[goku23]

Is anyone else here alone? been alone for years?
not many or any friends, no relationship with anyone, just an isolated existence.
26 years old, been like this since i left school.

this is me, knowing that there are people who are in the same position is somewhat helpful.
maybe we can all offer each other a bit of motivation to keep our heads up.
loneliness is a slow death.

[capricorn1975]

I have my family but other than that I'm totally alone. It's depressing. I hope things turn around for you. Take care.

[Artchic528]

I am too. Its hard. Just my family to talk to. Not many hugs.

All of the freaking time. I have a difficult time trusting or opening up to people so I keep myself isolated burying myself in my work and my random hobbies and passions. I allow very few people know the "real" me because most people would do nothing more than use or abandon me when it suits them. Most people are selfish and heartless and therefore, only the rare person who would remain loyal and truly accept me is worthy of any ounce of compassion or empathy from me.

[Thunder Bow]

Loneliness is part of the Human condition, it can be a slow death to some, or it can be a motivation to others. It is your choice.

[goku23]

Originally Posted by capricorn1975

I have my family but other than that I'm totally alone. It's depressing. I hope things turn around for you. Take care.

thanks, you too.

[goku23]

Originally Posted by DarknessIsMyFriend

All of the freaking time. I have a difficult time trusting or opening up to people so I keep myself isolated burying myself in my work and my random hobbies and passions. I allow very few people know the "real" me because most people would do nothing more than use or abandon me when it suits them. Most people are selfish and heartless and therefore, only the rare person who would remain loyal and truly accept me is worthy of any ounce of compassion or empathy from me.

same here, without a passion life would be completely empty. at least there's that and i guess we have more time to dedicate to our passions because of the isolation.

Originally Posted by Thunder Bow

Loneliness is part of the Human condition, it can be a slow death to some, or it can be a motivation to others. It is your choice.

Easy for you to say. Fact of the matter is that I'm fully convinced that the universe screwed up bringing me to life here. I belong in a completely different universe because I'm nothing like most of humanity. I'm an ET compared to the vast majority of humanity.

When you're not of the norm, loneliness is much more deadly because there is significantly fewer people that can possibly understand or relate with you.

[elin95]

Yes me too. Turned 20 two days ago but I barely have friends. I hang out with a girl 2-3 times a year, thats it.

[divine1966]

Keeping busy helps. My t says too much idle time is not good. I am not saying you all must work three jobs. But when I have too much time I have all kind of crazy things on my mind

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[MiddayNap]

I am completely alone by choice. I don't seem to bee able to feel what others do-or at least, not as strongly as they can. I enjoy the company of others, but am just as content if they ignore me.
All the lonely people,
Where do they all come from?

[goku23]

Originally Posted by MiddayNap

I am completely alone by choice. I don't seem to bee able to feel what others do-or at least, not as strongly as they can. I enjoy the company of others, but am just as content if they ignore me.
All the lonely people,
Where do they all come from?

i guess most of us are alone by choice. we all can go out and try to meet people but we choose not to, i don't anyway even though i want to.
just seeing people in everyday life, i know i wouldn't fit in with them.
i've got years of experience from school and work to confirm that i won't!

but it's hard, because there's always a small hope we may meet someone or some people we do fit in with and don't suffer crippling anxiety around, spending time with enjoying each others' company etc
but it's probably a false hope because i haven't come across anyone like that.

[Artchic528]

All my life, since before I can remember, I've wanted to be a bride. I go to those bridal websites and look at the dresses, pick out my favorite ones, but its all in vain. Just hopeful thinking.....

Who would date me? No one deserves to have to deal with me and my emotional garbage. Love may be blind, but its not completely stupid.

[smartiesparty]

It happened to me too, my mental problems caused me to cut off everybody because I feel too ashamed. I suffer a lot.

[divine1966]

Well I was once complaining to my t how everyone my age is married and I am not. None of my relationships end in marriage. She said I have to abandon that thought because I don't know how horrid many of these marriages are.

I think she is right, it's pointless to think how others live and if they have better lives. One never knows.

Personally my way of coping is being very busy. Last year I was very lonely around holidays and I felt I was falling into depression. I decided to volunteer in a homeless shelter all through holidays. It was like the best holiday celebration for me. I felt rewarded and I was busy. There was no time to be lonely and it put my life into perspective. Otherwise I'd be home sad the whole time

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[goku23]

Originally Posted by Artchic528

All my life, since before I can remember, I've wanted to be a bride. I go to those bridal websites and look at the dresses, pick out my favorite ones, but its all in vain. Just hopeful thinking.....

Who would date me? No one deserves to have to deal with me and my emotional garbage. Love may be blind, but its not completely stupid.

have you tried to join a dating site?
i did this for the first time a month ago, my brother set up a profile for me and told me to give it a go.
i just cancelled it though but did receive a fair few likes, if you haven't tried maybe give it a go?

i couldn't even muster up the courage to send them a message, too many normal people!
maybe there are some sites dedicated for people with mental/anxiety issues?
i haven't looked but surely there should be a few out there.

