I will never get close to anyone again.

I don't get very close, or attached to other people, but it happened 6 months ago with someone. We got pretty close, I told this person things I've never told other people before, he told me stuff too, I got the feeling we'll be friends for life, I thought we were really connecting with each other, I finally found someone who's like me.

Suddenly, he stops talking.... for no reason..., doesn't even acknowledge my existence, like I'm some ghost he can't see. It made me feel really, really horrible. I decided to ignore him too, but then I realized I'm not that kind of person, so I confront him, I ask him if there's a problem between us.

He says something along the lines of 'Forget whatever happened between us, I tried to be your friend, but it just didn't workout for me'

What does that even mean? How can I be ok with this? I feel like trash, I think I was treated like a piece of paper, he just crumpled me up and threw me into the trash after he scribbled all over me.

I want everything I said to him, back. every emotion I shared with him, I need them all back. They're not cheap, I value them. The way he just got 'rid' of me, made me doubt my OWN character, I'm starting to wonder if I have flaws.

As fate would have it, I come across this person every single day of my life right now, I'm trying to change it, get out of his way. I want some kind of closure, it's stressing me out, really bad. Sometimes I want to let all my anger out on him, let him know how I horrible I feel,

I think I was fooled, I won't ever do the same mistake again, It hurts so much right now. Maybe I'm too weak, but I'll never get close to someone again.

He was being quite Honest with you. Maybe he felt to voleranable when he started sharing his more emotional side, and started feeling to close. This can be scary for some. This might be the reason why he backed off. Do not take this to personally.

I'm trying to move on, it's so hard, because I can't seem to move on.

This person may have been looking for something that he needed and, through no fault of your own, he was unable to find it. Don't put this on yourself. This is the other person's issue, not yours.

Aw! I'm so sorry. This is truly heartbreaking to have someone treat you this way. I had this Exact thing happen to me. It was stunning, torturous and I was a wreck.

I wrote. Volumes. And more volumes of all the pain and analyzing I could do. It did help and I did come to realize that it really wasn't me at all. And it really isn't you at all.
But you do need to allow yourself time to grieve this loss. It is like a death and treating that way will make some sense when you start to go through the steps.
Look up the 7 step of grieving, which include shock, anger, etc. You will find that you will visit some of them for longer than others, you may go back to some for a while, but you will learn to let this go. You will be stronger for it.

It sounds like your friend was more self absorbed than you realized at the time.
Please don't let their lack of feeling inform anything you know about yourself. You are clearly a person who feels deeply and that is a great gift.

You will be able to share it again with someone who deserves it. I believe this with all my heart.
Many Hugs to you.

I am so sorry this has happened. It really is an emotional wrench and we all go through this at times. Sometimes things don't work out like we want to and it's nothing to do with you.

Please don;t let this affect you too much, he's not worth it quite frankly x

Wow, that was deep. I am so sorry that some as*hole did that to you. I hope, with time, you will find, ypou are a very special person, and God does not make mistakes. Sincerely, Guy W.

Yes, GuyW ~ there are plenty of us, the trusting and kindhearted, for the Emotional Vampires of the world to prey on. It is on us to recognize them and not let them sink their fangs into us. The hope is, we love, we learn. I like to say that we can heal from this but it leaves a scar, not an open wound. Scars are tough and not easily reopened...

I feel 'cheated', 'ripped off'. I want everything back, I regret telling him about personal stuff, so I want it back . but I have no control over other people.

I don't care about his friendship anymore, but I want all my confessions back.

I feel like I'm disposable, like people can use me and dispose me whenever they feel like it.

I'm a person, not a piece of paper.

Guys, I saw the best advice ever for this:

Stop running towards someone god keeps trying to save you from.

Now I am not really religious- but I tell you this helps! Amen!!

I wish I could, I'm trying, but my poor little mind has never experienced something like this before.

Hi Brokenentity: I just want to add two points. First, as I wrote to another PC'er a day or two ago, no one ever gets to go back. So when you say you want the things back that you shared with this person, you're really seeking the impossible. All you can do is to move forward from where you are now. You can't know what's behind this person's attitude. You've made a good faith effort to reconnect & you've been rebuffed... time to move on... If I were experiencing this what I would typically do is to simply sit with the distress as it arises, allow it to be present & breathe into it. Over time, it will just fade away. The second point is that I get the impression you're looking outside of yourself for validation. Of course, we all do this. You're certainly not unique in this regard. But, as I'm sure you know, ultimately you must find your validation within. I know it is hard to accept this right now, but you are perfect, just the way you are. You don't need this person's acceptance. Don't make whatever his problem is your problem.

Hope you are braced, because I'm going to give it to you straight. You cannot undo conversations. You can not un-give love and confidences shared. You are not going to get any of your secrets back from him, and you are not going to be thrown out like crumpled paper. He cannot do that as he doesn't have that kind of power! You have given a life to this thing. It's not real. It's not alive. It's over. Let it be over.

Here is what is possible and here is what you can do: Make choices about how you handle yourself now and and let the future come when it does. You can't exactly plan when another person may enter it and the chemistry between you softens or hardens your heart. But believe me, your own bitterness now only works to harm you. It doesn't hurt him one bit. He doesn't have the capacity to give and share at this time (and perhaps he never will --we don't have any way to know). Let him go and save yourself the pain. You are not the first to have your heart stomped and you won't be the last.

Someone mentioned writing in a journal. Do it if it helps. But wallow in it all and analyze it too long and you will drown in your own sorrows. We all get it. And not just from friends but also from family. It happens. It's human nature to hurt and be hurt. It's the harsh reality of living and taking a chance to make friends.

In time and with maturity, hopefully comes wisdom and discernment. Knowing who is trustworthy and who is just there for fun and nothing heavy. I have been where you are, and it hurts like no other pain. But trust me, you can and you will get over it if you are even half the fighter you seem to be. Go punch a bag at the gym everyday for a while if you have to. Possibly turn this pain into a better body!

Thank you guys, I get the feeling I really need to mature up, I can't control other people, and I can't reverse time. There's so little I can do. Nobody has ever made me feel this way so far, but I get the feeling I'm gonna feel this way again, because.... people aren't easy.... and there's a lot of people out there.

I realize that this doesn't even count as a 'big deal', but I'm so super sensitive. I start doubting myself.

Just reading through this...seems like this guy is the one with the problem. He made you feel safe then pulled the carpet out from under you. He may have a "power" issue.

This is a safe place for you to open up. You won't be mistreated here.

Wishing you the best!!