[LifeIsStrange]

Hello,
I have a problem with expressing my emotions,
I do not know how to express them I just keep them for myself and I hate it, and I am so scared that my friends or family will laugh at me if i tell them how i feel i dont even know why i think so. What can I do about it?

[gayleggg]

Have you tried journaling? It helps to get your emotions out and on paper and you can even do a dialog to let you practice how you would talk to someone else about it. It's especially helpful when using it for therapy and to bring up subjects that you would normally ignore.

[Thunder Bow]

Therapy can help you get over that fear.

[monkeybrains21]

Is it fear of the emotions or fear of being vulnerable to others? I keep it all in cuz I don't trust ppl and I don't want others to have anything on me. I refuse to be seen as weak or vulnerable. I feel that when others know what I need or want they use it against me. Thats what my parents did. I'm very self sufficient and it seperate me from other ppl. I refuse to acknowledge needing anything from any one.

[cyborg_hearted]

how about trying to tell within here in this forum about your feelings and your thinking? stepwise. in your own tempo. It could be a learning process. maybe you never truly had the opportunity to learn interacting emotionally and maybe you never felt really loved for who YOU are..? Maybe you´ve never been seen in whole?

[LifeIsStrange]

Originally Posted by monkeybrains21

Is it fear of the emotions or fear of being vulnerable to others? I keep it all in cuz I don't trust ppl and I don't want others to have anything on me. I refuse to be seen as weak or vulnerable. I feel that when others know what I need or want they use it against me. Thats what my parents did. I'm very self sufficient and it seperate me from other ppl. I refuse to acknowledge needing anything from any one.

Yes exactly that i didnt know how to express myself in the right way, but that is it

[monkeybrains21]

It's a learning I have to learn as an adult which makes it all the more difficult since it's ingrained one way. Therapy helps some but it jut takes time.

[Thunder Bow]

Do not worry so much what others think of you. You will survive. Just express what you need to say.

[monkeybrains21]

They are not worried about what others think. They've no idea how to express themselves. That's what it comes down to. Ppl r making me very angry when they continuously do not get it. Ppl like me and ppl like LifeIsStrange hve difficulty identifying and expressing emotions in a normal spectrum. I know rage and loss and frustration but I've no idea what happiness feels like or being safe or satisfication, peace, and I don't even kno other emotions. This is what I am fade with every damn day.

[LifeIsStrange]

Originally Posted by monkeybrains21

They are not worried about what others think. They've no idea how to express themselves. That's what it comes down to. Ppl r making me very angry when they continuously do not get it. Ppl like me and ppl like LifeIsStrange hve difficulty identifying and expressing emotions in a normal spectrum. I know rage and loss and frustration but I've no idea what happiness feels like or being safe or satisfication, peace, and I don't even kno other emotions. This is what I am fade with every damn day. For anyone who doesn't understand that stop posting here or on others where u just do t understand and instead u r minimizing us.

U belittle us by continuously saying things that make no sense and r completely wrong.

Oh nice to know that somebody gets it, for me it is really hard to explain it so maybe they got it wrong because of it

[monkeybrains21]

Originally Posted by LifeIsStrange

Oh nice to know that somebody gets it, for me it is really hard to explain it so maybe they got it wrong because of it

You explained it fine. Some ppl just don't get it. I do apologize for going off, I wanted to say a lot more but just ranted at home instead of posting it. I just get so angry at how some ppl continuously say the same thing when the reality of the situation is it just isn't that easy. Some ppl r very emotional and have a plethora of emotions they know and utilize. I am emotionally stunted and I have no idea what most emotions r or how it feels to experiance them.

[LifeIsStrange]

Originally Posted by monkeybrains21

You explained it fine. Some ppl just don't get it. I do apologize for going off, I wanted to say a lot more but just ranted at home instead of posting it. I just get so angry at how some ppl continuously say the same thing when the reality of the situation is it just isn't that easy. Some ppl r very emotional and have a plethora of emotions they know and utilize. I am emotionally stunted and I have no idea what most emotions r or how it feels to experiance them.

So what did you do with it? Did you visit a therapist or you are dealing with it by yourself?

[calibeachone]

Originally Posted by LifeIsStrange

Hello,
I have a problem with expressing my emotions,
I do not know how to express them I just keep them for myself and I hate it, and I am so scared that my friends or family will laugh at me if i tell them how i feel i dont even know why i think so. What can I do about it?

Have people given you a reason to think that? I know in dealing with my family, I don't feel like they respect my problems or issues, as much as they should. I always think they don't understand things, but the things is all I do is understand. A person can tire of understanding, if pushed. I can tell you what not to do? Don't keep stuffing it down inside yourself to appease other people, because eventually you are going to blow up. I just did that recently and it's so not good for your soul.

[monkeybrains21]

Originally Posted by LifeIsStrange

So what did you do with it? Did you visit a therapist or you are dealing with it by yourself?

I see a therapist every week and we talk about it. She says I do it subconciously. I don't realize I turn things that hurt into humor or something else I kno. I also see a Pdoc and we r still trying to figure my cocktail. I'm sure finding a cocktail may be easier if they knew I was BPD or BP or anything else but as of yet no diagnosis other than depression and anxiety. I kno diagnosis isn't everything but really In Finding a cocktail knowing what it is helps.

My wife is BPD she believes I am too as does her therapist. I might change therapists. My wife's gave a good referral for me so I may try something new.

[LifeIsStrange]

Originally Posted by monkeybrains21

I see a therapist every week and we talk about it. She says I do it subconciously. I don't realize I turn things that hurt into humor or something else I kno. I also see a Pdoc and we r still trying to figure my cocktail. I'm sure finding a cocktail may be easier if they knew I was BPD or BP or anything else but as of yet no diagnosis other than depression and anxiety. I kno diagnosis isn't everything but really In Finding a cocktail knowing what it is helps.

My wife is BPD she believes I am too as does her therapist. I might change therapists. My wife's gave a good referral for me so I may try something new.

Okay, thank you for everything

[Dobby67]

i have the same problem, I really don't understand emotions. When I say that to people they don't get it. They think I am just making excuses. I know the 4 basic emotions. Happy, sad, anger, confused. Now I don't understand anything that doesn't fall under those 4 basic ones.
I don't know if my T gets that or not.

[Crazy Hitch]

Hi LifeIsStrange

I found some interesting articles here on Psych Central that you may wish to read:

10 Reasons You Can?t Say How You Feel | Psych Central

Work on Yourself: Expressing Your Emotions | Anger Management