no life goals or direction- anyone else?

i know that a lot of people here probably have ideas of where they want their life to go, but for what ever reason can't get their yet... but i'm wondering- anyone here with absolutely no goals, no desires, 1 of those people that could die tomorrow and not care less.

i'm talking someone who gets up in the morning and thinks to themselves, their is nothing in this whole entire world that i'd like to achieve.

how do you guys deal with it?

do you guys ever worry about it?.- i know i do sometimes... it's like how i meant to move forward if i don't even know what i want to do

Hi Shattered Sanity, what you wrote is how it is for me. Latey most days I have just been sleeping because that's all I can do right now as there is no point because no one want's to employ me and even if I did get employed, dam never impossible chance right now, I would probably still be just and bad and break down or get fired. To tell the truth I only walk away from jobs early on because I am not sure if I could take actually being fired. It's sort of like the same as saying to yourself mean things as that's ok and it stops the things bully say hurting because I know what I am and then what they say can't hurt.

Sorry this isn't really a reply to you or help. You can only find one small thing to cling onto that's a step and once you are safe from there and settled with that thing then you can explore other routes and ways but you must have soild foundations in something to be able to build yourself back up again working through the steps that one day may lead you where you desire to be in life.

For me I guess there are a few small things that keep me here. I can only hope that in time I can again achieve or get back to working so I can make my exsistance alright in a sense and not be the me I am at the moment, that's what mostly keeps me going. The possibility of it just may happen and I would never know unless I sort of tried to see if it did indeed happen.

wishing you all the best MIP

i suppose we all have the small things that keep us going... for me, it's music, the forums, tv, writing in my journal... but that's no life

i often worry that i'll never find my purpose or goal at all- perhaps this was meant to be

I was like this for a long time. When I first came out of the hospital in 2006 I was in a day treatment program and it was groups all day long for like 7 hours. It drained me. I got absolutely nothing out of it. Then when I graduated from the program I sat around for 5 years. 5 years! What got me out of it is I thought about what I wanted in my life. What do you need that would change the way you feel about life? For me it was getting a boyfriend. A good guy with stability and future goals so I can emulate and look up to. I guess I needed a positive figure in my life. Once I met him everything fell into place. I went to school and I found a job I love. But nothing is perfect because ailments of my illness still haunt me. But I am definitely better off than what I was.

I guess the point of my post on your thread is that I understand where you are and I spent a long time in that place. I used to have no sense of time and no sense of purpose. But I got out of it, and I believe you can too. Set a small goal. Even if you think it is totally stupid and insignificant.

Have heard it said that "the journey is the goal"

I understand what you mean about directions and no life goals, shattered sanity. I go from appointment to appointment struggling to change my outlook. For me, some days are bad and others better. (((Shattered sanity)))

No worry about a specific goal at this time. No need to feel guilty about it. Separate Depression from goals. Work on the excitement of not having a "Goal", thus you will have much to chose from and experience. No need to be narrow minded by a goal.

Hobbies can sometimes help with this, as they bring to light interests you have that you may want to pursue as a career.

We are such a Goal driven society. The small things are realy Big Things. Continue are you are and you have acheved your Goals well. Good Luck.

Although I would have told you that I had no goals and there was nothing I wanted to accomplish, this was only part of the picture. What I really meant was that within the limited context of what I felt I was worthy of, I had no goals and there was nothing I wanted to accomplish. And for that matter, within that limited context, there was so little left of me that I wouldn't have hired myself for any decent job. The point is that now that circle has expanded and I have a larger limited context to work within. Life is looking more interesting and I feel more valid and capable of being worth a good job to pay for all of these new possibilities. The problem is that it takes a lot of energy to expand and generally it has to come from outside once that circle has shrunk so far that there is not enough to work with on the inside. If you do not have that energy - if you do not have goals - if you do not have wants - learn to ask for them. And I'm just going to suggest that you ask to be shown how to be the best / highest qualities you have, more of the time. The negative qualities tend to be more dramatic and they call attention to themselves, but your good side tends to be boring and less likely to act out to get attention. The more time you give your good side attention, though, the more it grows until you realize it is there more of the time. Maybe it is like sibling rivalry. The good kid doesn't tend to get the attention and encouragement and starts to feel invisible, while the "bad" kid acts out all kinds of dramas to try to earn the attention. Anyway I feel I am beginning to slip off topic.

Shattered sanity my uncle used to say this too shall pass meaning that however bleak it is that can pass in time and new things can unfold i understand the no goals or direction maybe at this time do not worry about that and just concentrate on finding one new thing, that interests you that when you are feeling well could be a hobby or an outlet. Best thoughts coming your way

I take it one day a time. Or one minute a time. I'm need to focus on the most important issue. Once I consistently have a set of days where I can feel positive about, then another goal needs to develop with or without pdoc counsellor. Right now, there is appointments, errands, and group therapy. Counsellor trying to push me, but I am confident in stating my boundaries.