I do. Been feeling this way for a really long time, actually. It's become a big part of my life and it seems that nothing helps. Today it's almost painful. There's a tightening of the chest and stomach, making it harder for me to breathe. I feel I might as well be truly alone. It feels so bad I just want to bury under the covers and make that my final resting place... Anyone else relate? I'm thinking maybe this can be a thread for us to share our day-to-day experiences of loneliness. Kind of like the Daily Check-In thread in the depression forum, but for people who feel alone.

[berthegel]

Hello

Disconnected mabye , do you live in a big city , small town or quiet rural area ?

Originally Posted by berthegel

Hello

Disconnected mabye , do you live in a big city , small town or quiet rural area ?

I live in a small town.

[Smileonmyface]

yes. i have to talk myself into getting out of bed every day. if my kids didn't need me to take care of them i would probably stay there. we live in a very rural town. i think i used to spend a lot of time driving my kids to other, bigger towns where there would be more stuff to do, more stores to look in, whatever. since i've found this site i have to say i feel a lot less alone. we have been staying home and local. i know maybe it's not the same kind of loneliness since i am with my kids, but it is definitely lonely and very quiet. there are days the phone never rings. i think that is when it feels most lonely. my husband is always working and when he's not working he's out trying to make friends and do things. i know i should be out there with him but it is so much easier to just stay home with the kids, not get a babysitter. veg on the couch after they fall asleep.

[purplek0ala]

I can relate. I was feeling that extreme tightening of the stomach/chest last night actually. Felt like my head was about to blow up too. Just too tiring sometimes. Sometimes I want nothing more than to be alone, but at the same time, loneliness is crippling.

Wish I could say I don't understand but I do all to well.

[ptangptang]

Loneliness is the scourge of the modern Western world and seems to be getting worse year on year. The way we live now propagates loneliness. Ask people in villages in Africa, Asia, China etc if they feel lonely a lot of the time and I think the answer will be a resounding NO. What's the point of all this tech if most of the time we are miserable.

Originally Posted by ptangptang

Loneliness is the scourge of the modern Western world and seems to be getting worse year on year. The way we live now propagates loneliness. Ask people in villages in Africa, Asia, China etc if they feel lonely a lot of the time and I think the answer will be a resounding NO. What's the point of all this tech if most of the time we are miserable.

I read an article once explaining how loneliness is a 'Western disease'... and I agree. Modern technology really isolates us.

[GiveMeHope]

i do
i feel it every day in my life even when im with people around me
it feels like im al alone in this world
i feel the pain u said
somedays i couldnt sleep even
but i cnt get rid of it.
how much i want to get rid of it
its nt leaving me
i dnt want to b alone anymore bt i dnt have choice than that
i sometimes feel like give up ths life bt i cnt even do that

Originally Posted by GiveMeHope

i do
i feel it every day in my life even when im with people around me
it feels like im al alone in this world
i feel the pain u said
somedays i couldnt sleep even
but i cnt get rid of it.
how much i want to get rid of it
its nt leaving me
i dnt want to b alone anymore bt i dnt have choice than that
i sometimes feel like give up ths life bt i cnt even do that

The loneliness is really hitting me hard this evening... hard to cope. I really don't have anyone to sit with me or comfort me in this difficult time. Which only amplifies the feeling. Also, I am paranoid my cat is going to die soon. She's old... about as old as me (18) which is elderly for a cat. For the past few days she has been feverish and her nose dry and warm. We cannot take her to a vet. I've tried to help her by sitting her in front of the fan to cool her off, which I guess helped her some, because she stayed there for a while and her nose was wet again after that... but now it's back to warm and dry, and her head feels really overheated also. She keeps going back and forth like that. I'm scared of losing her. I know it has to happen some day, but this would be the worst possible time. She's been the only one to be loving and affectionate towards me through all this loneliness... if I lost her now, I wouldn't know what to do with myself. Besides cry. But maybe I'm too paranoid...

my life is the definition of lonely ! everyday i am in my apartment by myself, all alone. i try going to chat here to make friend but ... i used to have a good time and meet cool people but the new people that joined into chat its just a bunch of drama anymore. so im hoping i can make some friends here on the forum. i have no friends in real life to hang out with. im alone everyday, all day in my apartment. no one calls me except one friend i met on here. my family doesn't even call to check on me, i could die in my apartment and no body would know for weeks. i go to the gym everysingle day but i never talk to anyone in the gym , and other then going to the gym i have no life. i notice some people try to claim loneliness but they live with family so how can they really be alone ?

