[Steiner of Thule]

I can't seem to have normal chats with others. Eventually I get called deranged or something else insulting. I'm talking about people on here even. They say I am strange/disturbed or that my sense of humor is weird or that they wouldn't want me to talk because I scare them or make them feel weird? They think my reaction to things is off/ not right.

I don't understand.

It hurts to be told this over and over. Its been this way for years. It makes me feel like an outsider to the people who like to be proud and say THEY are the outsiders.

...

what a joke.

[jelly-bean]

I'm sorry that you have had such bad reactions when you try to talk with people. I have no idea what you say that would cause members here to be scared or feel weird. I guess all I can say is to keep trying and hopefully you will come in contact with someone who is on the same wavelength as you are.

[Steiner of Thule]

Originally Posted by jelly-bean

I'm sorry that you have had such bad reactions when you try to talk with people. I have no idea what you say that would cause members here to be scared or feel weird. I guess all I can say is to keep trying and hopefully you will come in contact with someone who is on the same wavelength as you are.

Is that even possible-



I'm not very empathetic I suppose. Or something.

[AzulOscuro]

Do you think is it the cause for people not conecting with you, being little empathetic?
Could it be due to be sel-centered in your own issues and you can't give space for sharing people's matters? I'm only asking.

JellyBean pointed out another possibility, perhaps you are not finding people in the same wave as you.

Which forums do you use to post?

Sorry, for all the questions.
What I would be moré worried about is for the reactions from people in your real life. You know, people on the net don't know your real you.

[Steiner of Thule]

Originally Posted by AzulOscuro

Do you think is it the cause for people not conecting with you, being little empathetic?
Could it be due to be sel-centered in your own issues and you can't give space for sharing people's matters? I'm only asking.

JellyBean pointed out another possibility, perhaps you are not finding people in the same wave as you.

Which forums do you use to post?

Sorry, for all the questions.
What I would be moré worried about is for the reactions from people in your real life. You know, people on the net don't know your real you.

Ah no it's not that. What does it mean to share people's matters. It's more like say something and I'll find humor in it and it creeps people out or they find it inhumane or something. I just find people seem to be sort of... eggshells.

I get people that give me the "you're ****in creepy" look usually in real-life usually. They usually try to get away from me. I usually just post in coping and depression forums on here.

[AzulOscuro]

Originally Posted by Steiner of Thule

Ah no it's not that. What does it mean to share people's matters. It's more like say something and I'll find humor in it and it creeps people out or they find it inhumane or something. I just find people seem to be sort of... eggshells.
I get people that give me the "you're ****in creepy" look usually in real-life usually. They usually try to get away from me. I usually just post in coping and depression forums on here.

Talk with them about other things. Don't use so much this creepy sense of humor. Laugh but keep it for you.

As you mentioned that perhaps you lack of empathy, I wanted to mean that you are not probably very concern with people's interests. And you know, people like talking about themselves a lot. Specially the extroverts.

Nontheless, there are different people, you may find the ones who get on well with you.
I wish you luck.
P.S.: I'm on the funny pages social group in this forum. Perhaps, I would like to know about your humor sense. I think that in this life, is worthy to laugh about everything.

[Steiner of Thule]

Originally Posted by AzulOscuro

Talk with them about other things. Don't use so much this creepy sense of humor. Laugh but keep it for you.

As you mentioned that perhaps you lack of empathy, I wanted to mean that you are not probably very concern with people's interests. And you know, people like talking about themselves a lot. Specially the extroverts.

Nontheless, there are different people, you may find the ones who get on well with you.
I wish you luck.
P.S.: I'm on the funny pages social group in this forum. Perhaps, I would like to know about your humor sense. I think that in this life, is worthy to laugh about everything.

An example would be- what does the leper tell the prostitute?

Keep the tip.

I was just throwing a guess out there because when it comes to morbidity people get too touchy feely and emotional. People who seem to have boundaries on what to talk about. It's all eggshells.

They feel fake to me. As if they are trying to make themselves sound like a saint.

What annoys me is when people say they like to "laugh at everything" but don't really mean that. You're contradicting yourself by saying don't use this humor but it's worthy to laugh at everything.

In the end people are either too soft or like to be upset about something because they're lives are dull.

[Angelique67]

Originally Posted by Steiner of Thule

I can't seem to have normal chats with others. Eventually I get called deranged or something else insulting. I'm talking about people on here even. They say I am strange/disturbed or that my sense of humor is weird or that they wouldn't want me to talk because I scare them or make them feel weird? They think my reaction to things is off/ not right.

I don't understand.

It hurts to be told this over and over. Its been this way for years. It makes me feel like an outsider to the people who like to be proud and say THEY are the outsiders.

...

what a joke.

I've been sort of avoiding you just because I posted in one of your threads weeks ago and you didn't acknowledge my post. If you want to connect with anyone you have to acknowledge they exist, even if they didn't say anything helpful. Not just talking about me. Acknowledgement of others is one of the first steps.

