[ForeverLonelyGirl]

Yes, this is a depressing topic. Just had a thought earlier tonight that the feeling you get when you are totally alone in the world. Whether you are really living alone or not, we all have to be alone with ourselves at some point. When I get that eerie feeling of terrible loneliness, it feels worse than grief or even physical pain.

Knowing that I am most likely going to be alone for the rest of my life now is like a huge challenge that I face. To be able to handle it without getting severely depressed and wanting to commit suicide is going to be quite a job. I have been living alone now for almost 25 years, and it's never been easy. I've spent many hours feeling sad and crying about it. It seems like I've accepted it more now than I ever have.

For some reason I repel people and potential friends. I have never understood why and no one has told me any reason. I don't get it. I never see posts here about loneliness and the suffering it causes.

Anyone out there that is suffering with serious loneliness and sadness because of it?

[puppylove_me]

I can definitely understand that feeling youre describing. It hurts down to your bones. I spend more than half of my time alone and you wouldnt believe the thoughts that run through my head. Im scared that i will always end up alone and that is the scariest thought ever. Ive thought about trying to make myself volunteer parttime or something similar but i never can make myself do it. I have no family and 1 friend and my boyfriend as a support system. I feel like he wants to leave me as my bpd and ptsd symptoms on top of severe depression make me isolate. I try not to think about it because id be totally lost. Have you considered getting a pet? I got a puppy a couple years back and she makes all the difference. I am never truly alone. 😀 I wish you all the best.

[~Christina]

Feeling alone is a horrible lousy place to be, I think accepting that your alone and can find a way to enjoy your life is the best way to go from here.

I do believe having a pet is one of the best ways to improve your life and your certainly not going to be alone, Sure its a furry friend, but if you have a local dog park or even a park or some place to walk him or her , people are drawn to animals, and many friendships are formed over mutual love of animals.

I think you could be turning a corner by accepting things, doesnt mean you give up all the way .But wow its exhausting to constantly try to go upstream ... Often just floating for a while is the way to go and you can build up your strength. I dont know if you do have a pet , But there are wonderful and can bring much joy to your life , if your able to have a pet and be able to care for one.

Be kind to you ..... You know best what is self soothing and what doesn't work

Know the feeling. You get to the point that you are numb to it. Reminds me of the song by the Eagles, "Desperado".

Knowing about the number of years i have left in my life. It's going to be better for me to be alone. To do anything other than that will leave behind a bigger mess than simply disappearing into the night.

[ForeverLonelyGirl]

Originally Posted by WHWT

Know the feeling. You get to the point that you are numb to it. Reminds me of the song by the Eagles, "Desperado".

Knowing about the number of years i have left in my life. It's going to be better for me to be alone. To do anything other than that will leave behind a bigger mess than simply disappearing into the night.

That song Desperado reminds me of the many times that I just sit alone and cry. I definitely feel like "Life" is over for me. I don't do anything but exist and go through the motions. I don't do tons of things that I could do because of social anxiety and lots of other anxieties. I know that I am missing out on fun times with my grandchildren because I have so much overall anxiety when trying to do things with them such as taking them places.

Dealing with young children, traveling, driving, dealing with my own personal hell of anxiety with it all makes it torture. It's really hard to explain. I only feel comfortable at home alone in the quiet. Anything past that is too anxiety provoking. What a life!

[AzulOscuro]

Perhaps I'm gonna tell you a nonsense but you are not alone. We are here.
I completely understand you when you say that it's at home where you feel comfortable and calm, but take like an obligation being outside for a time. It's necessary and you never know what surprises you can find that make a different in your life.

Your grandchidren need you from time to time. Society need people like you. It has been mentioned before about volunteer work. Think about it.

I want to introduce you, Miky and Perla. They are the doggies in my avatar. They make me go out and meet people. They give me companion. The best companion ever.

[Thunder Bow]

Feeling comfortable at home alone is quite normal. One needs a break from the manic world. Do not be to hard on yourself about that.

[ForeverLonelyGirl]

Originally Posted by AzulOscuro

Perhaps I'm gonna tell you a nonsense but you are not alone. We are here.
I completely understand you when you say that it's at home where you feel comfortable and calm, but take like an obligation being outside for a time. It's necessary and you never know what surprises you can find that make a different in your life.

Your grandchidren need you from time to time. Society need people like you. It has been mentioned before about volunteer work. Think about it.

I want to introduce you, Miky and Perla. They are the doggies in my avatar. They make me go out and meet people. They give me companion. The best companion ever.

Believe me I do force myself to get out, it has been super difficult this last 2 years with having severe anxiety due to having weaned off long term klonopin. Most people on this site have no idea what torture it is, so they don't know what to say. Whatever, it's still anxiety.

I would love to have a pet but my landlord says no way. Not even a hamster. He is quite the pr*ck as you can imagine. I am moving out in May when my lease is up, although I really dread that. I hope to luck up on a place that will allow me to have a pet. I love kittens. Your doggies are adorable! Count yourself lucky!

Again, I do go out when I know that it's going to be anxiety provoking and hard. I may be calm and less anxious when I am at home, but lots of times it's quite miserable. It's a trade off. Getting out of the house helps to get me out of my head.

I think I am still too anxious to commit to volunteering yet. I could not guarantee that I could be dependable either.

[~Christina]

I will tell you something that is amazing.... talking to the elderly. I have worked medical my whole life most recently in a Nursing home. It's amazing to hear about there life , how they grew up and even survived, The talk of good times and bad. I have seen different parts of the world through there stories. They are honestly lonely.

I use to stay past my shift if one of my patients was just down, we would go for a walk , or play a game of checkers or just sit and talk. I would go in on many of my days off, Can't tell you how polishing a lil elderly ladies finger nails can put a sparkle in her eye, they just want a connection to someone...

A couple lost lonely people are a good fit... Just a thought.