[shezbut]

Yes, I know that feeling very well. Whether I'm alone in my apartment, in a crowd of people, or at work. I have had times when I just feel a darkness deep inside of me. It just will not go away. In some ways, I'd rather be alone (so I wouldn't have to fake a teensy smile here & there). But then, when I'm alone, the darkness is infallible!

I try to remember these moments, so I can mention them to my T and/or pDoc. My poor memory doesn't really help. In my mind, I am how I feel right now.

[dysphoricspirit]

I was always alone, but I didn't really feel my loneliness until I got sick and I had no one to help me out or care for me. Part of it was my fault, I didn't reach out to anyone or make it obvious that I was unwell, but I suffered all alone. I had two good friends who would have helped me out, but I didn't want them to worry about me, I didn't want to be a burden, and I had a hard enough time caring about myself to begin with.

I feel like this is what life will always be like for me, fighting loneliness, I'm such a mess, I can't really connect with people because of my anxiety. I don't know why I isolate myself from the few good friends I have.

I did feel like that, but i find that going out and seeing friends managed to lift my mood. I still feel lonely a lot though. Seeing my therapist helps. My dogs help too.

Originally Posted by 8888an8888

I did feel like that, but i find that going out and seeing friends managed to lift my mood. I still feel lonely a lot though. Seeing my therapist helps. My dogs help too.

That's nice. I don't really go out because there aren't many places to go and I don't know anybody. I am very socially anxious and it's hard for me to initiate conversations without being awkward. Usually when I do it never goes anywhere. So I don't make any friends. I also don't have a therapist. However, I have a cat who likes to stay in my room with me. Pets are wonderful.

[Fuzzybear]

[Cris80pitt]

Today we all are so busy we hardly have time for anything. Over time we lose friends and touch with a reality and all of a sudden we are alone and there is no one to talk to. So, many people feel alone today. But you need to find a way to end this.

[tony fudo]

Yes, I get lonely in my moments of weakness until I snap to, and remember just how mindblowingly appalling people have been to me in the past. You just have to tough up. Learn to get on with yourself. Iife is crap. Get on with it.

Some complete c..t has decided to build a 14 foot wall all around my house, cutting out all daylight. I just pity him. Having to relearn how to walk, wipe his ***, and all that.

Originally Posted by tony fudo

You just have to tough up. Learn to get on with yourself. Life is crap. Get on with it.

Oh, come on. How do you think that's going to help anyone?? I'm sorry, but I'm sick of hearing things like this. It does not help. It does not serve anyone any good. I have no tolerance left for it. I've heard enough of it in the past few months than I would care to hear in my entire life. I'm sorry if I've offended you, and I have no intentions of turning this into a fight. But that's just how I feel. This coming from a person who is truly at the end of their rope.

I feel alone all the time. Even when around other people too. There's people I know that love me, yet I'm still alone. The emptiness and longing for this feeling to go away. It is very crippling.

Originally Posted by Zayabean

There's people I know that love me, yet I'm still alone.

This. This perfectly describes me.

For example, I know for a fact my mom loves me. And I guess I should consider myself lucky, as not everyone's mother loves them. But it doesn't seem to matter. I still feel completely alone. Sometimes I even doubt her love for me, because I get so used to feeling like no one cares.

[kutt38]

I feel the same way always. I have a loving family. Still i dont know why. Am sure they love me. But i have trust issues. All i want is some one i can talk to freely in this big family. Unluckily there is no one. I hide my pain from them. Feels like no one cares. So am here lonely as always talking to my pillow at night & crying like mad..again wearing a smile in the morning. Dont know how long. Am just tired of it

[connect.the.stars]

Thank you for making this thread ShyPoetGirl. I often feel lonely.