[Steiner of Thule]

Originally Posted by Angelique67

I've been sort of avoiding you just because I posted in one of your threads weeks ago and you didn't acknowledge my post. If you want to connect with anyone you have to acknowledge they exist, even if they didn't say anything helpful. Not just talking about me. Acknowledgement of others is one of the first steps.

Sorry,

I tend to skip over some posts.

Which thread?

I don't know how to see if someone responds to me unless I go through the posts also. I know on other forums there is an option for quote notifications but I don't know where to do that on here.

[Angelique67]

Originally Posted by Steiner of Thule

Sorry,

I tend to skip over some posts.

Which thread?

I don't know how to see if someone responds to me unless I go through the posts also. I know on other forums there is an option for quote notifications but I don't know where to do that on here.

It's somewhere in Edit Profile. No matter, I just wanted to point that out. I don't remember which thread, one of your first ones I think.

Sent from my A0001

[bubbles00]

I don't find you weird and neither do you make me feel weird/scared when i talked to you on chat. your sense of humour is actually quite funny; i don't find anything weird in it. That being said there has to be more people that think like me.

Originally Posted by Steiner of Thule

what does the leper tell the prostitute?

Keep the tip.

I actually laughed out loud when i read this xD I find dark humour really funny (there has got to be more people other than me that think this!).

[AzulOscuro]

Originally Posted by Steiner of Thule

An example would be- what does the leper tell the prostitute?

Keep the tip.

I was just throwing a guess out there because when it comes to morbidity people get too touchy feely and emotional. People who seem to have boundaries on what to talk about. It's all eggshells.

They feel fake to me. As if they are trying to make themselves sound like a saint.

What annoys me is when people say they like to "laugh at everything" but don't really mean that. You're contradicting yourself by saying don't use this humor but it's worthy to laugh at everything.

In the end people are either too soft or like to be upset about something because they're lives are dull.

No, I talk about me. I like laughing at everything.
But, i was giving an advice to conect with people in general.

[Steiner of Thule]

Originally Posted by bubbles00

I don't find you weird and neither do you make me feel weird/scared when i talked to you on chat. your sense of humour is actually quite funny; i don't find anything weird in it. That being said there has to be more people that think like me.


I actually laughed out loud when i read this xD I find dark humour really funny (there has got to be more people other than me that think this!).

Yeah I love that joke haha. I have it memorized along with the leper hockey game joke. Also an orphan joke but anyway.

thanks!

[Steiner of Thule]

Originally Posted by AzulOscuro

No, I talk about me. I like laughing at everything.
But, i was giving an advice to conect with people in general.

Ahh- hmm

[Steiner of Thule]

Originally Posted by Angelique67

It's somewhere in Edit Profile. No matter, I just wanted to point that out. I don't remember which thread, one of your first ones I think.

Sent from my A0001

I've made a lot of threads

[AzulOscuro]

I go on insisting that you should share your humor in the funny pages social group.

[Steiner of Thule]

Originally Posted by AzulOscuro

I go on insisting that you should share your humor in the funny pages social group.

[Angelique67]

Originally Posted by Steiner of Thule

See, I think that's funny. You have a wry sense of humor. I think the problem isn't your sense of humor but maybe your attitudes towards others.

[Steiner of Thule]

Originally Posted by Angelique67

See, I think that's funny. You have a wry sense of humor. I think the problem isn't your sense of humor but maybe your attitudes towards others.

I've been told that I am sort of deadpan in the past. My attitude towards others? What do you mean?

[Angelique67]

Originally Posted by Steiner of Thule

I've been told that I am sort of deadpan in the past. My attitude towards others? What do you mean?

You've said you don't really like to engage with people.

[AzulOscuro]

Yeah, you are funny.

And, yeah it's a trap! Lol!

[Steiner of Thule]

Originally Posted by Angelique67

You've said you don't really like to engage with people.

I suppose so yeah.

[AzulOscuro]

This is what I was trying to say along all the thread. Lol!
Humor sense is a good way to cope with interations but as you say that they don't like your humor. What can we do now?

What do you like about people? Are you curious? Do you like to learn from them?
They often have interesting things to teach us.

[Steiner of Thule]

Originally Posted by AzulOscuro

This si what I was I was trying to say along all the thread. Lol!
Humor sense is a good way to cope with interations but as you say that they don't like your humor. What can we do now?

What do you like about people? Are you curious? Do you like to learn from them?
They often have interesting things to teach us.

I don't know what I like about people. I've always been one for isolating. Hmm hmm mmm

"Hello- what do you like to spend time doing."

[AzulOscuro]

I understand. There must be interesting people who share the same interests as you and then, there are other people that can be a good inspiration to ençourage us to explore new field of Knowledge.
It's not easy to find this last kind of people though.