my period, but not that much of a difference. i still feel like ***** everyday regardless.

and rapidcycla: my mom is withholding treatment. she wont let me see a doctor.

[disguise123]

ah
Hmmmm i think you need to rattle those cages harder.
Keep talking to the school counsellor, any trusted teachers, relatives? Friends parents?
its not about making your mum the bad guy, but if your rages really are out of controll, then you need some sort of help. What about childrens services in your area?
I dont know what country you are from but do you live somewhere where they have a kids helpline number ?

[Open Eyes]

Originally Posted by lxegirl

i'm only 16, i legally cant take any drugs without my mothers consent. the counselor has talked to her. and the people at the hospital... and she isnt doing anything. i guess i'm a bit more irritated when i'm on my period, but not that much of a difference. i still feel like ***** everyday regardless.

and rapidcycla: my mom is withholding treatment. she wont let me see a doctor.

Ive seen your picture your a pretty girl. Oh, 16 is hard, can you go to a gyno for a check up and talk to the gyno? Many girls go through that stage where they are changing so much hormonally and really feel awful.
See if you can get onto the computer and research herbs that may help stablize moods. Some of them really work.

Are you being harassed by others or bullied? I might have mentioned that I had mono at your age and didn't know it, I ended up in the hospital.
It is very common in teens can be spread by just a casual kiss.

Yes, it can be hard, they don't call it raging hormones for nothing. I dont know if you are on birth control, that can cause side effects that can make you feel terrible.

Just trying to be helpful,
Open Eyes

[turquoisesea]

Sometimes people, including parents, who have not suffered any mental problems can not understand these issues, how serious they are, and how important treatment is.

I would continue to talk to the counselor and ask for advice on how to work with your mother. Right now it's tough because she's legally responsible for you. Don't give up hope though, because there are a LOT of things you can try without medication. Ask the counselor if he/she can give advice to this.

Here's some things that helped me ... it took me a while to get appropriate care. Some of these I foudn out AFTER the fact though.

1. Exercise. It may sounds stupid but for a percent of the population it can act as an antidepressant. May not work for you but it's worth a try - if you can, try to do aerobic (jogging, etc) for 20 minutes at least 3 times a week, for at least 2 weeks and see if you feel any better. Again it's worth a try even if it doesn't work.

2. Establish some good coping mechanisms for symptoms. When you are angry try to find an activity that calms you down that you can go to. Like playing a computer game, whatever. Just something. Have things in your room or in your bag that you can get to within a few minutes that can help you either relax, get happier, etc. These are not cures just ways to cope.

3. Reach out to friends - can you go to friends houses more often and stuff? Sometimes it can distract you.

4. You've already done this but keep going to the counselor, this person can come up with more healthy coping mechanism and in your case help you get the care you need.

I'm sure there are more but that's what I think of. Don't give up hope - I know at 16 this can feel like the end of the world but really, in just 2 years you can get the medications yourself *hugs*

[madisgram]

LXE, could you go talk with your school couselor about how you are feeling and also mom dismissing your concerns? he/she may be able to intervene with your mom. your feelings seem real to me...i'm sorry you're not heard at home. thank goodness tho you are aware of them and desire to try to gain help. and i think your anger may stem from being so frustrated.
your faith will strengthen you..."ask and it shall be given you. knock and ye shall find."

[lxegirl]

madisgram:the school counselor has already intervened. he reporter her.

Turqoisesea: i do all of those things and it does help, but i still dont feel good.

open eyes: i'm not like maturing right now...its been a few years since i've even gotten taller lol. i'm not being harassed. i'm not on birth control. i'm just depressed and have issues and ugh.

rapidcycla:theres so much more stuff child services puts before me, i guess its not that important.

[disguise123]

ah, dont feel that your not important, you are. What about a hospital? Is there one near by? If they have a mental health service maybe they can help you?
Im sorry that we cant help you more, your best hope is finding adults there who will advocate for you,
You can always talk to us.
Do you notice what sort of situations are creating the anger? Certain people, places, times of day?
Would your mum let you go on the pill? It may help if it is made worse by hormones?
Do you recognise when this anger is coming?
How long until you are old enough to make your own medical decisions?

[lxegirl]

lol thats alot of questions. there is a hospital but my mom wouldn't pay for it. pretty much everything pisses me off. my mom or sisters are the tipping point really. when i'm at home i'm allowed to freak out, so i do. at school i just yell at someone else about it. i dont think its made worse by hormone. 2 years till i can make my own choice. thats a long time.

[disguise123]

hmmm, so who does your behaviour affect?
So there are no consequences for you for this behaviour?
You must have been given some ideas from the counsellor as to why this is happening.
How much do you want this to stop?
What did the medication give you that you cant achieve alone?
Yes lots of questions.

[disguise123]

how else does your depression show itself?

[lxegirl]

well when i had a therapist she said that she thought i was chemically depressed...i believe that. cuz i still feel depressed when everything is going fine. the meds made me feel better. that simple. i cant help it. the behavior affects anyone i'm around. obviously. i'm either pissed off or i just feel depressed so i either withdrawl or complain.

[disguise123]

all you can do darl is do what you can do to help yourself then. Whats in your power, try eat , sleep , exercise and keep talking to people.
Keep telling your mum how ur feeling.
Im sorry i cant help more