I hate celebrating Holidays and occasions...

Sure, holidays and special occasions are to be celebrated and be excited for. But not the same case for me. I just despise them. I just wish I could go through those days just like any other days, but I can't. I guess so many things that happened in my life, just prevents me from enjoying such occasions. My friends and family take this really negatively and I feel bad. Can anyone relate? Is there anything I could do?

Do what you like doing without any guilt. Holidays can be bad, for many drink, fight, and do things they usually don't do when they are sober. Best to avoid drinking parties and the like.

I can do without holidays myself. I am usually working but if I know I am not going to be, I volunteer somewhere. The holidays is when people need others the most. I have also gone to nursing home type facilities and played games, cards, and helped put puzzles together with the residents. It not only helps me to have something to do and feel good about myself it also helps them in the process.

Also if you call ahead and ask hospitals and nursing homes like to have animals visit the residents. If you have a dog or cat, hamster, rabbit.

Remember doing something for someone else will always make u feel better u just have to get clever in doing so.

There's nothing wrong with not liking holidays, I don't care for any of them either. I just don't understand what they all mean anyways and why and where the term "holiday" came from.

Maybe one day in the future you will be able to enjoy the holidays again. I do understand because I went through abuse on holidays when I was a kid. It took a long time to begin to like the holidays again. I am quite old now but I used to not be able to stand being around family on the holidays. I went as far to schedule surgery for myself on Christmas one year to avoid them. I'm sorry the holidays are so hard for you. I hope you find peace.

i got you. yes, i used to feel the same way for years, this year was not intense, but yes, i am there with you!

Thanks all for the encouraging words and sharing your experience. I feel much better I should really start doing something good for others. I just get caught up with my own misery that I feel overwhelmed to make others happy..

I can't stand them either. People are so fake and all evaluative and stuff. It's like they need an excuse and don't even care really about the origin of the holiday. I told one guy at the convenience store down at the corner that the spiritual holidays are not accurate in terms of historical timing. Like these things were just invented in the past few hundred years. See, he was trying to get me onto his belief system and said now was the perfect time. This is the reason I would rather avoid the darned holidays.

This was my first year telling my family that I was not going to be invovled in any of the holiday events. It was hard at first....they all thought I was being selfish... which I was but it was for my own mental health. The holidays came and went.... I stayed home alone on Christmas and it was the greatest feeling ever! ..... and my family does not hate me sooooooo maybe it will work for you? I did explain why I needed space... that I just do not feel like celebrating...and wanted to stay home. Worked out this year... not sure if it will work again next year but I did tell them I do not celebrate anymore.... so who knows. Very free feeling! I did go to a friends holiday party..... afterwards.... wish I didnt go to that either... lol.

I don't hate the holidays so much as wish they were optional. It's been a so long since I've liked Christmas, I can't really remember a time as an adult when I have. I feel guilty for not getting excited about it, mainly because of my kids, who (obviously) love Christmas, and I'd like to be able to really get into the Christmas spirit.

I'm guessing it's just a sign of what is the norm for my life - I have a hard time getting excited about ANYTHING, and yes, it drives the rest of my family (especially my wife) crazy.

i do hate the holidays, a lot.

especially christmas.

i hate that it's a social time where people are meant to be with the ones that are close to them or even with family, and i don't really have that connection with anyone.. it's really horrible

and don't get me started on the new year- that's the biggist waste of time i know of (actually on second thoughts, birthdays are pretty lame)