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Old Apr 21, 2015, 04:40 AM
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So, don't ask him directly. Arise the topic about the summer and ask him what he is gonna do, tell him about you, what would you like doing...perhaps, you have in one of these conversationsthe chance to ask him for doing something when the course finishes.
Hi do you think its it okay for me to just write him a invitation?

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Old Apr 21, 2015, 07:22 AM
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An invitation? Depends on the context. To go to your birthday or to go to a special place you know this guy like or a place you would like to show him. I think it's a good idea.
Anyway, I think it's better to do it face to face, in the way I told you in the previous post.

If you do the writing thing, ensure that you are going to dare to go to the meeting.
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Old Apr 21, 2015, 08:18 AM
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Feeling guilty is a sign of depression, feeling guilty prevents you from doing whatever you can to fix yourself. It makes you think you're worthless, and you're not worth helping and you shouldn't bother. It makes me think I should be more grateful for what I have and that wanting happiness is greedy.
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Old Apr 21, 2015, 09:40 AM
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It's not happier the one who has more than the one who need less.

I think that as all feelings, guilty has a good side as well. I mean, there is a healthy guilt feeling that warns you that there is something you have to fix or learn.

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In relation to the feeling of guilt from the outside.
It's only my personal though but I think people with psychological are easily manipulable through guilty bc of the low self-steem.
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Old Apr 21, 2015, 10:02 AM
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It's not happier the one who has more than the one who need less.

I think that as all feelings, guilty has a good side as well. I mean, there is a healthy guilt feeling that warns you that there is something you have to fix or learn.

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In relation to the feeling of guilt from the outside.
It's only my personal though but I think people with psychological are easily manipulable through guilty bc of the low self-steem.
What is my guilt trying tell me ?
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Old Apr 21, 2015, 12:21 PM
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It can be both.
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Old Apr 21, 2015, 12:36 PM
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What is my guilt trying tell me ?
I don't know. What do you think?
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Old Apr 21, 2015, 12:39 PM
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I do not know ether
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Old Apr 21, 2015, 02:45 PM
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You are the one who can guess it. Perhaps is only for the depression and that makes you feel guilty, but I mentioned that there could be a cause, your worries about loosing contacts with your friend and don't dare to do something in regard.

How are you feeling today?
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Old Apr 21, 2015, 03:05 PM
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You are the one who can guess it. Perhaps is only for the depression and that makes you feel guilty, but I mentioned that there could be a cause, your worries about loosing contacts with your friend and don't dare to do something in regard.

How are you feeling today?
Hi I feel fine but I guess I miss my friend
We are on spring break but will be back next week
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Old Apr 21, 2015, 03:15 PM
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Cool. Going back to routine is sometimes a good way to overcome a light depressive moment.
Are you enjoying with other friends? If not, perhaps you could contact him if you have the strenght.
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Old Apr 21, 2015, 04:17 PM
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Okay I was thinking about that but I am too nervous and i would like to hang out with him.
can you do my a favor ?
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Old Apr 21, 2015, 05:03 PM
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Yeah, if I can.
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Old Apr 21, 2015, 05:08 PM
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Yeah, if I can.
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Can you pray for me that I will be able to hang out with my friend when school gets out
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Old Apr 21, 2015, 05:28 PM
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Can you pray for me that I will be able to hang out with my friend when school gets out
Lol! No, I would do it but I can't bc I'm not religious.
And do you think this kind of things are in control of someone else appart than you and your friend.

What I'm very worried is for a thing. Your happiness can't depend on the outside or that things you wish happen or no. We can't live expecting good things happen and fix our lives. You have to take part in your life, taking decissions...that's why I asked you if the fear you felt for doing things like approching to your friend was very frequent.
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Old Apr 21, 2015, 05:31 PM
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Lol! No, I would do it but I can't bc I'm not religious.
And do you think this kind of things are in control of someone else appart than you and your friend.

What I'm very worried is for a thing. Your happiness can't depend on the outside or that things you wish happen or no. We can't live expecting good things happen and fix our lives. You have to take part in your life, taking decissions...that's why I asked you if the fear you felt for doing things like approching to your friend was very frequent.
Hi yes I feel fear and hopeless too
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Old Apr 21, 2015, 05:31 PM
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I will be crossing my fingers though!
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Old Apr 21, 2015, 05:32 PM
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Okay thank you
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Old Apr 21, 2015, 05:45 PM
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If you don't do anything. You lose. You will have a "no" for sure and next time, it's going to be harder to give the step. This is how I became an avoidant.
If you do it. You can win or lose. 50% of risk.
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