[madisgram]

i've researched the topic of anger to help me overcome what i call rage that occurs when i feel invalidated. i found this article helpful to assert myself and my feelings in a healthier way.

How to Express Anger in a Positive and Healthy Way

by Phil Starn on February 23, 2010
We’ve all had it, that moment when we begin to see red. We can feel our blood pressure increase and the blood in our veins turn into adrenaline. Someone has just made us very angry and we’re about to express our anger in a very destructive way.
Thankfully, we can prevent the destruction and learn to express anger in a constructive way....http://www.philstarn.com/how-to-expr...d-healthy-way/

[Silent_tsol]

This was a good article for me. I've somewhere along the lines learned to suppress anger to the point of not even knowing what anger is. Maybe if I work on it, and read this kind of thing I will be able to convince myself that anger can be/is healthy

[madisgram]

welcome, tsol, to pc. my initial problem was stuffing anger too. then in therapy i learned anger turned inward=depression. i suffer from depression so acting on the equation was natural for me and only intensified my depression. it kept me from blowing up at someone. now i'm searching for ways to express myself constructively when i feel anger. it will take some practicing on my part.

[ECHOES]

I have practiced just noticing when I'm feeling anger, and when it began so that I can pinpoint in me what it is that makes me feel angry. Not being heard or understood is one reason and I can tolerate that because I know that the other person does not have the intention of not hearing or understanding me. I do have the opportunity to talk more, to rephrase my thoughts, and to even say directly that I am angry or frustrated or disappointed or hurt, etc.

[yellowted]

a good article thank you, unfortunately after years of supressing anger (well all feelings) i have recently began expressing them in ways it is hard to control especially anger and frustration, it takes a lot before I express my anger, but when i blow i really blow and heaven help anyone in my path!!!!
trying to stay calm and think it through is impossible when i feel violated and disempowered!

[Silent_tsol]

Originally Posted by madisgram

welcome, tsol, to pc. my initial problem was stuffing anger too. then in therapy i learned anger turned inward=depression. i suffer from depression so acting on the equation was natural for me and only intensified my depression. it kept me from blowing up at someone. now i'm searching for ways to express myself constructively when i feel anger. it will take some practicing on my part.

Thanks, my therapists is of the belief that anger is a cover emotion so not feeling it is more of a good thing. But as I get to know her more I think she might start understanding more that it's all just a cover

[RunningEagleRuns]

I hold my anger in too much. In the end it blows up, just like the article says.

[Silent_tsol]

I've never really had an anger blow up. Eventually it just converts to more anxiety which isn't good either

[madisgram]

Originally Posted by tsol25

Thanks, my therapists is of the belief that anger is a cover emotion so not feeling it is more of a good thing. But as I get to know her more I think she might start understanding more that it's all just a cover

read your post. my T explained to me that anger is a secondary emotion resulting from a primary emotion-FEAR. sure makes sense to me when i reflect on it.

[myart]

Thanks the article gave me a chance to confirm what happen to me last weekend and I just did what it said naturally. It was painful to sort out all my emotions but I did it!

[beauflow]

thanks for sharing that, reassured me on the being quiet part... but to express the request part I almost forget a lot of times, will need to work on that. Great article thanks for sharing.

[razeldo]

Great advice guys!