[littleowl2006]

Hello hello,
I feel the need to post a lot lately, because I am feeling a bit overwhelmed. I am having personal and work-related troubles and worries that I am trying to take one at a time, and I know that staying calm is always a good idea. Namaste and all.
BUT then I have these moments (during the day, often at night) when EVERYTHING comes pouring down on me. Everything is too much. Every sound hurts my ears, every quick movement irritates me, every unthoughtful thing a friend says or does hurts like hell. Every problem seems unfixable, my stomach feels like it is tied in knots, I realize how I am holding my breath and my back HURTS like I have been carrying a bag of stones for a week. My head is completely empty and I don't knwo what to say in a conversation anymore.
I have always been sensitive, but right now I feel like it is a heavy burden and I can't seem to find a way to balance my emotions and thoughts anymore. I am currently doubting everything about my life and myself and this is driving me crazy.
I know noone who knows these feelings and feel like a total freak, everyone of my friends is so stable and under control, and absolutely noone seems to be so sensitive. My T says that this can be a good thing, that it makes it possible to live an intense life, but I am actually kinda cursing mother nature for making my skin so thin.
I would so love to find something that eases me and calms me down when I am being crushed by events or thoughts. Inspirations, anyone?

I think we all have a tendancy to 'ruminate' it's just some of us more than others. I would suggest those mentally ill do more often.

Yes, thing tend to weigh me down at night when I having nothing but time to myself and go back over my day but, it also happens when I stand in the shower. Yes, I'm not kidding. It is in the shower that I most feel battered down about all the negativity in my life.

Have you heard about the Highly Sensitive Person?

Comfort Zone Blog ?

Does the description sound familiar?

If so there is a list of survival tips here that you might find helpful:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...ive-person-hsp

I have traits myself and although I'm aware that the flip side is experiencing intensity as your T describes, I also find it difficult to cope in certain scenarios too, I have found down time to be vital in recharging.

[Thunder Bow]

Do not compare yourself to others. All that will do is keep you feeling bad. Those stable under control friends may be hurting much worse than you. They are not showing it , and that will make them feel even worse. It might be best to look into easing your burdens at home and at work.

[littleowl2006]

Oh man, what a relief to read all this. Thank you, dear people!
I will definitely have to get myself some ear protection!!
I always forget that it is okay to take things slow. People sometimes try to push me like " Can't you just quickly do it like that, ten minutes should be enough" and so on, and it takes me a lot of courage to say "No, I can't do it that way".
rcat, I also know "shower thoughts" - what is it about getting clean that makes ones thoughts go wild? Maybe it is the tension that we hold in our bodies that gets released that way, so it feels awful for a while?
I have discovered that lavender oil and tea works wonders

[PianogirlPlays]

I am also struggling with too many difficult things on my mind. I try to remember not to hang around in the shower and get up and watch tv if I can't sleep. Sometimes writing has helped but playing chess on my iPad or painting will distract my mind. Also talking about the problems can help. My husband is part of the problem sometimes but he is also one of the few people I can talk to. I do go to a counselor but the conversation might be good and the rest of the day horrible. Triggers everywhere.

[KQiao]

Originally Posted by prefabsprout

Have you heard about the Highly Sensitive Person?

Comfort Zone Blog ?

Does the description sound familiar?

If so there is a list of survival tips here that you might find helpful:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...ive-person-hsp

I have traits myself and although I'm aware that the flip side is experiencing intensity as your T describes, I also find it difficult to cope in certain scenarios too, I have found down time to be vital in recharging.

Oh wow, this. All of this. I get overwhelmed by everything, and then I feel like everyone gets all annoyed with me all the time. I must research this further.

[littleowl2006]

I get overwhelmed by everything, and then I feel like everyone gets all annoyed with me all the time

Yes! Exactly this! Me too!!