Stressed out

I am so stressed out about everything and because of that I get mad at almost everything and flip out over little things. Lately I have been getting really mad easily. I usally take it out by slamming doors and punching walls which gets my mom and her boyfriend mad. Then I get even more mad. I do that because I know if I don't take it out on that then it would be a person which I am really trying to hold back on. I just can't handle everything going on in my life anyone. To make it worse I have lost all of my close friends that I have trusted and now I don't have anyone I can talk to anymore. I feel so lonely because I don't have anyone to do things with or to be able to trust and feel comfortable with.

Hello dolphinlover8,

It is good that you are not turning that anger in on yourself. Anger is a good emotion to have, it releases the stress but the trick is to release it in the right way. Seriously, it is good to punch a pillow, not a wall. Exercise is good too. So I would suggest finding ways to release that anger safely as depression comes from locking it away. Share with a therapist if you have one. Keep sharing!

You may want to see a therapist to help you figure out what is getting you so mad.

Thanks pegasus and thunder bow I do go to a therapist. I guess you can say two actually. I see someone in school and out of school. The one I see in school we talk a little about it but not that much. She says I have to accept things the way they are and that I can't do anything about the things going on in my life.

Hi dolphinlover, OK they say that you have to accept things the way they are and that you can't change them but what do you think??
Are there any, even small, changes you can make with the people around you. Or even anything they can do to compensate for the way things are, anything they can do to help you with your feelings?
Anyway, can you think of some compromises you can make with people on some of the things you're not happy with? Just anything to make your situation a little easier?
Perhaps if you explained to people/someone in your life, at a time you're feeling calm, how some things make you feel, explain how you'd like things to change (even do a trade- you do something for them, they do something for you!) and see if you can work on finding some "middle ground" with them.
Maybe do a bit of "brain storming" on how some things might be able to change.
Of course there will be some things that can't change whatever the circumstances, but you might be able to change the way you react to them e.g. recognise why logically they have to be that way, remind yourself that they don't have to be like that forever (if they don't), focus instead on something good in your life that makes the bad things seem not so bad, try to look at the things you're not happy about from a different perspective, tell yourself that you're above all this/it's not worth your energy if it's not something that can possibly change anyway.
And pegasus had a great idea about channeling the feelings you've had into something else, exercise, walking or sport of some kind can be really helpful. And you might want to look into some relaxation techniques as well, do you think? Lots out there, maybe something could help?
As for friends, do you think you could "rebuild some bridges" with the friends you've had? Or even getting out more, ideally to do different activities/meet more people, would get you away from some of the stresses at home a bit more?
But just remember you don't need to feel lonely, whatever, because we're right here for you if you need to talk.
Alison

Thanks for trying to help! There are some changes I can make to help things a little bit but it wouldn't solve everything. I could try to talk to my mom and agree on something that would be fair to both of us. I just don't know what that agreement would be. I recently started doing yoga to help me relax. I find it helpful while I'm doing it but not much after.
I don't know how possible it would be to try to get the friends I had back. Most of them have moved away and the one that didn't distanced herself from everyone and I have tried to get it touch with her but I can't. I have thought about going out and doing things but the thought of that scares me because I get really nervous when I am around people and I'm really shy.

Are there things you can do that would take you out of your head for awhile? Do you like to read? Movies and books are wonderful escapes. And a library is a great place to get away from it all. Are there crafts you like to do? I use crayons and colored pencils and after awhile, I can feel the stress just fading away. Do you have a bike? Excercise and getting out of the house and away from the tension at the same time. Or try going to the park and laying under a tree and watch the clouds.

Maybe some of these things would help and I'm sure you can think of others. Getting out of the house might help you shed some of the anger and maybe your Mom and her boyfriend need some alone time to help get rid of some of their stress as well.

As far as friends go-sometimes all you have to do is say hi and a conversation begins. Look at the friends you are making here!

Thanks. I use to read but not much anymore. Maybe I should get back into it again. And the same with drawing.

Just let you self be free in the moment. It does not sound like it is your fault any way. Do what you like doing, and you will find yourself with the right people and environment. Being with mom and her boyfriend is not helping your situation.