coping with emotions for someone who doesn't want me

I have so many feelings for this girl. She never wanted me though. I thought I could get over her. I deleted her from facebook, and blocked her. I didn't want to do this, but I had to. I thought it would work. It didn't. She still pops up in my dreams, leaving me happy when I wake up, and then immediately sad once reality hits. I don't know what to do. I feel it's past the point of simply just "moving on". I've been told to do that for the past two years. It obviously never worked. Her beautiful face and figure are cemented in my mind. I just don't know what to do. I can't stop thinking about her now. All I want to do is text her. But say what? Will she be pissed that I blocked her? Will she even care?

I'm so sorry Roland. I know how hard it can be to feel unwanted and rejected. How long were you and this girl and item and does she know you still have feelings for her?

Hi Rolan86,

Have you thought about what little you have to lose by contacting her? If she was on your facebook she was your friend. Maybe she still is.

Thinking about her and being stuck will just keep you stuck. If you contact her at least you have tried...maybe unstuck.

I have been there and I have done the texts, voicemails, and emails. I have never gotten a response, but I do it because I really want to know how he is doing. We were intensely close for a too short time. I always carry the hope that we will reconnect, but I expect the rejection. Somehow I can accept it and it doesn't hurt so bad.

This guy is one in a million for sure. I bet your lady is.

Try it?

i think i agree with what's been said here

if you don't contact her, you will never know how she feels- and once you know that, you can perhaps get a better perspective

thanks for the advice. I have considered it all. and yes, the whole "what have I got to lose?" reasoning is really the only reason I am thinking about texting her. And for those who say, just call! It's so much more personal! I have. I called her for her birthday and she really appreciated it. Of course she forgot all about mine. Then I called her later to ask if she wanted to hang out, and she just said she would be busy the rest of the summer. Honestly how is someone "busy for the rest of the summer?" Sure, you can be really busy, but never once make time to see someone? I am a college student pursuing two majors and took a ridiculously difficult chemistry course. Believe me. I know what it means to be busy for months on end. But it wouldn't matter, if she wanted to see me, I would MAKE time. Even if it meant skipping sleep and cramming late into the night. And also with the calls, it's just about useless. I get nervous and stutter like crazy. I basically have to mentally numb myself to actually get over the rush of OMG!! Am I actually about to call this girl?? And SPEAK to her in a couple of seconds???

Point is, calling her really isn't an option. I always freeze up and stutter and turn into an awkward mess. I felt like to much of a creep messaging her on facebook. The whole stupid
Heyy
hey
How's it going?
fine
oh ok. thats good.
5 minutes go by.
sooo... how's life?
It's been good just busy..
ah ok
hey so would ever want to hang out?
*has logged off

I am so done with that!

Text seems to be the only option.
And what would I SAY to her in a text?
I was thinking just simply "hey"?
Should I apologize for blocking her? Should I even mention it? Honestly I don't feel sorry for blocking her. She made me feel like less of a person and really REALLY has hurt my feelings.

Hey, I'm dealing with that with someone now too. We had this amazing connection online and on the phone (I've known this person for many many years, but we lost touch and had recently reconnected) and they said they were in love with me. This is someone I would not have normally gone for, but I thought hey.. this person is great and we both felt like eachother's soulmates. However, I found out after I had developed strong feelings for this person that they were married with children and had been living away from the family for a year. Apparently, to this person, it was just being lonely and vulnerable. They reunited with the family over Christmas break and now all of a sudden it's like nothing ever happened to that extent between us. I don't want to be a homewrecker or split up a family by any means and I feel guilty and like a bad person that I still hope it happens someday. Despite all that has happened in this situation, this is not a bad person honestly. Deep down, I will always be in love with them. It is painful. I'm sorry you're going through it too.

Hi rolan86, the first question I have is how do you know that she doesn't want you? Have you asked her? Does she know how you feel about her, or does she just think you are friends? I know it's hard to reach out, and tell someone that you care about your feelings for fear of rejection but if she doesn't know your how you feel she may not realize that you are hurting. Just getting over it isn't easy. I suggest you talk to her or write her a letter If you get no response then you know where you stand and you can try to move forward in your life. I'm sorry you are hurting! Best of Luck to you!