[goku23]

Originally Posted by divine1966

Well I was once complaining to my t how everyone my age is married and I am not. None of my relationships end in marriage. She said I have to abandon that thought because I don't know how horrid many of these marriages are.

I think she is right, it's pointless to think how others live and if they have better lives. One never knows.

Personally my way of coping is being very busy. Last year I was very lonely around holidays and I felt I was falling into depression. I decided to volunteer in a homeless shelter all through holidays. It was like the best holiday celebration for me. I felt rewarded and I was busy. There was no time to be lonely and it put my life into perspective. Otherwise I'd be home sad the whole time

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i think this is it to be honest, keeping busy and setting goals to achieve.
i've been doing this for 5 years but it's still difficult!
peaks and troughs i guess, there's always months when the loneliness just becomes torture and other months when it's bearable.

[Artchic528]

Originally Posted by goku23

have you tried to join a dating site?
i did this for the first time a month ago, my brother set up a profile for me and told me to give it a go.
i just cancelled it though but did receive a fair few likes, if you haven't tried maybe give it a go?

i couldn't even muster up the courage to send them a message, too many normal people!
maybe there are some sites dedicated for people with mental/anxiety issues?
i haven't looked but surely there should be a few out there.

I have tried about 4-5 different dating sites. Match, Plenty of Fish, OKCupid, eHarmony.....maybe more. I keep striking out. If you have any suggestions ideas or thoughts I am all ears.

[goku23]

Originally Posted by Artchic528

I have tried about 4-5 different dating sites. Match, Plenty of Fish, OKCupid, eHarmony.....maybe more. I keep striking out. If you have any suggestions ideas or thoughts I am all ears.

wish i could help! but i'm in a similar position! i don't know much at all about dating sites and to be honest i wouldn't put much faith in them. i found one for people with anxiety and mental issues after a quick search, called no longer lonely but not a clue if it's any good or not.

striking out on dating sites means absolutely nothing imho so i hope you don't feel down.
there are hundreds of thousands of members on them and many who are just superficial.
i bet you would do a lot better in real world situations.
but this is where i get stuck too because i haven't a clue on how to go about this!

the few times i have tried i just felt completely alienated and it put me off from trying again...for years!

hope it gets better for you and everyone else who's going through the same.

[Artchic528]

Originally Posted by goku23

wish i could help! but i'm in a similar position! i don't know much at all about dating sites and to be honest i wouldn't put much faith in them. i found one for people with anxiety and mental issues after a quick search, called no longer lonely but not a clue if it's any good or not.

striking out on dating sites means absolutely nothing imho so i hope you don't feel down.
there are hundreds of thousands of members on them and many who are just superficial.
i bet you would do a lot better in real world situations.
but this is where i get stuck too because i haven't a clue on how to go about this!

the few times i have tried i just felt completely alienated and it put me off from trying again...for years!

hope it gets better for you and everyone else who's going through the same.

If all else fails for you, come to the US. We American girls go crazy for UK accents. XD

[Needeles]

I did manage to meet someone and even got married, was with her for many years but also had many issues during the time. One of them being the fact I'm so bad/nervous around people. While I may have had her and my son I don't have any family or even friends to speak of outside of them.

Loneliness can be a choice but sometimes it seems to be the only choice. For myself it is very hard to meet new people as most I have met in my past have left so I always have that guard up I guess. My ex and I were kind of forced together in a sense and I think that may be part of the reason we lasted so long, not due to our son however. Had that not been the case I believe I wouldn't have had these years with her nor a son to speak of.

[Mountainbard]

Bipolar disorder has cost me all my friends over the years. Now I live alone except for my wife-- who has depression. My family's all gone or far away. I've been isolating for 2 1/2 years due to depression. I'm starting to come out of it and hope I'll be able to get out in the world again. But yes I am lonely.

[the sad queen]

i have been shy and awkward to try to be friend with anyone since first day i went to school but pretty few tried to be friend with me and were nice then left school
now going to collage and still dont have a real friends at least not in real life all my best friends which are few like 1-5 on net

i wish to find friends in collage but im so shy to start conversation and if i did i speak about weird things, imaginary stuff then get really depressing which usually push people away

so as some said for some of us we can just go out and try to meet people, but we think we dont fit or afraid to start friendship :/

I'm alone. I go to work, I go home. I've never been in a relationship. I have several traits that make it difficult to connect to others. People have befriended me but I can't count on them or when I get depressed I isolate and don't know how to get back in touch. I was never even cool enough to be a misfit and have that shared misery. I'm just lame and uninteresting. There are so many things I have never done and experienced. I don't hit rites of passage at the same time other's do; if I do at all.

My pessimistic definition between introverts and extroverts is introverts prefer to be lonely by themselves and extroverts prefer to be lonely with people around them.

[ArtsieLady]

I'm alone pretty much all the time. Just got out of a long distance relationship.......it was a toxic one, he cheated and didn't care about my mental issues in the end.......I don't really have any friends........just my family. It would be nice to have someone to talk to, but instead I just cry and cry, and feel like a waste of space.