I'm Furious

What just happened? This morning, my mother told me to wash the dog before she went on a day long trip to Alabama with my dad, well I couldn't do it right away because I had friends over. I'm not very social but they needed to do their senior paper so I let them use my computer. I also have a very bad memory. This evening my parents came home and everything seemed fine until they asked me if I had washed the dog. I felt really bad that I had forgot...so I started to walk downstairs to offer to do it. Instead, I get don there and my parents are enraged. They yell about how irresponsible and lazy I am, and complain that I never do chores because I'm so selfish, despite the fact that I do chores every day. They said I was grounded and ordered me to take all the electronics out of my room and into their closet. I tried to explain that it was an accident and that I wasn't being selfish, but they refused to listen, telling me how much of a brat I was. Well...I have anger issues, so I got furious at their inadequacy to understand my predicament, so furious, in fact, that I wanted to HURT something. I knew hurting someone else or myself was a bad thing to do because I would regret it later, so instead I screamed to unleash my frustration. It wasn't something that could wait because of how angry I was...so my dad rushes over and starts spanking me, he hit me about five or six times, mostly across the hips and spine, but I was enraged I could hardly feel it. Him spanking me just made me want to ah, do horrible things in revenge. So I rushed outside to get some cold air, and stroke my cat to calm myself down. The. My mom just had to come out and scream about what a selfish and ungrateful brat I was, and ordered me inside to get my electronics, so I stomped up stairs and laid down because I knew I would throw that stupid tv if I had picked it up. She continued to nag and threaten me but I ignored her until I calmed down enough to haul the tv down to their room. Now I'm sitting here having very nasty thoughts, and I guess I want some advice...

Hi Nevermourn. This is a disturbing event and I feel awful for you. I had insane parents too. There was a lot of physical and psychological and emotional abuse. Did you get bruised by being "spanked"? Is it OK if I ask how old you are? I'm really sorry you had this happen. I hope you feel a lot better soon.

You are acting irresponsibly...and they are over reacting. I have dogs...and they are loving creatures. They needed the attention and you just shined it on...

I don't know your situation...and knowing what your situation is would clue me in to whether or not your parents over reacted.

You should have washed the dogs...period. You didn't...you offered excuses...maybe even good ones...but, still, you acted irresponsibly.

Just telling it like it is...

Saying that, however...you should NEVER have been spanked. This is where I feel your parents need some growing up to do.

You said "you are furious". You also said that your parents also came pretty unglued. What's the difference??? Who's the bigger person??? Not you. Not them. Everybody loses.....

First of all if you are trustworthy enough to be left home alone then spanking should have boarded a ship and sailed away a long time ago. So you did act a little irresponsible but its not worth them making a mountain out of a molehill that is for certain. I would stand up for myself and if you think that it is what needs to be done then you should too,,,just don't wait until you are angry to do it. Talk to them after everyone is calmed down and try to create some personal boundaries

I am typically trustworthy. Despite what my parents often claim, I do chores for them all the time and I don't even conplain, though my mom will insist I do, she's my step mom by the way. I'm 17, 18 in a month and a half, and my situation is...I get insulted like this all the time, everytime I walk down stairs so I don't actually have to do anything wrong. I spend my days avoiding my parents in my room, coming down to do chores and....thats about it. I know I acted irresponsibly, that's why I was going to offer to do it, and I can't help my memory problem. My doctor thought it was Graves Disease at first but then I started the medication and she now thinks it's my depression, but my parents refuse to do anything about it because they say I'm only depressed because I'm selfish and ungrateful, and if I just thought happier thoughts, I'd be happy, because "depression is just an opinion". Soooo...I don't know if all parents are like this, and I don't have the self esteem to move out, so I guess I'll just continue to be miserable. Also, I can't just go talk to them about my feelings "calmly". I tried that and they got really mad claiming that i hate them and I'm selfish and ugh. The poor dog gets washed every week despite the vet telling my mom to stop because it's causing skin problems, but my mom is OCD.

I hope you'll be able to seek therapy. No, your parents are not normal.

I do not know how old you are. But it is time to move out on your own. Therapy will help you deal with this crazyness.

Your parents are in the wrong. They sound horrible. they should never have spanked you, and in the UK that would be seen as abuse. They could have been charged with assault.

You forgot to wash the dog, not a big crime any way as you say it is unfair to wash a dog too much.
Get away from home as soon as you can, in the mean time don't argue with them there is no point, be compliant and plot your escape!
My parents were horrible too.

Wow. Toxic. I'm horrified for you by what I've read.

You have real anger which to a degree is validated.

I don't believe your parents are using the correct strategies at all.

You need external assistance on this one. They're adults crossing the line.

I do have extreme anger, yes, but my parents just say I'm immature and acting out for attention, despite the fact that it was quite the opposite, and I truly felt like grabbing and knife and...doing things. Instead, I screamed, but apparently I'm not allowed to do that so next time I'll hold it in I guess, and suffer with it for a month, or give in to my thoughts, and grab a knife. :/

My parents said no to therapy. They insist mental illness is an opinion and they don't believe in it.

I can't move out...all I've ever known are insults and yelling. I'm not independent, and I have very low self esteem. I just don't think i'd survive...my parents always tell me I'm hopeless and that I'm going to fail at life, so maybe I am.

Have you ever had a part time job or anything? If so, that could allow you to seek a roommate situation as soon as you turn 18. Seriously, if I hadn't gotten away from my parents I may have snapped too. They may have been worse than yours as far as the crazy making but at least they stopped with the physical abuse after I was 16.

This isn't a safe situation for you or them. I hope you'll think about finding a job and planning your escape. Wishing you a lot of excellent luck.